They are told what to do, what to say, what to believe, whom to hate, whom to love, whom to emulate, whom to vilify, whom to accept, whom to reject, whom to attack, whom to insult, whom to denigrate. By the time they are grown they are mini-me's reflecting exactly what their parents are. Some escape. Most don't. Pity them. They are shaped by others without being consulted. :(