The guy who CRAVES respect treats others with dis. Why should he get what he doesn't give? How is that fair just decent honorable?

There you go again with your false equivalency. As if everyone is morally the same and therefore respect should go both ways. There is this lack of objective reality in your thinking.

Some things deserve respect and some things don't. Some things are moral and some things aren't. People in the right deserve to be respected because that is God's will. Scum doesn't deserve to be respected.

It's like the devil being butthurt that he is denied a place in heaven and saying to God, "You don't respect me, so why should I respect you!".