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RosieG

How important is it to you to have the person who asks the question repond to your reply? Isn't chatting with others who answer it enough?

I've often seen questions I've asked turn in to very long threads of people chatting with one another. I'm not necessary. I get the ball rolling by asking the question and it then takes off on its own or it just lies there dormant because it didn't appeal to anyone. You enjoy driving a car. You don't need to chat with the person who designed it. You enjoy a meal at  a restaurant. On rare occasion a chef will come out and chat but it's rare. You still enjoyed eating the meal didn't you? It's a serious question. I'd like to know.

Posted - December 30, 2017
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  • 7280
    I think a "like" is an appropriate acknowledgement if I have put some time or effort into the answer.  On the other hand, "That's bullsh*t" could also be appropriate at times.  Generally, when I post an answer or comment, I simply "put it out there" to be either used or discarded.

    And sometimes my answers are sarcastic---in which case I don't care one way or the other about getting a response.

    Sometimes, like with you, a response either gives additional information of which I was unaware; or I become aware of a misinterpretation of what I said---and that type of response is valuable to both me and the one who asks the question.

    I very, very seldom ask a question on these sites; but when I do, I always like to acknowledge the contributor.


      
      December 30, 2017 1:18 PM MST
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  • 113301
    I rarely ever acknowledge RUDE or INSULTING. But alas alack I ask so many questions that I am unable to keep up with acknowledging all respondents.  Same was true on Answerbag.  I used to feel guilty and he** about it but then I noticed I'm really not needed. If a question appeals to folks they will answer it and then very often conversations among them take place. I always liked that a lot. In fact sometimes I'd just get on later and thank the participants for such a lively exchange. I get further behind each day but I try to touch base at least with those who are dependably civil and contribute. I have come to look at it like this. You read the newspaper and chat about what you read with others sometimes. You read a novel and may bring it up with others and perhaps chat about salient points. How many likes do I get for asking questions? They are very rare and the same was true at Answerbag. At first it used to hurt my feelings. It was like dining at someone's home and never even saying thank you. That was years ago. I get what I want. I ask the questions that occur to me. Having folks answer them is icing on the cake providing the replies are civil. If someone makes a question I ask about me I have no interest in acknowledging it. If someone replies but goes off on a rant/tangent and doesn't answer the answer the question I rarely acknowledge it and if I do I always say "you didn't answer the question I asked". Asking is what drives me. Otherwise the questions drive me bonkers. Getting thoughtful informative comprehensive answers delights me but I don't expect them. The questions I ask are entirely up to me. What folks say is entirely up to them. Based on those answers we either chat about them or not. Sorry I beat that dead horse! Thank you for your reply tom and I guess I'm gonna ask a question about it. :)
      December 31, 2017 2:52 AM MST
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  • 7280
    With as many questions as you ask; if I were you, I would not feel obliged to respond to every question---nor would I think you should.

    I think your "newspaper" anaology is a good one.
      December 31, 2017 4:51 PM MST
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  • 113301
    ((hugs)) That is so very kind of you to say tom. I appreciate it a lot. Thank you for your reply! :)
      January 1, 2018 4:07 AM MST
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