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I guess I tend to blame myself for trusting them, something I hadn't really thought about before. I'll think about it some more.
Be on your guard with people they're word doesn't mean as much as it used to.
This is not always possible, but I try very hard not to have expectations, because when you do, it sets you up for disappointment. It took me a long time to realize that, especially when it comes to loved ones. I'd say it's a work in progress. When I fail at it, I blame neither them nor I, because I trusted willingly. I can't really blame someone else for a mistake I've made but I do have to learn from it. So will I trust them again? Probably not. The one thing it doesn't do is stop me from trusting someone else.
SpunkySenior, do you do that with ease or is it a struggle sometimes. I
Here's the thing lovely. You are whom you are. Some folks are trusting (I'm one of them) and some are not. The trusting ones would naturally have more opportunity to be disappointed but a leopard cannot change its spots. So I trust people until I don't. It's one of the prices I pay for being me. I'd far rather be trusting and get hurt than to be closed off/suspicious and never give people a chance. Thank you for your reply! :)
I'm the opposite Spunky. I always have high expectations. I'm optimistic and positive. Of course that opens me up to disappointment but I cannot help how I'm wired. If I'm let down or disappointed I realize that I expected too much and move on. I don't blame myself because I cannot do otherwise and I don't blame them because they cannot do otherwise. It is a lesson one learns each time. I have found that if you expect the best from people they don't want to let you down so they give you their best. Not all the time of course but I am happy
to settle for whatever I get. I figure it's part of my life pattern and I do not beat myself up about it nor do I blame others. As they say it is what it is! Thank you for your reply and Happy Friday! :)
I always have high expectations and part of that is being disappointed on occasion. I am optimistic and positive and give folks the benefit of the doubt until they show me I shouldn't have done so. I never regret expecting the best from people. It is who I am . I could
not change if you paid me a bazillion bucks. Now I give everyone a chance. But a second chance? Not likely . I figure if they did it once they can do again. I don't penalize strangers for my experiences with the disappointers. That would be unfair. Thank you for your reply PC and Happy Friday to thee! :)
OK Rosie you sound like a reasonable person .
