OK. Let's go through this very slowly.
When you force "fair" anywhere something sticks out that isn't elsewhere otherwise FAIR.
When you "do fair" on an issue you are also doing "unfair" for the other side.
Is there anything anywhere at any time where both sides of an issue got what it wanted?
Isn't "fair" for one side going to be concomitantly UNFAIR for the other side?
See the problem now? Or still confused?
Whatever occurs will be at the expense of something or someone somewhere. Win/lose is always the same. What issue is there in which all that are affected by it agree and so whatever the solution everyone WINS?
