Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» How much of how you perceive yourself is based on the opinions of others? Do you NEED them to think you're wonderful? Why?
I wanted my parents to be proud of me Ele. I remember not being able to go to sleep at night if I had disappointed them. That was very important to me. As for others? I just wanted them to accept me. I was not a typical kid. I was (as I have said before) very shy. I also was a very good student and skipped some grades in grammar school which made me a couple of years younger than the other students. So I stuck out like a sore thumb on two counts. Being popular or having the kids think I was wonderful was never on my radar. I just wished they didn't think I was so weird. I loved school. After 2 weeks of summer vacation I'd count the days until school would start again. I mean what normal kid does that? I am a perennial student and am insufferably curious about everything all the time. I have been that way since I can remember. It is very off-putting to many folks. Not the kind of person most people are drawn to. I mean who wants to be questioned/grilled 24/7 about everything? But now? It really doesn't matter. I mean my preference would be the same as my wish when I was a kid. Being accepted with all my warts. Being liked would be very nice too but you can't program how people feel about you or what they think about you. If I have to choose between being honest and being popular you know there is no choice . "I've gotta be me". There is a song with that title. Whatever hits I have to take for being me is fine with me. Some stuff always comes with the territory we carve out for ourselves. I accept mine. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday! :)
This post was edited by RosieG at April 9, 2018 10:57 AM MDT
Oh. Gosh. I did not know. Well m'dear you turned out very well as far as I'm concerned. I think it's important to have confidence in whom you are. If you don't have confidence in you why should anyone else? Thank you for your reply. My sis and I had both parents. We were somewhat closer to our dad because he was less judgmental. He always focused on the garden. Our mom had a tendency to focus in on the weeds. Some folks are just wired like that. Thank you for your reply! :)
I'm more a handful then wonderful Rosie....I know it's true as I use to hear my mum tell her friends that all the time....Apparently I use to stroll about my parents home as if I use to own the place.....Still do really....I must have taught them well...lol
I didn't have an easy time of it growing up. Sadly, I was very vulnerable to the opinions of others.
But I have come a long way. I now see it as a compliment when certain people don't like me. I know exactly what my own values are, so I'm pretty confident these days.
Good for you. I think many of us start out with the approval of others being important and as we become more content in our own skin, it doesn't matter nearly as much.
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