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LOL. I think this is pretty universal. I have told my adult kids that at a certain point of being on their own, they need to take personal responsibility for the good and the bad in their lives if they are to ever be happy. I have told them that I know I was flawed in many things I did as I raised each one, but feel I did the best I could with what I had.
I remember going through a stage myself where I put a lot of blame onto my own parents for some of my misguided thinking, but once I became aware that there were things I could change about myself and have a better outcome in life, the blame game on my part stopped.
Never, nor can they.
Ever hear of a little thing called genetics? Children become a blend of the parents. They have some of the "good" traits of each parent's linage as well as some of the bad.
I am amused by people that resist that genetic coding to reproduce, why they chose to end their genetic line. Perhaps it's not a choice but Darwin at work ;>).
Well at age 50 I finally stopped trying please my mom and slowly began to stop blaming her for being the person she was. I'm obviously a late bloomer in that regard. I know she did the best she could given her circumstances/background/experiences/personality. I really believe most of us do. It's just that being a parent is always only ever accomplished by on-the-job training. You cannot prepare for it. And every child is different and responds differently. It takes awhile to know what will work and what won't. Once they're out of the nest and on their own and happy and doing well one can breathe a sigh of relief. My son was never a problem child or worrisome. I was lucky. But until he really found his calling he experienced some trials and errors. Now he is where he wants to be doing what he wants t
o do and loves it. There's not much more than that a parent can hope for. Thank you for your reply PeaPod! :)
True that. Thank you for your reply ozgirl and Happy Wednesday! :)
