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At what point in a relationship is it "safe" for a new couple to start planning trips together?

Should you get the first one out of the way fast, as a test to see if the relationship will survive?
Should you wait longer to make sure you're strong enough to survive the stresses of travel together?
What's the sweet spot?

Posted - May 1, 2017
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  • 3191
    I suppose I am different than many, but to me the only "right" time for something is when it feels right.  It's not "x" amount of time or after you've done this or that or whatever.  The "sweet spot" just is.  It isn't really special quantifiably, it is simply the point where you become comfortable with each other.  Comfortable enough to not be embarrassed if you toss your cookies in front of them (bonus points if they hold your hair and super-duper bonus points if they wipe your brow with a cool cloth), comfortable enough to say "I don't want to (whatever), or I want (whatever) and to know that really matters, comfortable enough to just be yourself.  And, of course, vice versa.  I have felt the "sweet spot" within moments with some...and never felt it even after years with others...it usually happens at some point in between moments and years, but it is the defining moment for me.  JMHO
      May 2, 2017 12:20 AM MDT
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  • 1128
    Great reply Boz
      May 2, 2017 7:10 AM MDT
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  • 3191
    Thanks, SA.
      May 2, 2017 5:43 PM MDT
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  • I acquiesce to the Queen of common sense
      May 2, 2017 7:18 AM MDT
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  • 3191
    Thank you.  I was just about to change my name to "Ice Queen", though...lost that thread and cannot find it now...lol
      May 2, 2017 5:44 PM MDT
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  • 3191
    Thanks, WW.  That means a lot coming from someone as beautifully expressive as yourself.
      May 2, 2017 5:46 PM MDT
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  • 7939
    The "sweet spot" just is.

    That is beautiful.
    The part about cookie tossing is extra beautiful. :)
    Thank you.
      May 2, 2017 7:58 PM MDT
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  • 3191
    Thank you, and you're welcome.  The cookie tossing and bonus and super-duper bonus points were from a personal experience very early on in a relationship...an awkward situation made beautiful by a very special man.  :)
      May 3, 2017 2:49 AM MDT
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  • 745
    I feel like that's the most perfect answer I've ever read here on AM. 
    loved reading throught it, very true and great wording. :)
      May 3, 2017 3:57 AM MDT
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  • 3191
    Thank you very much.  :) This post was edited by Bozette at May 3, 2017 4:12 AM MDT
      May 3, 2017 4:03 AM MDT
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  • 3463
    I wouldn't plan a trip with anyone I wasn't comfortable with.
    If you are not comfortable with them now, a trip won't change that.
    If you go anyway, just don't get to far from home.
      May 2, 2017 9:42 AM MDT
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  • I say split a strip of paper ASAP.  
      May 2, 2017 1:00 PM MDT
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  • About two weeks back, did you miss it? Sorry, you'll need to wait until next year.
      May 2, 2017 8:15 PM MDT
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  • 1326
    Since I believe in the sanctity of marriage, that would be once the couple is married and have God's blessing. I realize, most will disagree because the world's standards of morality have changed, but God's standards are the same since the beginning of mankind and will never change. (Genesis 2:24) This post was edited by Autumnleaves at June 29, 2017 12:37 AM MDT
      June 29, 2017 12:29 AM MDT
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