One thing leads to another. One word leads to another. And you end up where you are because of the nature of those choices. Don't you?

If your intention is to put people down where you land will be in a very different place than if your intention is to build them up, help them out, be a friend. You can almost always choose which path you will take and if your choices are/were wise you are in a very good place right now.Were they?  Are you?