They tell you if you are willing to work hard enough you can achieve anything you want. They don't tell you that there are people out there whose only goal is to thwart you/harm you/be an obstacle or a thorn in your side and try to sabotage you. You grow up thinking what you can achieve in life is entirely up to you. That's a LIE. When others control the options you have it isn't all up to you at all. Bah humbug! :(