I saw this young lady driving in my neighborhood. She slammed her fist on the steering wheel and she was crying. I was on my motorcycle and whipped over to her window and she asked me for directions. I pointed out the way to the college she was trying to find. ( the signs are confusing around here)
I'm sure there is logic in what you've just written above Ele but frankly it is over my head. What you just said makes no sense to me but it must make sense to thee or you would not defend it. SIGH. Thank you for your reply.
A few years ago we saw a lady in a wheelchair wheel over to her car, get up and was having some difficulty collapsing the chair so she could put it in the car. We offered to help and she brushed us off saying she didn't need any help! Not even a "thank you but I can manage it". Just brusque/terse/seemingly annoyed. Go figger. Thank you for your reply NJ and Happy Monday. Folks usually appreciate an unsought helping hand. This lady was clearly not appreciative. Guess she was just having a very bad day! :(
Some times offered help stinks Rosie......(and expression often used by one of my grand fathers ) maybe it's their way of dealing with their disability and they are just angry at themselves through frustration because everything for them is just so much harder and being angry gives them more strength and determination to do things for them selves.....
I have never been in her shoes NJ so I can't really speak to why she reacted as she did. But even if offered help is unneeded/unwanted it seems to me one ought to be able to manage being polite because the intention is worthy. Different strokes! I can't remember a time when help was offered to me that it offended me. I can only go by me since I've never been anyone else! Thank you for your reply m'dearie dear! :)
NJ..different subject. I somehow inadvertently deleted your reply to my question about the benefits/downside of being wealthy. Apologies. What did you say if you don't mind repeating it?
I came across an older lady lying on the snow-covered ground. I couldn't lift her up so she told me to get her husband in the nearby house. He musta been really strong because he lifted her easily.
I will try to help someone who looks to be having trouble with something. I do it because I would want someone to do it for me. It only takes a few extra minutes to do a good deed.
I've seen several experiments and news reports confirming that the more people there are to perceive a need for assistance or action, the less likely assistance tends to become since they usually expect another person to step in. Since then I vowed always to take the initiative in helping others, provided I make sure I'm not inadvertently getting in someone's way (a person's will to aid can also create more troubles).
Whether it's a stranger carrying heavy boxes across the town square, a middle-aged woman with heavy luggage slugging it across the uneven streets, two young people having their grocery bags rip in the middle of the avenue, a student who can't get his kitten (literally speaking) to return from a closed parking lot, or a delivery man who would appreciate someone holding open the door for a second, there's often something anyone can do, even if it's just a show of good intent. And it's always easy to both notice and help those confused by the city's layout.
B.H.Wilson 