Do you think you can forgive your spouse's infidelity, if the alternative would be a lot of damaging evidence against you made public in court, coupled perhaps with a heavy alimony?

That would depend on the relationship we have. If its just sex, why divorce? Surely marriage is a joint venture, based on many things? If she felt she had cause for infidelity, that should be worked on. If divorce is demanded, as stated by others, both sides have to accept the consequences. Just my opinion, but as long as she has not deliberately set out to damage the marriage, of course she can be forgiven.

A noble man are you. 

Thank you, Just Asking, for such a well thought-out answer.

I suppose in the final analysis divorce is a lose-lose situation. The only winners, perhaps, are the lawyers.