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My son having brain surgery when he was 8. Very scary. The why part is obvious.
My best friends passing.
Good Morning m'dear.
I have now starred at this question for at least 15 minutes going over my life's experiences trying to decide what was the worst. I am not sure I can answer this. Like most people, I have experienced loss on many different levels.
I have lost a dear brother. His death was too soon, he was still a young man.I was there with him when he passed. However, not only was I there, my whole family was there as well. We had made the decision to pull his life support and everyone of us spent the next two days by his side, talking to him, massaging him, letting him know he would always be with us. What could have been a tragedy turned out to be one of the most beautiful things I have witnessed.
I think about the injury I sustained and the horror of the few seconds preceding the event. I can cite the weeks in the NCCU unit not knowing my fate. The weakness from a 4 week induced coma. The more than a year of intense therapies and pain. Frustration, anger, loss of hope on a grand scale.. However, that dark did turn to light and every bit as intense as the dark. Yes I have known frustration, but now I know courage. I have known anger, which turned to love, Hopelessness turned to anticipation and joy.. I cannot say that that thing, which took me to my absolute weakest, also took me to my strongest would be the worst thing.
It could be the night my son called to tell me he got his deployment orders...and the months following. Perhaps I can only say this because he was not hurt, but the pride I have in him is astounding. The courage my son shower the world is something I am privileged to be a part of.
All my experiences in my life have led me to the place I am now, change one of those and who knows what or where I would be.
I live in a place I love. I live the life I love to ;live. I do what I truly enjoy for a living. I have the love and respect of my children. I am healthy and greet each day with a smile. I do not think of any of my lifes experiences as a "worst", but rather ......necessary to my development...and with that
Have a wonderful day
((hugs)) He survived and is alive and well today. Yes? I cannot imagine how terrifying that would have been Ele . Thank you for your reply and Happy Friday m'dear! :)
((hugs)) I know. I miss him too BSurf and I only had the privilege of knowing him for a few years . Thank you for your reply and Happy Friday. God Bless Matt! :)
As usual you have turned a simple question into something profoundly moving and beautiful. Thank you for sharing those experiences with us des. Whatever our circumstances and experiences we are all blessed to be here today chatting with one another. Gratitude and appreciation for that and for being made of stern stuff. Happy Friday my friend
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He is well but developed epilepsy from the surgery and has some deep mental issues even though he is incredibly intelligent.
Hello again Rosie.
Thank you for the kind words, but I have to disagree with the idea that this is a simple question.
Answering a question with just the "where" and "when" is easy and doesn't require much reflection. When we choose to examine the "how" and "why", that same question can take us into more depth of thought. This is how I like to approach questions.
this question asked us to examine all the events in our lives and choose that which was darkest, that which presented the biggest challenge. If all we do is consider the what and when, "this happened then", the question may seem easy, but when we look beyond the single event and ask, what happened next?, often times we see a series of triumphs. So which is greater, A tragedy, or overcoming a tragedy.
Only if we stay lost in that darkness can it be considered "worst", but if we make it out of the darkness, cannot that be considered "best"........kind of takes the question out of the realm of simplicity...as do most of your questions Rosie, which is why I appreciate the opportunity to answer them....
What a lovely thing to tell me des. From the start we clicked. Fortuitous. We are still friends after all these years thought we don't always agree which is very nice. Sometimes along the way the "best by" date arrives in a friendship
and you're done. I think if we have a "best by" date it is far off in the distance and we will have many miles to go before we reach it! ((hugs))
My mother's death and all that it entailed.
Despite that she treated you so badly Sharonna? Condolences to you on your loss and thank you for your reply.
Awe Rosie m'dear, there is no expiration date here.
When people approach each other for the first time in a dialogue where there may be disagreement, there are 2 ways in which it can go.
Condescension and insults only purpose is to build a wall from where you can throw stones.
Once the wall is there, dialogue is muted and useless and potential is extinguished.
We went a different route. Instead of tossing all our stones into one big wall, we were a little more careful. We placed them, at times maybe with caution, one by one with care till eventually what we had built was not a wall, but a bridge, and because we did it with care, it is strong...and because we are both willing to give it proper maintenance, it aint goin nowhere...
To draw a parallel to my assertion that questions aren't as easy as they seem, a wall is simple. It is made with uninformed assumptions. We have looked beyond the simple and found that what seems, isn't always what is....
Yes. Well you know I love metaphor des
. When people take them seriously at face value I have no problem with it. It does let me know what to expect from them in terms of responses. I am happy either way as long as the person is civil. But I do like folks who understand what is unspoken in my questions. I don't like to limit people to specific parameters. I like to ask questions that allow them to go wherever they feel they should and that way I can see how they think, where they are coming from and what is important to them. That is quite a lot. If I make a question too specific I automatically limit the responses and everyone loses.To have someone respond to a question as they experience it gives dimension that is only there if one perceives it and that cannot be planned. It has to be there organically. if ya get my drift! Anyway hope you're enjoying your weather up there. I know you're cooler than we are. Ours is going to "cool down" a bit and just be in the high to low 90's after a few days of triple digits. Any reduction helps if only superficially. I mean there is very little difference in discomfort between 99 and 105 except 99 looks a lot cooler! :)
Psychotic break. It was interesting at the time but I still haven't gotten over the thought that I was betrayed by everyone around me. I needed treatment, but at the time it was the worst. Being put in a mental asylum, seen by doctors, and put around people who were either in better or worse shape. It's also scary. There's a lot going on with you and you don't get the full picture.
