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Have you ever chosen something else instead of/over love? Have you chosen to do without love in order to get/secure something else?

Say something like, comfort, safety, security, your family's happiness, money? Or anything else? 

Posted - May 29, 2018

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  • 22891
    no, ive just never been lucky enough to find someone to fall in love with
      May 29, 2018 2:34 PM MDT
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  • 1713
    There was a guy in one of the clubs I was in during college who liked me and asked me out a couple times. I turned him down because, although he was a good friend, I was just too into my work to be distracted by such a relationship. I kinda wish I gave him a chance because I didn't realize how rare my men apparently are and I fear I may end up a lonely old spinster.
      May 29, 2018 2:50 PM MDT
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  • 6477
    Aww that's a shame, I think life is full of what if's and if only's - you were at least aware, which is more than most.  I can definitely identify with that as I am concentrating these days on my course/study and work (love the job but work with really unpleasant people)
      May 29, 2018 3:19 PM MDT
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  • 2465
    I chose my dogs when a man gave me the ultimatum, “It’s either him or my dogs. 
      May 29, 2018 4:44 PM MDT
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  • 6477
    I'd make the same choice, anyone who tried to separate me from my pets would not be a person who really loved and cared about me. They'd be incompatible too...as they'd be a non-animal lover.
      May 30, 2018 2:16 AM MDT
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  • 2465
    I totally agree. That’s why it’s my dogs cuddling me when I shut off the lights.  :)
      May 30, 2018 3:55 PM MDT
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  • 44175
    Yes...financial security for my wife.
      May 29, 2018 5:45 PM MDT
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  • 6477
    Many of us make sacrifices for others. 
      May 30, 2018 2:14 AM MDT
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  • 10449
    No.  I was never fortunate to find love.  Therefore I do without love (involuntarily) because it isn't there.
      May 29, 2018 5:53 PM MDT
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  • 6477
    It is indeed very hard to find.. 
      May 30, 2018 2:13 AM MDT
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  • 3523
    Never, nothing is more important than love.
      May 29, 2018 10:17 PM MDT
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  • 2465
    No amount of love is worth your unhappiness, if it’s the kind of unhappy that can’t be fixed. I think love is a mixture of many ingredients including, but not limited to, trust, respect, communication and compassion. Without these, and the unwillingness of both parties to change, love won’t be nearly enough to sustain a healthy and satisfying relationship. So, I have to disagree, love alone is not enough and isn’t the most important thing. 
      July 1, 2018 3:39 AM MDT
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