Continue relationship with cousin who does not seem interested?

It's like Harry said.  It's a selfish time.  The degree varies for everyone but it's most likely they don't realize what it means to you. It also could just be that awkward phase.  Looking back on my years I was very stand-offish and didn't show much concern for older family members but I cared and though about them all the same. Just felt awkward about expressing myself to them at the time. Having adult thoughts but still feeling like a kid that cannot express those thoughts. It can be hard to decipher what's appropriate to talk about. That can cause one to withdraw a little and feel a tad uncomfortable.  People still see you as that little boy of girl and you know it, but you're dealing with peer pressure and adult thoughts. It kinda messes with your head.

Piggybacking on what Glis just said, I think younger people just expect the adults to be there and maintain contact.  Younger people don't think about reciprocity, especially if they haven't been taught that or it's never been expected of them before.  It's an unconscious thought: You are there, you will always be there.  They are focused on today and the people in front of them. 

Baybreeze, you need to stop yourself from feeling judged by their parents, or anybody in your life.  You can't control what other people do, say, or how they act toward you, but you can control your own responses, feelings, and actions.  You are allowing others to control your emotions.  Why?  If their parents say something to you which makes you feel guilty then you need to tell them "relationships are a two way street" and leave it at that.  If they pressure you for more tell them what you are telling us.  That you are tired of always initiating contact and not receiving responses or reciprocity.  There is only so much a person can do before they start believing their contact isn't appreciated or wanted.  If their parents keep giving you a hard time, tell them that it isn't your job to teach them manners, it was theirs.  

Bravo!
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Thank you Randy.

I'm sorry you too have felt slighted or ignored by family members :( Thank you SO much for saying something I've felt, but wasn't able to stand FIRM upon; to NOT take it on if a member is not putting in effort too. I want to visit them in a way, but in another way, I feel it is like this dead end.... only 'I' am making any effort to continue to talk/hang out. I mean do I just keep doing that?? Many including you say no. They are adults now too and can also contact me. On the FB note, I had the EXACT thing happen a few months ago.. an aunt of mine never returned my heartfelt message to her, wondering how she was doing after surgery. I was really sad and bummed b/c she wrote and posted everyday to others. :/  I felt very much ignored. She once said, call, don't text... but it felt like a demand. I don't like the phone, and I showed concern for her on FB and perhaps that is why she ignored me? not sure... but, it felt like a big sting. When I've been ONLY kind to her. You are right, others do care and will care, w e just have to find them :) *hugggg to you and thank you Pea

I'm actually downplaying what really happened with a sibling and FB.  She used a public post on FB to blast me with every hurt from the past, including the deaths of our parents.  She is an alcoholic and no longer cares what she says or writes.  I knew she was acting "different" since our mother's death last year, but had NO idea she was rewriting our entire history in her mind.  

Family can be very hurtful and even subtle messages on FB can pull us down.  

I am really taking stock of who matters in my life and what I want to expose myself to again.  

I just know that if someone is giving us a bad vibe, it's probably not your imagination.  I often argue with my own gut feelings since I know I have always been sensitive.  But the good people in life have never made me question for a minute their heart, even on social media.

Well said SA, and I agree.