Discussion»Questions»Human Behavior» "Every real man in America has made lewd comments...(told) dirty jokes". Per a male Answermugger. OK real men out there is he right /wrong?
Apparently very true. After all tens of millions of real women purchased "50 shades of gray" I am told and read it. I did not read it ele. From what I've heard about it though I would not be able to get through it anyway since it would disgust me. I am apparently not a" real" woman. I have never ever said anything that was lewd nor thought it. I am old and old-fashioned and I think it is very unseemly for a lady to talk that way. Maybe she can think that way. That is not for me to say. But to engage/indulge in lewd commentary is unacceptable to me whether it is a man or woman doing it. It's just that since I'm a woman I don't understand such women who take on male aspects of sexual deviance. Yep. I think lewd talk is deviant. What do I know? I've led a sheltered life. So there. I'm ready for all the flak this response will generate. I'm a tough old dame. Nothing I can do to change that. Thank you for your reply and Happy Thursday! :)
Just remove the word 'real' Rosie. It won't be completely accurate, but I suspect it would then be more right than wrong.
'Real' when applied in such a sentence is what I think of as a worthless word. What I think is a 'real' man will differ from what others consider as qualifying. As such it's so subject to interpretation as to be meaningless in a wider context.
This is common behaviour among youths and adolescents but usually becomes rarer as males grow up. I know plenty of really filthy jokes, but I can't recall using them past the age of about 20. That's some years ago, unfortunately. :)
Lewd comments are something different, as there are different applications. Are these made towards others directly, or unfocused and made among a peer group? Different uses, different outcomes, but generally speaking this too will reduce after certain ages and maturities are reached.
I know MrWitch. It is so very tiresome to have people automatically try to justify unacceptable behavior/unacceptable speech. I don't know for sure whether my views can be attributed to my age. I am old and very old-fashioned. I think lewd talk is deviant. So is lewd behavior. Not my cuppa tea. The fact that men AND WOMEN may engage in it doesn't matter to me. I find it disgusting and I only have me to deal with. I'm a tough old dame but I guess inside I'm not. I find it incredibly offensive when men disparage women just because they are women. It needn't be from a sexual perspective. It means they think we are second-class, "less than". I find it even more reprehensible when women do the same dam* thing! I do. Would I feel this way if I were in my 20's instead of almost 79? I have no idea whom I would be today if I were in my 20's. I am stuck with who I was and that forms a basis for who I am and at this age that will never change. Thank you for your thoughtful answer m'dear and Happy Thursday! :)
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