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What are your thoughts about 'arranged marriage'?

Posted - February 23, 2017

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  • I don't even believe in un-arranged marriages .... So I'm not down with the arranged ones :p
      February 23, 2017 7:23 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Oh Jamie but why? Marriage is beautiful..don't you think so?
      February 23, 2017 7:28 PM MST
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  • I was married once , and yes was beautiful :). I just won't again for personal reasons .... Cos I said so :)
      February 23, 2017 7:30 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Oh oh....I thought you are a teen....your language is so impish....umm no offense....I luv it I swear I do;))
      February 23, 2017 7:34 PM MST
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  • Lol :) people always think I'm a teen -_- I'm in my 30s .... So I'm young at heart or immature :p 
      February 23, 2017 7:37 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Wow......yes.....you really don't sound so mature....but as I said I like this Jamie;))
      February 23, 2017 7:40 PM MST
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  • Lol :) Well as long as you like this :p
      February 23, 2017 7:41 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Oh....like....no ...love to be precise....your language is so appealing;))
      February 23, 2017 8:12 PM MST
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  • True :) I'm very appealing ... As are the clouds in my coffee :p 
      February 23, 2017 8:16 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Clouds ....nah more like cream....in coffee;))
      February 23, 2017 8:20 PM MST
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  • Oh :) 
      February 23, 2017 8:25 PM MST
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  • 7683
    LOL;))
      February 23, 2017 8:28 PM MST
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  • :)
      February 23, 2017 8:30 PM MST
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  • In their traditional cultures I think they can work because the couple believe in them and that a wise decision has been made on their behalf ... That's my view from the outside and I don't know how accurate it is ... It would be interesting to compare longevity and happiness between them and normal marriages
      February 23, 2017 7:27 PM MST
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  • 7683
    But D...maariages aren't arranged on their behalf, the couple's willingness is first taken into consideration, the families    of both groom and bride try to help...so isn't arranged marriage a normal marriage...tell me?
      February 23, 2017 7:32 PM MST
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  • For some cultures yes, an arranged marriage would be a normal marriage ... But that's different to a western cultures idea of normal
      February 23, 2017 7:35 PM MST
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  • And as someone once said... Marriage is a wonderful institution ... But who wants to live in an institution :)
      February 23, 2017 7:36 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Umm maybe there was no dating, no kissing no premarital sex but rest all are the same as is in an  unarranged marriage....
      February 23, 2017 7:38 PM MST
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  • And if that is what you are used to then I see no problem .... In most cases ... unless you are already in love with someone else
      February 23, 2017 7:41 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Yes,being an Indian, like most Indian marriages, mine was arranged, I hadn't dated, kissed or had sex before marriage, uptill now both me and my hubby have had only each other. Our families saw whether financially, educationally, economically we were suited for each other, and you may laugh but our horoscopes also had to tally....it  sounds very unromantic I'm afraid but love can blossom after marriage too....;)) This post was edited by Veena.K at February 23, 2017 7:46 PM MST
      February 23, 2017 7:46 PM MST
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  • As I said above I think if that is what you are used to then there is a good chance it will work because you believe it will work so you make it come true ... And right now I don't think western marriage should be upheld as a shiny example lol ... Not with the divorce rate
      February 23, 2017 7:49 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Agree D....neither am I upholding arranged marriage;))
    Actually, in our place, people envy westerners because they have the freedom to date and experiment, a western women has so much independence.....and the society accepts more than one marriage... too....step mother, step father, step brothers sisters....thait's awesome....like you said there are pros and cons in both;)) This post was edited by Veena.K at February 23, 2017 7:55 PM MST
      February 23, 2017 7:54 PM MST
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  • I think they should be on a contract basis maybe... It goes up for renewal every X number of years ... I have doubts about one person being able to satisfy all your needs for thirty, forty or fifty! years ..
      February 23, 2017 7:57 PM MST
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  • 7683
    Oh dear, what a novel idea like Hobbes Social Contract;))))
      February 23, 2017 8:00 PM MST
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