Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» I think the greatest compliment a parent can receive is to have his/her child say "I want to be just like you". Have your kids said that?
Have you told them you are thrilled to be just like them D? If and when you do have kids if that is in your future wouldn't you love to have your kids say that to you? Thank you for your reply! :)
This post was edited by RosieG at February 17, 2019 8:51 AM MST
Parents instinctively know when they are respected ...it show instantly in every child reaction whenspoken to or asked to do thing ... I would give my mum a quick cuddle and never ever did anything really bad....that saved me from many tellings off and you can't really stay angry if that persons made you laugh and even more so if I envolved my dad in some of my pranks.... He was always up for whatever I thought up.....and was always getting scolded by my mum....I lost count of the times he was told to grow up.....he would slink away and wink at me.... None were safe from my pranks and I could do no wrong if my dad was in on it to.....lol
I don't have children of my own. But when I heard that from my older stepdaughter several years ago yes it was thrilling. But I also knew she could not be just like me - she had to be herself. Which would not necessarily include everything I was doing. Nor was she suited for everything I was doing at the time. We all have to find our own way to be our own person. Now she had a wonderful husband and a child and a very good position in a laboratory. And I doubt very much she thinks anymore about being like me.
I don't have children, but if I did and they said something like that, I would think I had done a very good job raising them. One of my sisters who used to rebel constantly once told me that she hated to admit that when she was raising her now-grown children, she was more like my mom than she thought she would be. Fortunately, she did get to tell that to mom before it was too late.
Our son is a very successful and independent person in his own right. We raised him with certain values and he certainly follows those. But, the biggest compliment he ever gave us was that he appreciates the fact that we have always been there for him. It made him feel much more confident to try new things and live his own life. We feel a parents' role is to encourage our children to find what they do best and what makes them happy and encourage development of those things instead of expecting them to be like anyone else. :)
Nice Jugs 