Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» There is no shame in saying "I'm sorry but I don't understand. Could you please explain". Some folks think there is and never do admit. Why?
Actually a great question Rosie. I think we all interpret things through our own lens, possibly missing the whole point of someone's statement. I think it's very wise and mature to ask someone what they mean by what they said. It would be a better world if we all did it.
Thank you for the "atta girl" PeaPod. Sometimes I THINK I understand something but discover later I got it all wrong. I'm fine with that. Some things are just over my head and I don't get then. I want to always respond to what someone actually says...not what I think he/she said. I mean if you don't understand and come down hard on someone you end up looking like and being a dam* fool. I'd rather ask and be sure about what we're talking about and it's never bothered me one bit to admit I am ignorant about lotsa things. :)
That is something I always respected in anyone; having the ability to admit a weakness or a fault. I never trust anyone that sees problems with everyone but themselves. Happy Monday Rosie!
There are a lot of predatory people around who are insecure and stupid and looking for a sign of weakness. When they hear someone admit they don't know something, they spin a yarn about this.
So, I do understand people not wanting to open up. It's a jungle out there. I, personally, try and find out as much information as possible about anything so I just come out with it when I don't know something.
Unless it is something I am expected to know and can lose my job over not knowing. Then, I find out in private what I need to know.
Your words take me back decades Sharon. I had a good friend (co-worker) named Dorothy. She was the Administrative Assistant to the President of the company for which I worked. His right-hand "man" so to speak. One day she asked me why I open myself up so much all the time? Why I am never afraid to say what I think and to admit what I don't know or what I'm unsure about. She said that makes me very vulnerable to rotten folks who will use that information against me. I told her then what I tell you. That doesn't bother me at all because it reflects poorly on them not on me. Now if I were in some sensitive job where I had to keep my trap shut I would. My long-ago best friend got a job at JPL and had to get a Secret or Top Secret Clearance. I was interviewed extensively about her character by I guess the FBI as were all her friends and relatives. Once she got that job she could tell me nothing about her work. Not one word. It was kinda scary in fact because she could be a target for bad things happening to her. We lost touch so I don't know if she ever was in jeopardy seriously. I never disclose company secrets. If the company gets derailed I leave. Thank you for your reply. I'm 80 and so far so good. I think I'm just gonna keep it up. Too old to change my ways! :)
This post was edited by RosieG at February 13, 2018 4:20 AM MST
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