Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» Misogyny usta to be a GUY THING. Men who couldn't make it with women attacked them. Shocking. Women are misogynists too. Didja know?
I'm fully aware that women can also be misogynists because my own mom is one so misogyny didn't used to be just a guy thing. Misogynist women have been there all along. Mom seems to be improving but she used to not want to have anything to do with other women including me. She was disappointed about having a girl and not another boy.
Geez Liv your own mom? I stand corrected (actually I'm sitting down right now)! I didn't know or maybe I did and it just didn't register. I've know women who always stand by their men no matter how rottenly crappy the men treated them but I just thought they were afraid of being alone and would take any kind of treatment a man could dish out. I've also known women that can be very jealous of other women but I never attributed that to misogyny. OY VEY! Anyway for whatever reason it shocks me and saddens me. I wonder how your mom got that way? Did she grow up in a home were females were second class? My mom did. She had two younger brothers and they were definitely favored over her. Thank you for your reply and Happy Tuesday! :) U have a younger sister and whenever anyone said anything to my dad about not having sons he said he wouldn't trade his two girls for anything. He lived it. We adored him back! :)
I don't know why my mom is the way she is. I never knew her father but her mother wasn't that way at all. I guess it could be because deep down inside she feels unworthy of something so she's jealous of every other woman or girl in the world so that's why she seems to hate them but that's just guessing because as a kid I didn't care about her issues. I only cared about being loved and mom wasn't very loving but my dad was so I was always closer to him. There weren't any second-class citizens to my dad.
I think misogyny in women might have different reasons than misogyny that comes from men but it's still misogyny and misogyny, misandry, racism or hatred of anyone for their inherent characteristics is a personality defect.
This post was edited by Livvie at February 13, 2018 7:08 AM MST
You're probably right Liv. Female misogyny is different. My sis and I were closer to my dad because of that although my mom wasn't as overtly anti-female as yours seems to have been. My mom felt cheated in life. That she deserved more/better. I remember one time she was complaining to someone about our never going anywhere on vacations because "we can't afford it". She was comparing our lives to that of her wealthy friends who could afford to go on expensive trips every year. That was definitely not something I wanted to hear her tell anyone. I felt it was a direct dig at my dad. She never appreciated him as far as I could tell and to this day I will never understand why. I don't know whom he was before I was born of course. I only know what I experienced of him as his daughter and I don't remember him ever saying an unkind word about anyone or ever making me feel bad about myself. Thank you for your reply and Happy Tuesday! :)
I would take exception with your estimate. I think its more of a general suspicion and distrust of us. I mean rather than attacking us. Some men do attack us in general like on sites like this one but don't have to to be a misogynist. And many do make it with us and really rather well but are still that way. Also misogyny can be a way men relate to each other where they don't have to compete with one another so they use it for this which doesn't necessarily mean they ARE misogynists but they are just putting it on at will because its useful socially.
Between us I would not call it that but instead jealousy and envy because many of us somehow seem to think as women we should all be on the same downtrodden level so if one of us does well they think the reason is only our looks or sex or serendipity rather than talent or work so they resent it because they think if one of us does well then there is no room for them to do well. So they strive to pick us apart and bring us back down. When a woman decides not to like us there is very little that will ever change her mind. Too bad when we should be congratulating one another and emulating those who do well rather than trying to tear them down.
Livvie 