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surrender the situation
and the answer comes.
that's what I do.
Then move on to plan B
Easier said than done my friend. If you put everything you had into it and counted on it then it would take some time to be able to move on. At least it would for me. Thank you for your reply Baba! :)
The closest I've had to that experience was when I hired the wrong builder. He turned out to be incompetent, manipulative and dishonest. The pressure exploded when the carpenter punched him on the jaw. I went and did a course in Conflict Resolution, rang the various industrial organisations, and the Department of Fair Trade. The information enabled me to facilitate peace and the solutions between the builder, the carpenter, and other trades contractors, or so it seemed for a short while. In spite of that, I ended up with a leaking roof that cost $14,000 to have fixed by a third party because the builder disappeared and became untraceable. The frustration and anger left me almost psychotic with rage. I went to a ten-day residential course in Vipassana Meditation. On the course, I learned how I was the source and cause of my anger, irrespective of the events and perceptions that act as the triggers. I learned how to burn off the energy of anger in hard exercise and then settle into observing the sensory perceptions of the present moment (meditation.) By the end of the course, I discovered the bliss that can arise from wishing for the well-being of myself and others. I certainly didn't become able to do this every time at need in daily life, but I learned how to practise and begin to get better at it.
Getting to a point where you wish everyone well-being including those who have harmed you is a place I probably won't reach in this lifetime. However I hate no one. I wish no one ill. I don't believe in exacting revenge or retaliating. That'
s the absolute best I can do hartfire. Thank you for your thoughtful answer! :)
