Afraid if you do not do what you are told to do by the men in your life they will make you pay for it one way or the other. Therefore thus to whit that is all you know. That's why the don is so comforting to you. He orders you to do stuff think stuff support stuff OR ELSE. Isn't it always that OR ELSE that hooks you? Ever challenge a man like that? Do you go into hiding afterwards or did he cave like a wuss?