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RosieG

Apologies for screwing up bigly priorly. WHICHEVER PARENT DOES THE JOB BETTER SHOULD DO IT. Cooking fer instance. Agree?

Whichever parent is the better cook should do the cooking! That parent is also RESPONSIBLE for choosing nutritious food and preparing it with good health in mind. If both are lousy at then they have a problem. One of them had better get with it to cook good food for their kids or they will end up obese children with many medical issues.

Posted - February 17, 2019
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  • 10778
    Nowadays, that might be considered to be sexest.

    Disagree.  What if the one who can cook better hates to cook, while the "lousy" cook loves to cook?  For example, my mom could not cook... and she made no secret about it either.  My dad, on the other hand, could cook (army cook).  While my dad hated to cook, my mom didn't mind it.  So mom did all the cooking.

    Whichever parent CAN do the job (at the time it needs doing) should do it.  Be it cooking, cleaning, laundry, helping the kids with homework, or whatever.  Otherwise you end up with one person doing all of one thing (eg. the woman always cooks)... and that can produce burn-out.  Many times that results of that burnout gets taken out on the other spouse and/or children.  If,for example, one parent is out taking their kids to soccer practice and the other parent is at home, then the one who is at home should cook - regardless if they do it "better" than the other parent or not.
      
    Both parents need to share all responsibilities 100% - whether or not they are "good" at it.  That way they show their kids that one person needn't be fully responsible for something just because they are "good" at it.  Kids learn a lot more from what they see than what they're told.





      February 17, 2019 12:08 PM MST
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  • 113301
    Peculiar reply from my point of view. I like doing what I'm good at doing. I find it difficult to believe someone can very good doing something he/she hates doing. I shall ask. I am a retired internal auditor. I pay all the bills. I LOVED my job when I worked. I LOVE it still as a private citizen. Jim says I am the best secretary he ever had. I  taught him how to reconcile his bank statement. When we first met he just took the bank's word for it. Once he got familiar with and comfortable with reconciling it I took over. I love doing it. He prefers my doing it. So I do it. We have a difference of opinion. You say it sounds sexist. I fail to understand how saying anyone who does a better job should do the job is sexist. i'm gonna ask about that too. Thank you for your reply and Happy Monday. This post was edited by RosieG at February 18, 2019 9:55 AM MST
      February 18, 2019 2:07 AM MST
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  • You didn't screw up intentionally, and I cannot believe how serious everyone took it.   I knew what you meant anyway, so no apologies necessary.  :)
      February 17, 2019 12:12 PM MST
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  • 113301
    Well m'dear thank you for your kind reply. I appreciate it  BA. That's how we do it in our family. We're more traditional than some couples I guess I LOVE to cook. I'm also a retired internal auditor so I pay all the bills. I LOVE doing that too. Jim does the "guy stuff". If something break he fixes it. I'm not good at that. He takes care of the car and keeps track of when it should be checked out. SIGH. It's funny isn't it the things that rile folks up? Go figger. Have a Happy Monday m'dear. Thanks again! :)
      February 18, 2019 2:11 AM MST
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