Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» Would being asked to sign a PRE-NUP prior to marrying your beloved be a dealbreaker for thee? Why marry someone who doesn't trust you?
Not really. It is a measure insuring the relationship exists out of love and not greed.
Figuring that nearly 50% of marriages fail nowadays, there needs to be a lawful strategy to preserve a family’s generational wealth from the grips of gold diggers and dubious legal challenges. By removing the lure of an easy payoff, i.e., what Anna Nicole Smith did to J. Howard Marshall’s family, it ensures that one’s holdings coming into a marriage ARE NOT at risk should the love abate and the relationship fail.
Further investigation would show you that pre-nups typically include generous settlements for the ex-spouse that do not portion out huge fortunes for a brief or unsuccessful relationship. This is of course not a universal rule, but then every marriage comes with a measure of risk, no?
This post was edited by Don Barzini at October 21, 2018 2:47 PM MDT
Money is not my carrot DB. Never has been. I've been married a couple times. One of the times I left the marriage I took my kid, our clothes, our books, a few pots and pans, a bed for him and a dresser for his underwear. A sofa for me on which to sleep (it was a one-bedroom apartment to which we moved and I gave my kid the bedroom) and a dresser for my underwear and my car. I left everything else which was significant and substantial money-wise in terms of the furniture, appliances (I had to buy a fridge, TV slowly as i could afford them) records, etcetera etcetera etcetera. I took what was of value and needed. Nothing more. That's me and as I told you before I can only ever bring me and what I value to everything I do. The first marriage we just divvied everything up..together. No kids. It was simpler.Neither one of us was greedy. So you see for me a pre-nup would abort the deal immediately because I would leave only with what I valued and what I needed. My needs are basic and simple. That hasn't changed as I've aged. Thank you for your reply. I'm sure that what you wrote applies to many many many many people. I am not among them. Happy Sunday to thee! :)
This post was edited by RosieG at October 21, 2018 2:48 PM MDT
As you have said in other posts, we are the products of our experiences, the results of our individual realities. Had you been a progeny of a wealthy family, or married into one, your take on this may be entirely different.
I salute your frugality, but point out you are not in the majority in this regard. In this day and age, going into a marriage with great wealth involved, it is akin to financial Russian Roulette to not execute a pre-nuptial agreement.
I have corresponded with men on the net who were so devastated by their divorce, in more ways than one, who they say they would never marry again so as not to have to face another such divorce. Too bad.
Divorce can be a hard war, and as acrimony is a near certainty, I understand how ‘taking the plunge’ again can become an ugly proposition. Once bitten, twice shy.
But marriage is about much more than "romance" and "love". Or should be! People simply want to be able to hold on to what to what was theirs before. We did not even discuss any such thing but I can see that in some cases they would be beneficial.
I am all for pre-nups if a couple chooses. Divorce can often times turn otherwise decent people into greedy monsters.
This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at October 21, 2018 2:49 PM MDT
Yes people carry their disagreements and hostilities and fighting into court. I was once at the country courthouse and saw someone just screaming at her divorce lawyer as I guess something had not gone the way she had wanted.
Don Barzini 