Discussion»Questions»Life and Society» Why do you think some people believe that considering the feelings and experiences of others is a weak or negative thing?
I wish I could give you more than a primitive answer. It must be a defence mechanism; perhaps some people see it as the duplication of a bad feeling, because now it exists in you as well as the other person. Of course, that attitude doesn't improve anything, and it certainly doesn't make for stronger personalities.
English class, junior year of high school (or its Belgian equivalent). The class is told to sort personality traits by how positive they are. Some make the case that "sensitive" is negative - particularly for men.
Considering the number of times that I have been told I'm being too sensitive or that I take things too personally, I find it hard to believe that anyone doesn't know somene who sees it as a negative trait. Perhaps we just have too many encounters in a day to be able to fend for ourselves and still be considerate of others.
This post was edited by Jane S at January 30, 2023 7:56 PM MST
Whatever they say, get those kinds of people out of your life. Everything is downhill with those people. Somewhere along the way, life was turned upside down for them, messing up their perception of things.
It sucks when they're family members. And they're determined to broach subjects that show their intolerance of others and topics that you've already agreed to disagree about.
It doesn't make sense to me. About a month ago my sister called me upset. Her daughter, while angry at her, told her she was basically a looser because she drives an old car and does not own her own home, told her she has nothing to show for her life and is dependent on others. The daughter was telling her Mother, she had made better decisions in life due to the fact she gets residual income from previous jobs, drives a newer car and can buy what she wants, go where she wants etc. I thought it was rude though the facts are true.
This post was edited by Honey Dew at March 19, 2023 9:08 AM MDT
I would think there was more to the conversation before the dauther said such things. My guess would be the Mom was criticizing a decision made by the Daughter. ...this does not excuse talking to someone like that.
Being harsh while angry seems to be the norm, doesn't it? I certainly can't say that I've never said things I've regretted when hurt or angry. Can't imagine having spoken that way to my mother. I imagine the daughter will regret her harshness someday.
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