Folks who debate tell you what you want to hear. Why would they not? In other words they shade things and massage them and manipulate them and pretzelize them to please you. Then later they do whatever they dam* well want to do it and may/will have zero to do with what they promised you to hook you. Once hooked are you stuck or can you wiggle off the hook and escape? Or are you stuck and no matter how evil awful he/she is you will die defending him/her from all criticism. Because you cannot admit you screwed up bigly so you will continue your defense of the indefensible.