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When I have easy access to something I seem to want it less than I do if I don't have it. What the heck do I mean?

I am prediabetic so I avoid sugar. BUT in the freezer I always have tootsie rolls and licorice. I KNOW it's there and any time I want some I just take it out of the freezer, give it a few minutes at room temp and I can eat it. It's been weeks since I did. Maybe months. But if I didn't have that security blanket I'd go out and buy a lot nd eat a lot. Now is that what you do too? Make things accessible so you NEVER get frantic?

Posted - April 21, 2019
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  • 46117
    Good question.  What the heck do you mean? 
      April 21, 2019 8:43 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    I explained what I mean Sharon. Did you not read it?
      April 21, 2019 11:07 AM MDT
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  • 46117
    I'd better try again, Rosie. I can see you are serious and I am not taking it lightly.  I had just gotten home from work and ate and was ready to crash.  Let me try again.  I will not be half awake this time.  

    Sorry, if I was dismissive.  Just tired.

    Ok.  Ok. I gotcha now.  

    Yes. I panic like there is no tomorrow.   Your examples are more interesting just because I cannot imagine craving stuff like that.  It seems so easy to not want that.  But that is not my DRUG of choice.  I call addictions DRUGS of CHOICE because they make you think and act like an addict.  You would never act that way about carrots.  It's the SUGAR.  That stuff is like crack and it makes you think like an addict.

    I get that way about things I must have.  There are things I need for my body and if I do not have them handy?  I go nuts.  I must have a supply so I don't have to run around at the last minute to make my day serene.    But they muddy the answer, because they ARE drugs.  

    I must have a dose of 100 mgs of Sativa cannabis and the same amount of CBD oil injested.  If I do not have this?  Nothing bad happens.  But in my mind?  It starts.  I need to feel calm, I need to feel relaxed.  And that becomes more and more hard to feel as the day goes by.  By the end of the day, I feel WRONG.  I cannot put my finger on it, but everything seems like more of an obstacle.  

    I don't like feeling that way.   I cannot do my job right. I massage people and you can feel my touch.  If it is slightly off, people are not going to notice, but my massage will not be as rhythmical and flowing.  So, I need to be calm and centered and focused.  Therefore, I am addicted.

    Now, compare that to the other kinds of addiction.  It is hard to justify because I need it, but it is a nutrient for me.  It helps me.  It does not cause any harm to my body and it actually helps the body.  So, I am finally addicted to the right thing.  Except it costs a lot.  Money-wise.

    So, I read everyone else on here and did not want to repeat what they said.  I pretty much agree with their take on human emotions and how we deal with something taken from us or not easily  obtained.  I agree.  But  thought I would add something else.  If I could.

    Sugar is making your behaviors apparent.  There is something in that routine that makes you feel a little bit more in control and you need to feel in control.  You don't want to feel guilty, but you do because you could have more control by not craving this stuff. But.... in the end, you are handling it in a sane manner.  

    Why you do it?  You are human.  Why you do it with these ingredients?  They give you a LIFT.  This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at April 21, 2019 11:25 AM MDT
      April 21, 2019 11:11 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    No but if it works for you why question it?
      April 21, 2019 8:48 AM MDT
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  • 10771
    It's human nature to crave that which we know we can't/shouldn't have. 

    We don't like negatives (can't, shouldn't, won't, etc.).  In fact, we tend to react rather aggressively to negatives.  To counter this, we spin the negative to a positive.  So instead of saying "I'm prediabetic so I shouldn't eat such-and such", you spin it to, "I'm only pre-diabetic, so I could still eat such-and-such if I wanted to".  Simply by removing the negative connotation we put ourselves in control.  "I shouldn't" means "I can't".  Period!  End of discussion!  Where as "I could" leaves the option open, allowing one's own willpower to be the restraining force against any temptation. 
    With the stuff is in your freezer, it's you who is in power (I could).  Yet, if you were to toss it out, it'd be like telling yourself that you can't (can never) have it.  That just amplifies the temptation (I can not therefore I must).  That which is forbidden always looks all the more sweet.
      April 21, 2019 10:13 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Thank you for taking the question seriously and reply ing seriously with information I CAN USE! I really appreciate that about you Shuhak. OK. So I'm not nuts. I'm just human. Good to know. Oh boy. Here comes another question! :)
      April 21, 2019 11:09 AM MDT
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