I am male. My mother cut my hair and my brother's hair when we were kids.
I always went to a barbershop except for the one time that my mother decided to cut butcher it. I was in those rebellious teenage years and for some unknown reason or reasons, I wouldn’t comb my hair. It truly looked like an afro rat’s nest, or rat’s nest afro. Nothing she said or did compelled me from my apathy and laziness about combing it. One day right before I was supposed to leave for school, her frustration boiled over and reached super nova stage. She grabbed either a pair of scissors or clippers, I can’t remember which, and went weed-eater on my head. I saw the results in the mirror and I was horrified. I knew I couldn’t face the judging, laughing reactions of other teenagers, I think I threatened not to go to school. She wasn’t having it. My decomposing cadaver would have been found in a shallow grave on the outskirts of town.
Dejected, I went to school, an extremely large Apple Hat* pulled down low to my ears covering the atrocity. Of course, I knew that in the dress code at the high school, it was strictly forbidden to wear hats. My shame and humiliation causes me to try it anyway. I didn’t get past the first door before a faculty member admonished me, the hat came off and the hilarity began immediately. Finger-pointing and jeers followed me all through the halls to the classroom, where being in a contained space the tomfoolery got even worse. I’m not talking about good-natured ribbing, nay, these were stinging insults that cut to the core. I had zero response or rebuttal, I just took it, completely demoralized.
It took almost two weeks for my hair to grow to a resemblance to anything acceptable, but daily I combed it to perfection. My mother’s lesson for me was well-learned. From that day forward, I have always been cautious about every aspect of my appearance, a 180-degree turn from the attitude I had had before the deforestation.
Thank you, Mama.
*The Apple Hat is the blue one at the bottom left corner of the picture.
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