If you could make one request of your employer, without fear of retaliation, that would make your job more productive, what would it be?

Ha ha.  Neelie, you should say yes.  Then make it so he never asks again.     Be the date from hell.  Pretend you have the flu or a cold and keep sneezing all night.  For starters.  Don't wear deodorant.  Wear the worst outfit you can think of.  And make sure your hair looks ridiculous.  Cry a lot and talk about your mom or something.  Oh and make sure you eat a ton of raw garlic.  This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at November 11, 2016 9:20 AM MST

You are funny, Sharonna. Thank you.

It sounds good, but I know he would probably get you fired. 

I'm much more senior to him in age as well as in position in the office. But the family connection is the major hindrance. 

Of COURSE, Neelie, I got that.  As in  YOU cannot win.  I wonder.  If you have seniority, are you close with ANY of his family?  Maybe you could speak to them about this guy and how he is alienating half the staff?

I know you need to tread carefully.  I just hate people misusing their authority this way and making it miserable to go to work. 

HUH, it's the OTHER way around. She could get HIM fired for sexual harassment. 

I love the garlic thingy.

That's terrible!!!  You might even have a lawsuit on your hands. Just sayin'.

She could sue and at least embarrass him, but she will not have a job she wants to return to.  I promise.  They may not be able to fire her outright, but they can make it so she cannot stand to show up any longer. 

And she needs proof.  And she needs witnesses.  And it is just not worth it, unless everyone decides to take a stand.  And asking for a date is not really something a judge is going to rule against.  It is too "mild".   It would need to be proven that he was harassing her and stalking her.  A date is slightly crossing the line but  unless the whole office (and we know how cowardly groups are that do not want to get involved) stood behind her.

Fat chance.  If that were normal, we would not be talking about this new President nobody wanted but did nothing about stopping. This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at November 11, 2016 10:24 AM MST

I know how the law and courts work.  That's why I said a possible case.

Exactly GLIS.  They don't.  They just don't work.  Not to anyone who is innocent's automatic advantage.  That just never seems to happen. 

It's not that bleak Sharonna.  

"Not to anyone who is innocent's automatic advantage. "

Explain please?

Suing is out of the question. I love my work, my chairman, and my colleagues too much. It's just this one guy who badly needs a woman. Otherwise as a person he's quite okay. Good in his work. 

Tell him to try a hooker and leave you alone...lol

I think he suspects people think he's gay,  and wants to give them a different impression. He hits on me because in our past conversations he found me "very understanding". But now he's taking it to ridiculous lengths. 

Ohhhh, yeah.  That old chestnut of a situation. 

Do you see what being social and nice to people does Neelie? 

Have your S/O kick his ass.