I was going to say no matter which there are always things that come with the territory. But I can't help feeling a lot of sympathy for men who get accused of "sexual misconduct" in these days when anything some women say seems to be accepted as gospel. Men of course are not perfect but I think there is a difference between "misconduct" and men just being men. Which seems to me a lot of women just don't seem to know men at all but rather are just using popular culture to make themselves appear "strong", if that is what they are after, or "victims" if that is their preference. And I just can't have any respect for all the gals who cry foul against the rich and famous for the press it gets them. Must be difficult for men to now see women in some firms being paid more just because they are women. Which certainly does not make me feel better about being a woman. Many of us came up the hard way where we had to prove ourselves by our accomplishments. And when I read someone complaining that a man is trying to take advantage of her I just can't help thinking OK come on honey - get real - what else is new?
I've always thought it was harder for men. They have to be macho, strong, confident and also be sympathetic and understanding and supportive. They are constantly being challenged by someone or something to prove their manhood but women expect them to be mindreaders and automatically "know" what's bothering them without giving them a clue. They have to be all things to all people at all times and they had better not cry or tear up because "men don't cry". I dunno how the he** they do it. Women can cry and no one says diddly. Women get away with a lot. I think less is expected of them. Just my opinion of course. Thank you for your reply og.
Agreed that all of those would make it harder for men but a lot they put on themselves and I think more thoughtful men come to their own understanding of what manhood means to them. But then we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be things we know we cannot. I don't know how much we get away with because people seem very quick to label us as "selfish" or "bad mothers" whereas men are less judges in those ways. I know I am a Pollyanna but I think we need to work together.
Some women resort to tears to get their way. Or use sex. Or lie. Or hide purchases from their husbands or "forget" to tell them things they should know or tell personal things about them to girlfriends or family members which I think is a huge betrayal. I despise those things and many women do them all the time. A mom is more responsible for how the child turns out. It's the mom who teaches the child good manners, respect and values. It's the mom who usually reads to them, helps with homework and takes them to all their activities. Some dads do too but mostly that job falls to mom. There are women who aren't cut out to be mothers and it is those children who never develop their full potential. Mothers who either smother their kids with too much love (you are so perfect you are just wonderful no one is ever going to be good enough for you) or leave them to baby sitters or the TV or computers while mom does her own thing. Distant fathers are not as harmful to children as distant mothers. Now of course all of this is just my opinion. It's only worth something to me. Thank you for your reply og.
This post was edited by RosieG at March 15, 2018 7:26 AM MDT
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