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Long after a relationship ends, and once any hurt is healed, do you remember fondly the good bits, or do you remember the bad?

Posted - May 12, 2019

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  • 14795
    I can't answer your question.....I've only had one partner and we've been together ever since I was 17.....I would be devastated if we ever parted or cheated on each other....There has never been and bad times to remember apart from someone working far to long...:( 
      May 12, 2019 1:43 AM MDT
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  • 6477
    Aww well that's lovely.. and I hope you never ever are in the position of finding out. The very best thing is when we find someone to love forever 
      May 12, 2019 2:27 AM MDT
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  • 14795
    All so true I think....All my brothers and sisters have our parents traits....lol
      May 12, 2019 4:47 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    I just don't know if "forever" exists.  Except in our minds.  Especially when we are young.  Only God is forever.  We bring our own expectations into relationships with us that come from many places.  And when they are not met the easiest thing to do is blame the other person. 
      May 12, 2019 5:09 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    Thank you for a very good question.  Definitely the good.  So wonderful that we can get together with another person and share lives which just in doing so greatly enhances our own life.  Funny but as the years pass former relationships become more about what we did together than about a particular person.  If I try I can remember what I liked about them but that was me THEN so seems very much at a distance.  
      May 12, 2019 5:03 AM MDT
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  • 9778
    Well said.
      May 12, 2019 10:14 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    Thank you dear - that means a lot to me coming from you.
      May 12, 2019 7:17 PM MDT
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  • 19942
    Mostly the good times.  
      May 12, 2019 7:39 AM MDT
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  • 52905

      Some previous relationships bring up more positive memories than do others, it's difficult to generalize by saying one way of recalling them fits across the board.   Each and every situation is different.



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      May 12, 2019 10:01 AM MDT
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  • 9778
    In general, I don't live in the past.  Occasionally something might trigger a memory, but I don't dwell on them. 
      May 12, 2019 10:13 AM MDT
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  • Mostly the good, fondly, and maybe some of the bad, but as time passes, the bad feelings are replaced with indifference.
      May 12, 2019 12:56 PM MDT
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  • 7919
    Depends on the relationship. With most, I recall the good or am indifferent. There's one where I only remember the bad and often struggle to remember if there ever was any good. I know there must have been, but those memories faded. 
      May 12, 2019 1:57 PM MDT
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  • 22891
    no, i just rernernber the fact that guys dont even want a relationship with rne
      May 12, 2019 3:29 PM MDT
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  • 5808
    Depends... 
    Mostly the good
    but sometimes,
    the bad was all there was,
    not that there was that many...
    Mostly could count on a few fingers.
      May 12, 2019 8:16 PM MDT
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