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I used to think that there should be no forbidden questions. I was wrong. Here's one. "How long do you have to live"? Who would ask that?

Posted - April 12


  • 37313
    What is so terrible about that? 

    I don't know how long.  That is the answer. And neither does anyone else unless they are on death row or terminal to the point that you are on your last breath,  and no one in that condition is on here.

    There are plenty of forbidden questions.  Anything too personal and embarrassing or highly sexual fits that bill.  And there is still a way to answer those.  

    This post was edited by SAY MY NAME at April 13, 2019 2:21 AM MDT
      April 12, 2019 10:56 AM MDT

  • 67046
    Thank you for your reply Sharon and Happy Saturday.
      April 13, 2019 2:22 AM MDT

  • 14510
    Not a question I would ask.  But I think they mean how long did the Dr say. (Still not what I would ask)

    The Dr are not normally correct. I had an Uncle they gave 6 months...he lived another 6 yrs. 
    My Grandma has been on hospice care for more than 6 months. We thought Christmas would be the last time we saw her. It was not be just visited last weekend. 
      April 12, 2019 11:00 AM MDT

  • 67046
    Precisely m2c. You don't ask. Condolences to you for your grandmother's situation. When Yolanda told us about David we wanted to ask how long the doctor gave him but of course we didn't. Thank you for your hug which is exactly what you are doing by sharing that information in this response. Politics aside you know I like you a lot and beneath all the political crap we talk about you are a friend. SIGH. Happy Saturday my friend.
      April 13, 2019 2:26 AM MDT

  • 14510
    Yep. Politics means nothing in the grand scheme of things. You and I have been friends for a long time. 
      April 13, 2019 4:59 AM MDT

  • 67046
    Many YEARS! May that friendship and we continue on for many years to come! Ever hear the saying "if the crick don't rise and with the good Lord's blessing"?. I don't think that is exactly right but it just means with luck and God's blessing. I say it a lot when I say goodby to people that I see regularly. When we go to the market  some employees greet us with smiles and hugs. We've been going there for years. We chat and say "see you next week" and I always say "if the crick don't rise and the good Lord is willing". It always brings an "Amen" from the person I say it to without fail. Now will it do anything to insure that happens? I don't know but it makes me feel good to say it. What could it hurt? See ya later gator! :) ((Hugs))
      April 13, 2019 5:19 AM MDT

  • 3029
    ... you could interpret that at least 2 ways:

    1 - How long do you have to live?
    Meaning, how much time do you have remaining.

    2 - How long do you have to live?
    Meaning, what is the minimum time you must live.

    While I agree #1 is uncomfortable, sometimes it is necessary to ask.

    EG:  Someone tells you they have a terminal disease, and are looking for help/advice.

      April 12, 2019 11:01 AM MDT

  • 67046
    Yes. Well our son is in hospice in Arizona. Again. He was in remission and relapsed. His wife told us the sad news but she didn't tell us what the doctor said regarding length of time left. We didn't ask. How do you ask that question? You don't. Thank you for your reply Walt and Happy Saturday.
      April 13, 2019 2:28 AM MDT

  • 2755
    After well over a half century of looking, I have yet to find an expiration date stamped anywhere on my body.

    I know this sounds cornball, but technically none of us have more than 1 moment to live.  We may have been though varying amounts of past time, but we can only live right now.  We cant live in time past as it's gone.  Tomorrow will never come.  One can wait for it all they wish, but it will never come.  It's always going to be... now.  
    So the answer to your question is - 1 moment.  That's how long I have to live.  When that  1 moment ends... so do I.
      April 12, 2019 5:05 PM MDT

  • 67046
    When someone is in hospice preparing to die because there are no more options that is the situation with our son who lives in Arizona. His wife told us about the relapse. He had been in remission. She did not tell us what the doctor said about length of time left. There is no need to ask such a question of a healthy person Shuhak. It is a ridiculous question under those circumstances. But hospice is that step before death. That's when the question arises but you don't ask. Thank you for your reply and Happy Saturday! :)
      April 13, 2019 2:31 AM MDT

  • 5578
    It's a natural question with someone in the situation you describe, but it's an insensitive one ... which is why we don't ask it. I had a good friend die recently.. it was a horrible shock. I didn't ask the question. He told me. I refused to believe it... but I do think that it's best if they tell you.
      April 13, 2019 2:57 AM MDT