"YOU HAVE TO ENGAGE WITH PEOPLE WHERE THEY ARE." So when they "live" in the mud and sludge and scum you're gonna get real dirty. DO YOU?

You'd RATHER engage with them where you WISH THEY WERE. But they will never get there because they don't care to be anywhere but where they are.

So do you just ignore or do you engage no matter what the cost to you will be? Why?