Whom you are allowed to live with love sleep with marry? Would any one of you really take that seriously and bend over and cooperate? You are not that type of person are you? Dictating the lives of others who must comply with YOUR wishes? Of course you aren't.
You are BETTER than that. Kinder than that. You realize that love is not dictable by outsiders like you. It is or it isn't. Period. End of story. Or should be.