How do two shy people ever get to talk with each other, the very first time?

No suggestions for how to take the first step?

Orchestrate a meeting that appears coincidental or stalk each other waiting for chance to happen.

Back to the stalking. I think that's what I define as following the other, and try to take part in areas they have shown interests. Hmm. Thank you.

The only ice breaker that works for me some days. This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at December 19, 2016 9:08 AM MST

I don't do weed. Sheesh.

There's a bottle being passed. I'm just drinking.

Wanna grab a quiet table and join me?



( For me personally weed increases my stand-offish introversion around strangers.) This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at December 19, 2016 9:28 AM MST

Aww. I'd love having a glass with you while we can be quiet together. Well, not towards each other I guess. Lolz.

Mhmm. And how do you break that first word that needs to be said by one of you to start talking?

I forget about me and concentrate on what to do to get them to talk to me.  It make take a week and it may take longer but there is no reason or purpose to force something that is not ripe for the introduction.     I have approached shy people and spoke first and many times they ignore me or cut me short.   I know they are socially awkward and I don't trespass any further until they make the next move.  If they don't?  I respect that and leave them be.  I am not trying to be popular.  I am trying to be comfortable myself.  That is how I cope.  I can be very sensitive if I have to bee in a room of people and I am the stranger and I have to acclimate myself to a new set of people that I need to work with in some capacity.  It can be daunting to say the least.

When I was in College (one of the times) this girl told me she thought I had a fear of success.  No.  I just don't know what success is.  LOL

Drat. :-)

Some people are even too shy for that.  I don't know why I said that, but I'm just sayin'.

Someone will still need to make that first contact where you start talking, no?

Mhmm. You know, some people my be perceived as extrovert but it is in reality a way to hide their shyness. It works out great in groups, but the one on one thing doesn't come easy unless the one of them make the move of first private contact. Hmm.

It's funny how many people I ran across on that other site who claimed to be shy/introverted in real life, but they were outgoing, even downright pushy online. I'm the opposite, I think. I will talk to almost anyone in real life (perhaps more than some people prefer, lol), but I'm much more cautious online... you never really know for sure who you're dealing with. It didn't occur to me that some people weren't being genuine at first, I was so naïve!

Now that one too. Guess most of us have been through the naivety phase at a stage. I payed my share, even being shy about/in private contacts. Hmm.

We can better hide on the internet, but what if you want to have a private talk with someone you meet on the internet? Easy for you?