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Did your parents like your friends better than they liked you? Do you like your kids' friends better than you like them? Impossible, right?

Do you like foreigners more than you like your own countrymen/countrywomen? Do you think it's strange or normal to feel more empathy/loyalty to outsiders than you do to them?  What kind of parents prefer others' kids to their own? What kind of citizens prefer strangers to their own fellow citizens? Something about normalcy and loyalty and love is missing there. Normally we prefer"us" to "them" though hopefully we like "them" and engage well with "them". Abnormally preferring "them" to "us" could be considered treasonous/traitorous. Of course as with all things IT DEPENDS. Right?

Posted - February 28, 2017
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  • Did you know my father?  Growing up mealtime was the worst part of the day.  Every meal my father would fly into a rage, BASH the table so glasses would rattle and silverware jump, the snarl like a feral animal at his kids.  If we were having steak, which we did often, he'd BASH the table then grab the steak knife in one hand, a fork in the other hunch down snarling and breathing shallowly.  However, when a friend was eating with us he'd either sit and stew in angry silence or become light and jovial.  Next evening, the friend had gone home and demon dad was back. 
      February 28, 2017 9:07 AM MST
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    Yes, it was not uncommon to hear comments from our parents that we ought to be more like this one or that one.  They not only compared us to each other, but to others outside our family.


    This post was edited by PeaPod is just popping by at March 1, 2017 6:30 PM MST
      February 28, 2017 10:11 AM MST
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