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If you were an unwelcome guest at a funeral, but had a good relationship with the deceased, would you still attend?

Posted - July 24, 2017

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  • 7126
    That's a tough one. Unless it was a really big funeral, where I had a chance of going unnoticed, I'd probably stay away. And find another way to pay my respects. Because the day is not about me.
      July 24, 2017 7:24 PM MDT
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  • 7939
    I suppose it could be if you were really close to the person who passed, but I tend to agree with you overall.
      July 24, 2017 7:37 PM MDT
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  • No, I think funerals are for the people left behind . I would say goodbye in a different way if I thought it would make people who are closer to the deceased uncomfortable if I showed up. 
      July 24, 2017 7:25 PM MDT
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  • 7939
    I think maybe I think so too. Thanks for your response. 
      July 24, 2017 7:38 PM MDT
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  • You're welcome:)
      July 24, 2017 7:40 PM MDT
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  • I've done that.   Really it depends how close the deceased is.
      July 24, 2017 8:10 PM MDT
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  • 19937
    You don't attend a funeral for the person who has died, you go to pay your respects to the living.  If you are unwelcome in their eyes, going to the funeral is not the time to make the situation uncomfortable.
      July 24, 2017 8:23 PM MDT
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  • 22891
    i might
      July 25, 2017 2:58 PM MDT
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  • 1326
    I think it in poor taste and very insensitive to attend if such are the circumstances. This post was edited by Autumnleaves at July 26, 2017 6:39 AM MDT
      July 25, 2017 10:16 PM MDT
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