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  • SA (SuperA)  :)
    SA (SuperA) :)
    Wow...sorry your daughter has been bullied at school. My grandson was bullied at scchool...although nobody ever took his picture and posted it anywhere.

    It's sad that we as parents/grandparents/guardians of our children need to be worried if our child will be bullied. My grandson finally fought back, was kicked out of school, had a fine to pay, had to change schools, had to go to court. NOTHING happened to the other student. So unfair, as my grandson (who we were raising) avoided this student for months. He finally had it and fought. 

    I hope all works out for the best with your daughter. Bullying does harm a child's self esteem and worth. She's one lucky young lady to have you as a mother.  My best to you both

    January 6 - 1 likes this

  • DaydreambelieverTrumpDisbeliever
    DaydreambelieverTrumpDisbeliever SA (SuperA) :)
    Aww sorry you have had to go through that too..  My daughter was discussing it with one of her longest term online friends who was really sweet and who also said that if he were there he would *crush* them... I  actually said to my daughter that I almost wish she would crush them... But I suppose she has the moral high ground.. she refuses to resort to violence... 

    Poor mite has been horribly damaged by years of this... I still believe though that a positive college experience will be the making of her - she just has to get through the nxt few months and pass her exams. 

    January 6 - 1 likes this

  • Lago
    Lago
    You say that your daughter has been repeatedly bullied in school and that honestly brakes my heart. 
    It is the schools responsibility to provide a safe place for my kid to go to. I make the school fully responsible, not the bully, not the bullys mother, the school. I could not care less about the circumstances that make this kid act like a prick. But if the school can't control him, he shouldn't be there. 
    My boys got bullied twice while going to school. The first time, I went thru all the proper channels, and ended up with the police been called on me wafter I went into the school in a not very friendly mood.
    The second time, I told my other son, step on his foot and punch him in the mouth as hard as you can. 
    That was the end of that one. So go figure.

    January 12

  • DaydreambelieverTrumpDisbeliever
    DaydreambelieverTrumpDisbeliever Lago
    I cannot disagree with you Lago, yes, of course, the school has a responsibility and duty to provide a safe environment for children to learn in..  and no, it never even crossed my mind to blame the bully and even less, the mother of the bully. I firmly believe that the school has a duty and should be capable of instilling a no tolerance ethos when it comes to bullying.. 

    However, the reality here on the ground is that they don't and for my daughter she has been subjected to bullying for the last 4 years there.  It is my belief that there is SO much bullying that they feel they cannot control it..  that's no excuse, just a reflection of how it is..  And of course kids who are most vulnerable, those with learning difficulties and disabilities are always going to be prime targets..

    The only good thing is that if daughter can just hang on in there a little longer, pass her exams and then go to college I KNOW that the college will not only support her well, but will ensure a zero tolerance of bullying.  

    January 12

  • Lago
    Lago DaydreambelieverTrumpDisbeliever
    Sorry, Day, and please forgive my intrusion, but I would never tell my daughter to just tolerate it for a little longer. That's giving the school a free pass, and teaching  her that her experience doesn't count, that all her suffering meant nothing and her tortures got Away with it. 


    January 12

  • DaydreambelieverTrumpDisbeliever
    DaydreambelieverTrumpDisbeliever Lago
    Hi Lago, no problem.. you are welcome to comment as you see fit.. this is an open forum in that respect and if I didn't want anyone to be able to comment I wouldnt have posted anything.. 

    However, technicalities are vital... I didn't suggest I said she should tolerate it.. i never said that.. and wouldnt... i DID say she should hang on in there a bit longer.. just a few months..she has to stay there.. this is because in a few months she will take her GCSE exams.. kinda the equiv of your graduation? She needs to pass these in order to go to college.. at this very late stage she cannot go to another school...  and her future is more important than the bullies.. Having endured day in day out bullying for 4 years - it would be suicide to ruin her future now... 

    I also never said anyone will get away with it.. my daughter, (who as you say rightly is a person deserving of respect re her experiences) tells me she WILL NOT retaliate physically.. now that's her choice.. personally I'd smack them in the mouth.. but I am an adult and she isn't so as i say not everyone who has suffered persisitent bullying feels confident in that way... 

    Soooo we went the official route.. I complained to the school as I ALWAYS do... and I said that if I ever see any picture of my daughter posted I would prosecute the school.. this would NOT be good for their reputation.. and I guess that made them act.. they have excluded the girl.. (a real punishment as I said exams are looming so every lesson counts) and they have taken the phones away of the rest of the group who were there laughing...   

    There's a long history, 4 years now of kids being excluded, sent to other school, detentions etc.. its just that the scale of bullyin in that school is such that it seems almost impossible to stop it entirely

    SO i never said I tolerate anything and one of the reasons daughter gets bullies is cos she WILL retaliate.. she tells them off.. they don't like it.. so they bully. but you've seen my posts lol I am no pushoever and I can promise you daughter isn't.. she stands up for her rights.. she just chooses not to retaliate with physical violence... and in that its my place to respect her decisions on that... 

    January 12