Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» Do you forgive folks automatically or only upon request? If it's automatic do you do so even though they are not regretful? Why wouldja?
One must forgive others - whether they want or even deserve it. If not, it will eat away inside of you which produces hatred, resentment and possible violent outbursts.
If someone who has wronged me asks for forgiveness I try to give it. If they're not serious, unregretful, or whatever, that's not my problem, its theirs. My conscience is clean. However, if their wronging of me is habitual, then they are beyond my forgivness. Not that I won't give it, but that they really don't want it.
I don't forgive Shuhak. I also don't harbor ill will, seek vengeance or revenge. I simply write people off and move on. If someone willfully goes out of his/her way to hurt me there is no forgiveness in me to give. If he/she does it once what is therre to stop him/her from doing it again? They do not get a second chance at me. That may seem cold/harsh to you but that's how I am wired. Betray me once shame on you. Betray me twice shame on me. How can you ever possibly trust someone who does that to you? Now if something occurs accidentally or inadvertently (I cannot think of an example offhand but I expect there is that possibility) that is entirely different. But purposeful and knowingly? One shot is all you get at me. I move on. Have you ever gone out of your way to harm someone? I haven't. I just cut my losses and don't look back. It's the way I survive . Thank you for your reply! :) I have never sought revenge nor retaliated against anyone. I see no advantage in that for me. Also I have never felt envy or jealousy. I don't see how that could possibly be useful or beneficial to me. It makes no sense to do/feel/think things that are harmful to me. So I don't. :)
This post was edited by RosieG at May 22, 2019 10:36 AM MDT
I try to follow Jesus in this matter. He said that you should forgive someone no matter how many times they sin against you. It's not logical from a human standpoint, but if He said to do it then there has to be something to it.
Shuhak 