Only my "what's in it for me" has to do with intellectually. What do I get by spending time with others? What is the benefit TO ME investing my time with them? At the end of the conversation am I better off for having it or worse did I just waste time? Am I angry or frustrated or insulted?
WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME?.
Do you do that too? Do you evaluate what you could gain and what you could lose when you choose where and when and with whom to invest your time? Hopefully the folks with whom I chat regularly find something in it for them. I hope there is some sort of reciprocity. Not equal or the same but some exchange of value to make it worthwhile.
