There are zillions of ways to classify humans. If I wanted to find YOU under what classification would you have placed yourself? Why?

 Thanks. That's a lotta help. SIGH. Well at least you are not among the undead Zombies who plague us. Nor are you a Vampire I expect. Aren't they the living dead? Since I am a fan of neither I shall not speciulate further. Thank you for your reply. How do I know you aren't a computer program masquerading as a one of the "people who are alive now"? I don't. Double SIGH. Happy Monday JakobA! :)

I think vampires are classified as 'undead'.

Whatever is "undead" lives, right? So vampires are living entities then? Living off the lifeblood of human beings?  Have you ever encountered one figurative..or literally for that matter?  Did you protect your neck? Thank you for your reply JakobA! ")

I quite agree. the meaning of "undead" is semanitally unclear. It might mean "people who died and were brought back to some semblance of life, Like 'mummies' or the skeletons in many RPGs :-))

Mummies are especially creepy. Wrapped in shrouds as they are you can only imagine the horror that lies beneath the wrapping. Thank you for your reply JakobA and Happy Friday! :)

Yes, vampires are the undead, zombies are the living dead. 

I am extremely sensitive to the vibes people give off. Some are so hostile I can't breathe around them. I avoid them at all costs. I have to be very careful the environment I allow myself to be in. Thank you for your reply Truthseeker! :)

I could tell that years ago by all the graphics you included in your responses. Thank you for your reply Sharon! :)

OS is coming to see you this weekend and I will send along Keith Olbermann.  I feel it has your name on it, Merry Christmas, Rosie.

I'm so glad you have your own Corner now.  You earned it. 

Love Sharonna

You know the backstory don't you Sharon? I was a huge pain in the a** for the classifiers. I didn't know that Just Asking had recruited some folks to review where questions were placed and to reclassify them to proper categories. It seems MY questions more often than not could be placed in a multiplicity of categories and I was driving the reclassifiers nuts. As usual I had no idea. I just ask questions and try to reply to folks who answer but every day I get further behind. That keeps me hopping. Anyway JA asked if I'd mind having my own little space where I would be the category so I would never have to try to figure out where my question belonged but more importantly the reclassifiers would never again have to deal with me. Now isn't that a BRILLIANT solution to what was a problem? I think Just Asking is amazing. I'm happy as a clam at high tide. It's like working on the New York Times puzzle and finding your name there. Thank you for the kind words and also thanks for sending the  Olbermann book with OS. Hope you have a very Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays whichever you prefer! Happy Friday Sharon! :) ((hugs)) Love, Rosie

I wrote and told her to FIX this.  Everyone said not to do it because I would get in trouble?  JA is not like that.  She listens.  I don't know if I had anything to do with it besides just asking her (lol) but I am glad this insane petty b.s. is over.  I just don't get why people have to pitch a fit over such nonsense, but they did.  They can now find a new reason to blame for whatever is bugging them.

It was never you.  I know it and you know it. But people have to have a scapegoat when they are unhappy with themselves.

I am happy you are here and I know you are.  So, three cheers for that part.

I cannot wait until you crack open the KO book.  It is an eye-opener.  And an ulcer-maker.

I figure it will give you a lot of great inspiration for more questions about Donald the Wonder Boy.

Merry Christmas, Rosie.  Now and always.

Love

Sharon





This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at December 23, 2017 4:48 AM MST

You know what's so ironic Sharon? I had no clue. I never read the bilge from the bilgemakers. Some of them were on Answerbag and I ignored then there too. I deleted the notifications from them WITHOUT READING A WORD and when I was on a thread I simply skipped over them WITHOUT READING A WORD. The fact that an 80-year-dame who asks questions was so threatening to them is hilarous. I'm way tougher than the lot of them put together and quadrupled. AS if  anything they could say or do could touch me even if I read the crap. Why in the he** would I do that? That's insane and I'm not.  I think JA came up with a great solution and if you had anything to do with good on ya and I'm grateful. If the jerks track me here(some already have believe or not!) I still ignore them. I am a person they can't quit until the get the best of me which will never happen. They are rather sadly pathetic if this is what motivates them to get up and speak up. Don'tcha think? I'm gonna try to read the Olbermann book while OS is here so he can take it back with him. If I don't then I will just mail it back to you when I'm done. I'm really looking forward to reading it! A bright spot amidst all the doofus donjohn darkness. Only temporarily! SIGH. Thank you for your reply and the graphic! Happy Saturday Sharon! Love, RosieG :)

Rosie, your questions are now on your own page, rather than the "Questions" page.  But both your questions and replies still show up on the activity feed on the home/main page, and your questions still appear in the "Trending Ten" on the home/main page, as they should.  So people do not have to "track" you down...and likely are not doing so, simply seeing your questions where they always have seen them if they use the home page feed rather than the questions page.  

Are you open-minded enough to give up your "Love Atheism" beliefs?

Hehe. 

I definitely believe in love. I'm just not entirely sure how the romantic/sexual element fits in there. 

I hear you.
I think a parent's love for their child is pure and unconditional, but when a couple gets together it can be more based on meeting each other's needs at times.
I do believe that when 2 really sweet, giving people meet each other the love between them can be pretty unconditional or as close as two strangers can get to unconditional love at least I hope.
My thing is that I think love is absolutely real, but it doesn't always last forever and that's where people get hurt and jaded and they really start to stop believing in love.
We all seem to have this fantasy of staying together forever, living happily ever after, til death do us part and the reality is that people change and they fall in and out of love and sometimes they move on.
If someone leaves you it doesn't mean that the love you shared was never real, it just means that things ran their course and it's time to move on and love someone else.
I'm not saying that it can't last forever, I'm just saying that we might be happier if we didn't expect it to.
Just enjoy each moment we have with that person and if they leave hope the best for them and find somebody new.

At least that's the mentality I have now after having my heart broken.
I can either give up on love all together or I can acknowledge that what my ex and I had was real and it just doesn't always last.

What are your thoughts?
Am I on the wring path again?
Thanks. : )

This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at December 21, 2017 8:38 AM MST

I wish that all parents loved their children like that. Many don't, as we see in the news every day. But, I know what you mean, and that love I KNOW exists. My heart is full of that sort of love. It truly drives me every day. Well, most days, anyway. ;)

I guess what I have learned about romantic love, is that if the pure and unconditional kind of love doesn't exist between two people, the sexual/romantic kind doesn't really stand a chance of being sustained over time. 

I wonder how relationships would go, if no one had the expectation that a marriage (or other serious relationship) would last forever? How much of yourself would you be willing to give, if you went into it knowing that there was an expiration date? Ironically, I think that many people do view it as temporary (or maybe just not that important?), and if those who think like that would sort of stick together, things would work out better for everyone involved. Maybe it's just a matter of all hearts being constructed differently? I think that might be it. 

I love how you're asking ME, like I know something, whilst calling me a "love atheist". Hehe! :P

I always question myself and I've learned that I can find the truth more easily talking to people with different opinions.
I was shocked when my 15 year relationship just went to hell and ended.
It was too much to handle.

You mentioned wondering how much people would give of themselves if they looked at relationships as temporary?

I kinda feel like maybe we sort of give too much already?
Like I want to just love someone and be supportive without giving up every part of me this time and feeling totally lost if the relationship ends like I did with my marriage.
I didn't know who I was without her and it was hard.
Almost unhealthy that I let my whole life be so much about her.
I think we need to set boundaries when we fall in love.
Like, I want to cherish a woman and adore her and spend as much time as I can loving her, but I don't want to get so over attached that I can't take it if she leaves.

Next time I hope to be able to just say "Oh, ok well at least I got to love you as much as I could and I know how these things work now and I hope the best for you."
Then find another wonderful woman out of the 3 billion in the world and love her for as long as it lasts.

Does that sound like a "Breakthrough" or just delusional and sad? This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at December 21, 2017 8:25 PM MST

I agree with you on that method of gleaning information from others to gain understanding. I was just making a joke there... or attempting to. 

I cannot really relate to your situation. While there were good moments, my 20+ year marriage was never healthy at all, and I felt like a pardoned prisoner when it was over. :)

I think that what you propose, about not getting overly attached and setting boundaries to avoid heartache... that doesn't sound like love to me, but I'm positive that's what many people do. I guess that's what I meant about people's hearts being constructed differently. 

It seems to me that many people don't really know who they are and what they want from relationships, or they know exactly who they are and are hellbent on deceiving whomever they've set their sights on. 

Another common problem is simply science. It's proven that engaging in intimacy(sex) can cause you to think that you're in love with someone, when you very well may not be. Sexual intimacy causes the release of hormones and chemicals (mainly oxytocin and dopamine) which can actually fool your brain into thinking you're in love with someone you barely know, and who might really be a complete a-hole. Or might be nice enough, but just not someone you have much in common with, isn't a good personality match, etc. This is why you should only have casual sex with people who you know you'll never want a relationship with. If you think you might have a future with someone, by all means, don't sleep with them right away. Wait until you're sure you'll never really be in love with them... then have sex with them. ;)

Seriously, though... I don't think that there is just one truth. We're complex creatures and I think that the most important step in finding a lasting relationship, if that's what you're after, is figuring out who we are and what we need and want from a potential partner. With as many humans as there are on this planet, there probably really is someone who's right for everyone. :)

Thanks.
I guess I need to get more experience.
I was with same woman since I was 21 and it wasn't a great relationship, like we didn't communicate well and we very seldom agreed on anything, but I loved her.
I really cared about her a lot.
Now, I am seeing someone, but it's really complicated so I'm just trying to live in the moment and not get my hopes up, I guess?
I'm just enjoying the emotions and everything that goes a along with falling for someone.
I don't know if I'll ever find a "Lasting relationship", but I guess I'll just try and hope for the best, but I'll tell you that broken heart sh_t is for the birds.
I don't like that feeling so I try to not have such high expectations about people anymore.
I don't know if I'm doing it right?
Anyway, thanks for talking to me. : )