Not the best day for me today.. still unwell, tho getting better... took me all day to get the christmas decs down... I'd anticipated a couple of hours, a few more to do the other chores and maybe a rest and a film to reward myself - didn't work out that way.. not sure if I am still a little weak and tired or maybe I really do have too many decorations :P In truth it was that I was slow and tired.. but never mind..
I had no time for lunch or a rest... then got a phone call to go collect daughter from school.. she was upset... rightly so. A kid in her tutor group who's been a problem for a long while, bullying, harassing and generally being a pain took a pic of my daughter and posted it on snapchat or instagram with some derogatory comment.. Daughter was rightly upset.. partly because she thought they did this before and I spoke to her tutor, (who's a computer science teacher) about it and said that it's NOT on for students to behave this way - posting pics of others to harass and bully them ... TUtor supposedly spoke to them and told them not to do it...
Tutor wasn't there today.. not sure if that's why.. but the girl took a pic of my daughter, then with her friends began posting it along with comments.. daughter saw this... and had a friend witness it.. Said friend then denied she saw it, which is another issue but it is just mystifying why kids have to be so mean!
You would think it shouldn't be that one's own tutor group would behave this way.. they are year 11, not babies, they shouldn't be so infantile and mean... It's sad for us cos daughter has been badly bullied, and very damaged, by constant bullying at this school.. I just really hoped that her final few months there could be as easy as possible - especially as she's coming up to really important exam time... I don't need her upset like this :(
Fortunately, and unfathomably, the girl has admitted posting a pic of my daughter.. I can't imagine why she has confessed... maybe she didn't know that my daughter's friend wimped out and said she didn't see it. I guess this means they can now deal wth it.. but I'm still very put out. it's serious to post pics like this and make nasty derogatory comments for all to ridicule.. what planet are they on doing it when they were supposedly *warned* last time not to do it... what if thy don't do something about it? Leaving it to the school how can I be sure they will punish the girl for what she did?
Daughter doesn't want to go to school Monday.. well she WILL go... she has to... it's too important at this stage.. but I do feel for her.. she's had this utter cr*p to deal with throughout her time there.. and thing is.. it just SHOULDN'T happen.. it's NOT ok, it's NOT acceptable... its NOT civilised! Its not how people should treat others...
It's morally, ethically wrong!! See daughter has *special needs* and yea that can make her stand out sometimes.. she looks normal but... they pick on her because she has a reduced ability to deal with it... that's how bullying works.. Bullies ALWAYS pick on someone they think/know is less able to deal with it.. if they picked on someone who wasn't in some way vulnerable they'd get a smack in the mouth for their troubles.. but that's not how bullies work.. they only pick on those who are in some way vulnerable.. and the thing is.. bullying in itself, especially over several years, can, in itself, reduce even further, a persons self-esteem and therefore their resilience and ability to cope with bullying...
AND this brings me back to one of my bug bears.. free speech.. as I've banged on several times we do have free speech here.. but I STILL do not believe that anyone has the right to use hate speech, derogatory or racist language.. My point I suppose is again that it's always someone who has less ability to retaliate, someone who is more vulnerable.. people don't pick on equals - only those they perceive as weaker/vulnerable and the mere act of being the victim of racist/ hate/derogatory/bullying language makes one feel more vulnerable and more to the point -the right to freedom of speech when used to hurt someone else lessens their rights.. their right to live free from fear and humiliation..
Anyway... let's hope they do punish the girl.. and let's hope that they do make sure the bullies in my daughter's tutor group lay off for the next few months.. and that she doesn't allow these constant harassment in the form of free speech bullying to distract her from her important exams... in 5 or so months she will be outta there.. and if all goes well she get to go to college.. a college where i know they do NOT tolerate bullying.. As you can see I am very anti bullying.. it may be only/mostly words.. but it's evil and it does real harm!!