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Adaydreambeliever

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  • Screen Name* Adaydreambeliever
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  • Where do you live? UK
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  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Black folks here...Have you ever been pulled over for DWB? My brother-in-law has several times. :
    Dunno what DWB is but stats here reveal that black people are more likely to be stopped and searched than white :(
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    It is an interesting subject isn't it.. very much to think about.. I think I meant allow as in... if so many women are abused and raped and so few, relatively speaking report, and fewer still get convicted, (that part's out of our control as you demonstra...  moreIt is an interesting subject isn't it.. very much to think about.. I think I meant allow as in... if so many women are abused and raped and so few, relatively speaking report, and fewer still get convicted, (that part's out of our control as you demonstrate) then isn't this part of allowing... someway, somehow the message should be clear that it's not ok to rape or abuse anyone ever... but that's not the message that's getting through... or not to everyone... So it was more a thoughtful thing.. I wonder if the fact most are unreported really hides the magnitude of the problem.. The problem is, of course, that we aren't equipped or strong enough... I don't advocate blowing anyone's brains out either   less
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to When the only way they can survive is to lie, they lie. Whether t'is a SCOTUS nominee or a presidential candidate. Do you blame them? :
    Yep. I blame them.. because there's always a choice.. Someone, or even some people on here reminded me of that a while ago.. when I posted a question about people being corruptible. we all are, it's just the price or threat that determines whether or how ...  moreYep. I blame them.. because there's always a choice.. Someone, or even some people on here reminded me of that a while ago.. when I posted a question about people being corruptible. we all are, it's just the price or threat that determines whether or how long we hold out.. but at the end of the day.. we do have a choice..   
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Do you have secrets? Things you will never share with anyone for any reason? Do you think we all do?:
    You know.. I was always a very open person.. online and in person.. I'd tell anyone anything.. and believed that was the best way to be.. no secrets and no one can harm you.. but I learned, and this was relatively recently, within the last year, that actu...  moreYou know.. I was always a very open person.. online and in person.. I'd tell anyone anything.. and believed that was the best way to be.. no secrets and no one can harm you.. but I learned, and this was relatively recently, within the last year, that actually if you tell secrets or even be open... then people can use that against you.. I am not fairly guarded, especially at work, it's a horrible feeling.. but I have found it necessary..   
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to What is it the makes something your "favorite"? Whether it's shoes or clothes or kitchen gadgets or shop tools you always reach for it. WHY?:
    I think sometimes it's un-explainable... and dependant on the object/person etc.. I love all my felines.. but I have a favourite.. his name is Shadow.. and I love him because he is a black kitty and that has always been my favourite, I've had special cone...  moreI think sometimes it's un-explainable... and dependant on the object/person etc.. I love all my felines.. but I have a favourite.. his name is Shadow.. and I love him because he is a black kitty and that has always been my favourite, I've had special conections with 2 black kitties in the past.. Shadow, bless him is whiney and not popular... so I think I made him my favourite because he's no one else's and because of my connection with black kitties in the past.. Favourites in clothes tend to be because they are comfortable or because I feel good in them. Books tend to be ones that inspired me.. Music ditto.. And so on :)  less
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Opinions are cheap. A dime a dozen. TRUE real-life experiences can be very costly. Sometimes they break you. Ever been broken?:
    I've very nearly been broken a number of times... I am very fortunate that I was made with a survivor spirit ... I won't let things beat me but there have been times when it's been a pretty close run thing.. One of these was recently.. I truly felt as tho...  moreI've very nearly been broken a number of times... I am very fortunate that I was made with a survivor spirit ... I won't let things beat me but there have been times when it's been a pretty close run thing.. One of these was recently.. I truly felt as though I wasn't sure I'd make it out intact.. mentally and indeed for a different but coinciding reason, physically... I am very lucky I had as many protective influences surrounding me as I could possibly get, and I did survive.. well so far.    
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Too many buy LIES THEY WANT TO HEAR and reject truths they don't. Are all humans similarly broken or just Americans?:
    To some extent this is a natural tendency.. but I do see it more in some areas than others.. as if some quarters are trained, indoctrinated, to believe certain things and this supersedes any quest for facts and learning about a situation, evaluating both ...  moreTo some extent this is a natural tendency.. but I do see it more in some areas than others.. as if some quarters are trained, indoctrinated, to believe certain things and this supersedes any quest for facts and learning about a situation, evaluating both sides before making a decision/stance  
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to In the San Fernando Valley going to TOMMY'S for chili/burgers was a "rite of passage" for teenage boys. What rite of passage did YOU honor?:
    Very boringly, I found opening my first bank account a rite of passage.. It seemed very intimidating, almost like for the first time I was an adult and had to start doing adult things.. I was 16 and had never had a bank account.. I am still with the same bank.
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Are kaleidoscope patterns infinite? Do they ever repeat themselves?:
    I'd assume they are not wholly infinite.. they can repeat.. but question is, would we notice..  I was always fascinated by them as a child. Heck I even loved looking at those my kids had :)
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to "There there there. Don't worry your pretty little head. Everything will be alright. You will see". Crap right? How can ANYONE KNOW THAT?:
    Totally agree.. all those statements are well-meaning but they are belittling and also dis-empowering..  Often things won't be ok.. I get this said to me.. everything will be alright, or I hope things get better soon.. NO, they won't.. and it belittl...  moreTotally agree.. all those statements are well-meaning but they are belittling and also dis-empowering..  Often things won't be ok.. I get this said to me.. everything will be alright, or I hope things get better soon.. NO, they won't.. and it belittles my suffering.. I do know though that people say those things from a sense of wanting to make everything ok, from feeling helpless to change things or to help the person..   
    • 1 hour ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to In your opinion which profession attracts the most honorable honest ethical people? Can't think of even one?:
    LOL I was going to say counselling but you hear stories of counsellors effectively abusing their clients.. If they belong to a recognised body then their personal moral ethics are part of their professional conduct..  I am sure there must be some and...  moreLOL I was going to say counselling but you hear stories of counsellors effectively abusing their clients.. If they belong to a recognised body then their personal moral ethics are part of their professional conduct..  I am sure there must be some and I personally think that morals and ethics matter in all professions.. those who cheat, lie and behave badly tend not to be able to keep staff and face, eventually retribution and get in trouble with the law, or can do... so it tends to catch up with them in the end..   less
    • 2 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to I think "Those who can do. Those who can't teach" is Bullsh**! " Those who can do. Those who can't become politicians". There ya go! No?!:
    Well they wouldn't get away with being immoral in many other countries.. and people of many, but not all, countries do hold their politicians accountable.. but yes in some instances that's true.. politicians seem, in some places to get away with behaviour...  moreWell they wouldn't get away with being immoral in many other countries.. and people of many, but not all, countries do hold their politicians accountable.. but yes in some instances that's true.. politicians seem, in some places to get away with behaviour, manners and actions that would be unthinkable to some   
    • 2 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Life can become incredibly complex as you age. Why? You're more experienced and wiser with fewer responsibilities. What's going on?:
    I can only speak for myself on this one.. I do more.. my kids do more... my pets seem to need more.. my work expect blood even though they pay me peanuts and have cut my hours, I study... I try to keep the house and garden under control better, I am tryin...  moreI can only speak for myself on this one.. I do more.. my kids do more... my pets seem to need more.. my work expect blood even though they pay me peanuts and have cut my hours, I study... I try to keep the house and garden under control better, I am trying to improve the house and garden so that one day I can sell and retire somewhere else..  People seem more demanding, both close to and in general... we seem to have to work harder just to stand still...   
    • 2 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    But I promise you... it's entirely to forget dates and even years.. I promise this.. and you can work out why I say that.. As, I think, spunkysenior said, you remember what happened.. just not the date.. I remember every detail but the dates.. no... not e...  moreBut I promise you... it's entirely to forget dates and even years.. I promise this.. and you can work out why I say that.. As, I think, spunkysenior said, you remember what happened.. just not the date.. I remember every detail but the dates.. no... not even the month...   
    • 2 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    Maybe I confused things? I didn't know the story so was commenting generally? 
    • 2 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    Always interested to read your thoughts....you share so generously here.. I for one appreciate that. I definitely see your point and I have been in the same situation and chose not to report it.. I've talked to scores and scores of others who chose not to...  moreAlways interested to read your thoughts....you share so generously here.. I for one appreciate that. I definitely see your point and I have been in the same situation and chose not to report it.. I've talked to scores and scores of others who chose not to report. It's one of these crimes that's almost impossible to prove after the event. I do wonder though... by not reporting are we allowing that to continue? It's just a thought - me thinking aloud...   
    • 2 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    Being the pedant I am, and knowing you are a bit that way inclined too... I would say that if one is only repeating and raising a point for discussion, an accusation based on a news source, that someone has received death threats then one isn't using that...  moreBeing the pedant I am, and knowing you are a bit that way inclined too... I would say that if one is only repeating and raising a point for discussion, an accusation based on a news source, that someone has received death threats then one isn't using that for their own political agenda. I've not followed the story as I say but it's out there.. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-45568450  
    • 3 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to I am a plant-aholic.. what are you addicted to that's legal of fairly legal? I don't want anyone to get themselves in trouble here :P:
    My only claim to American fame.. when I and my daughter visited, we had so many people we spoke to tell us they loved our accent. I would reply that actually, I love theirs too, and I do. My American friend, said, quite cheekily I felt, that they only lik...  moreMy only claim to American fame.. when I and my daughter visited, we had so many people we spoke to tell us they loved our accent. I would reply that actually, I love theirs too, and I do. My American friend, said, quite cheekily I felt, that they only liked how we spoke because they thought we were Toffs, (as in posh people).. Oh well it was nice to dream I am posh for a while :P  
    • 3 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to I am a plant-aholic.. what are you addicted to that's legal of fairly legal? I don't want anyone to get themselves in trouble here :P:
    That sounds like a place I would love too - the more plants the merrier :) It's great that you have been able to grow so many yourself. 
    • 3 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    I don't know the story, but I do know that in cases I have heard about that has happened and it was generally speaking just ordinary people who were the alleged victim and/or perpetrator 
    • 3 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    I know, it's frustrating when people ask things like that.. I am awful - I never remember years and even worse, in my mind I tend to think it was more recent than it was. I believe I have Dyscalculia, like Dyslexia but with numbers, so any date that uses ...  moreI know, it's frustrating when people ask things like that.. I am awful - I never remember years and even worse, in my mind I tend to think it was more recent than it was. I believe I have Dyscalculia, like Dyslexia but with numbers, so any date that uses numbers is almost a blind spot to me.. I can get, 'we have an appointment on Wednesday' but if they say, 'on the 19th I won't tie up that it's Wednesday as numbers are such a vague concept for me.  I have learned to remember I started my job 4 years ago but cannot for the life of me remember the year.. I am guessing same year as my car reg :P  less
    • 3 hours ago
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to What, if anything, has captured your imagination lately? :
    It sounds like you were open to change, which is always half the battle 
    • Tue at 2:46 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Do you forget more questions than you ask, as in, you were going to ask but forgot what it was you were going to ask? :
    Ahh but is that because you forget them before you even ask them :P
    • Tue at 2:30 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever started a discussion:
    I am a plant-aholic.. what are you addicted to that's legal of fairly legal? I don't want anyone to get themselves in trouble here :P
    • Tue at 2:29 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Is true an absolute or are some truths truer than others? What makes it so? Do you know?:
    Truth can often just be a matter of perspective.. Truth based on fact is probably more true.
    • Tue at 1:53 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to What was ABSURD in the long ago yesterday is the only "truth" we have today. The fall was swift. Is there any getting up from it?:
    I think on a general level that that's always the case. We learn we improve, we discover... and so we debunk previous thinking.. 
    • Tue at 1:52 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to We see/experience what short-term excessive alcohol use does to the body. What's the long-term effect of many short-term experierences?:
    We refer to it here as binge drinking.. Liver damage for sure.. memory loss, apparently it destroys brain cells.. I am not really medically inclined but it can cause muscle weakness as people forget to exercise.. can cause appetite depression which is bad...  moreWe refer to it here as binge drinking.. Liver damage for sure.. memory loss, apparently it destroys brain cells.. I am not really medically inclined but it can cause muscle weakness as people forget to exercise.. can cause appetite depression which is bad... alcohol poisoning.. if you repeatedly do that it can't be good?  
    • Tue at 1:44 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    I can tell you factually that many people have trouble remembering dates and years.. I don't know the story but we need to remember that many people deliberately have to shut it out in order to cope.. that's basic human behaviour denial and defence in ord...  moreI can tell you factually that many people have trouble remembering dates and years.. I don't know the story but we need to remember that many people deliberately have to shut it out in order to cope.. that's basic human behaviour denial and defence in order to protect us. For instance whereas you remember all the important dates.. I remember none.. none.. I struggle to remember the year.. I have resorted with latter events to remembering it was the same year as my car reg.. see?  
    • Tue at 1:41 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    I don't know the story but as we know there are a million and one reasons why women, and men! don't report rape.. if you talk to people you will find many who have been raped, abused, etc.  but almost none have reported it..But as you suggest, one of...  moreI don't know the story but as we know there are a million and one reasons why women, and men! don't report rape.. if you talk to people you will find many who have been raped, abused, etc.  but almost none have reported it..But as you suggest, one of the biggest reasons is that the reporting party will find themselves vilified and accused of being a tramp ... and even then the abuser will get away with it  
    • Tue at 1:19 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY?:
    You make a good point, it's almost impossible to prove rape, even if one comes forward at the time. Unless the rape is particularly brutal and there is extensive injury, it's next to impossible to prove it was non-consensual. The reporting rate is relativ...  moreYou make a good point, it's almost impossible to prove rape, even if one comes forward at the time. Unless the rape is particularly brutal and there is extensive injury, it's next to impossible to prove it was non-consensual. The reporting rate is relatively low and the conviction rate way, way lower, with victims often being vilified and having their moral character picked apart. It can be hard to pin down dates and even years..that's pretty normal   
    • Tue at 1:08 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to What's your greatest source of, (non-naughty) pleasure and your greatest source of frustration or disappointment currently?:
    You made me smile... I am interested in this idea of making answers shorter... that's so not me but it would give more time... Is that the idea? 
    • Tue at 1:00 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever started a discussion:
    What's your greatest source of, (non-naughty) pleasure and your greatest source of frustration or disappointment currently?
    For me pleasure is home, garden and my pets.. frustration is the continuing nastiness and frustrations at work. 
    • Tue at 12:14 PM
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    Adaydreambeliever started a discussion:
    What, if anything, has captured your imagination lately?
    • Tue at 12:13 PM
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    Adaydreambeliever started a discussion:
    Do you forget more questions than you ask, as in, you were going to ask but forgot what it was you were going to ask?
    I do... I think of scores of questions a day.. but I forget 99% of them by the time I get here.. think yourselves lucky :P
    • Tue at 12:09 PM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to do you charge your crystals under the full moon:
    I always forget 
    • Tue at 10:02 AM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to If a certain ex approached you for a reconciliation, what is the likelihood you would give yourselves a second chance? :
    Sorry I cannot resist as it made me smile... but, reasons other than. 'honorable, noble, ethical' are generally the most fun though :P
    • Tue at 9:59 AM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to If a certain ex approached you for a reconciliation, what is the likelihood you would give yourselves a second chance? :
    I see you have lots of answers already but since people and relationships is my fav topic, I will add my thoughts :P  I think it would depend.. usually an ex of mine would have to have done something pretty serious to get themselves into the ex categ...  moreI see you have lots of answers already but since people and relationships is my fav topic, I will add my thoughts :P  I think it would depend.. usually an ex of mine would have to have done something pretty serious to get themselves into the ex category... and usually it would have involved a breaking of trust... that's kinda hard to overcome..  I also think patterns tend to repeat.. so whatever it was that broke the relationship before, unless they have fully processed what happened and have honestly changed, or i have.. it's likely to happen again..I had a chance, I think, to get back with someone I considered my soul mate... but when it came to it.. I knew deep down I couldn't really trust him.. that he probably hadn't changed.. so I snuck off and hid under the radar for a while.. and actually he has continued to do the thing he did... so good move not giving that one another try.. There are people I met or nearly met from a few years ago.. they would like to try again and sometimes will pop up...    less
    • Tue at 9:56 AM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Does that black haired Trump guy really look crook to you with his fake tooth some smile and squinty shark's eyes?:
    I am afraid I know nothing of this man so cannot comment
    • Tue at 9:48 AM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Have you lost most of your mind but all of your marbles?:
    I've lost most of my mind but retain most of my marbles.. I mislay them occasionally though
    • Tue at 9:47 AM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Why are some people so fascinated by and interested in politicians? :
    Answering without looking at other replies, so that I am not unduly influenced...  I think it's because it matters.. what they think, what they do, what kind of character they are, whether they are moral, whether they have made good or bad decisions,...  moreAnswering without looking at other replies, so that I am not unduly influenced...  I think it's because it matters.. what they think, what they do, what kind of character they are, whether they are moral, whether they have made good or bad decisions, how they have handled those things.. all these things indicate whether someone is moral or capable.. that matters to me as I wouldn't want ever to have someone useless, immoral or unable to be trusted running things and making proposals that affect me and my life  less
    • Tue at 9:44 AM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Why do some people so love to dig up and pass around "dirt" on others?:
    Passes the time? They have nothing better to do? It makes them feel better about themselves to run others down? All of the above? But being generous sometimes it's borne of a genuine interest in people? I love to know about what's going on in people's liv...  morePasses the time? They have nothing better to do? It makes them feel better about themselves to run others down? All of the above? But being generous sometimes it's borne of a genuine interest in people? I love to know about what's going on in people's lives.. I like to follow their story, to see them develop and overcome difficult times. For me the ONLY thing about my job that I actually like is that I get to make genuine connections with people  
    • Tue at 9:41 AM
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to How on earth do people run on little to no sleep for days without taking drugs or pills?:
    No idea either.. I had a poor night sleep last night, struggled to get to sleep and woke early as I was worried about something.. That's not like me and it really shows as my eyes are killing me and I feel so weary now... SO what I am saying is.. I am bea...  moreNo idea either.. I had a poor night sleep last night, struggled to get to sleep and woke early as I was worried about something.. That's not like me and it really shows as my eyes are killing me and I feel so weary now... SO what I am saying is.. I am beat even with a little less sleep..   
    • September 13
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    Adaydreambeliever replied to Who is the one person in your everyday life you wish would NEVER speak to you again? ~:
    tee hee, I'd be one of those... I don't work in a prison, I work in a college but I really care about the students... treat them like people, they matter to me, their lives matter, their wishes and aspirations matter...And worse... I hate my manager and s...  moretee hee, I'd be one of those... I don't work in a prison, I work in a college but I really care about the students... treat them like people, they matter to me, their lives matter, their wishes and aspirations matter...And worse... I hate my manager and semi-manager because they DON'T care- they treat people like they are sheep, objects to be shoved, shunted and shoehorned into convenient boxes of their choosing.. grr hate 'em.  
    • September 11
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to How can anyone doubt President Trump when he is continuing to make america great again?:
    Because, I am afraid the reality is entirely different to the story his supporters are being fed.. Like when he said he was the most popular republican president ever.. not true.. The economy boost was based on several one off factors and the fact that po...  moreBecause, I am afraid the reality is entirely different to the story his supporters are being fed.. Like when he said he was the most popular republican president ever.. not true.. The economy boost was based on several one off factors and the fact that policies put in place before Trump are beginning to pay off..   
    • September 11
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    Adaydreambeliever replied to Who is the one person in your everyday life you wish would NEVER speak to you again? ~:
    Manager
    • September 11
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    Adaydreambeliever replied to Have you ever closed parenthesis without first opening them?):
    Well you are the expert, I will leave it to you to answer whether I have or have not.. Personally, I can't remember what a parenthywhatsit is. 
    • September 11
  • Adaydreambeliever
    Adaydreambeliever replied to Has anyone ever corrected your posture?:
    Not since I was a kid.. I always thought it was silly at the time. 
    • September 11
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    Adaydreambeliever replied to Is the opposite of a keyword a lockword? What would be an example of a lockword anyway? ~:
    Un-keyword? You've got me there, I think we should just make words up willy-nilly whenever we find a lack.. So lockword or un-keyword would be like 'as in that, when, if?' 
    • September 11
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    Adaydreambeliever replied to Have you ever been disappointed about being appointed? ~:
    Very much so at the moment.. but I still love the job and am very good at it.. it's just all the excrement that goes with it that gets me down
    • September 11
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    Adaydreambeliever replied to When was the last time someone talked you out of doing something stupid? (For me, I ALMOST made my own sandwich . . . ) ~:
    Hmm I must be in bad company, or else they know better than to try to stop me from doing stupid things.. I think the latter :P They just let me go right ahead :P
    • September 11
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  • I am a plant-aholic.. what are you addicted to that's legal of fairly legal? I don't want anyone to get themselves in trouble here :P

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  • What's your greatest source of, (non-naughty) pleasure and your greatest source of frustration or disappointment currently?

    For me pleasure is home, garden and my pets.. frustration is the...  moreFor me pleasure is home, garden and my pets.. frustration is the continuing nastiness and frustrations at work.   
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  • What, if anything, has captured your imagination lately?

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  • Do you forget more questions than you ask, as in, you were going to ask but forgot what it was you were going to ask?

    I do... I think of scores of questions a day.. but I forget 99% ...  moreI do... I think of scores of questions a day.. but I forget 99% of them by the time I get here.. think yourselves lucky :P  
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  • What thing/action/attitude have you done/changed/implemented lately that has made you feel quite pleased with yourself?

    For me it's just being able to get the house a bit tidier, clean...  moreFor me it's just being able to get the house a bit tidier, cleaner and more organised.. it's due to the fact I was off work sick for a long time, the summer holidays, (which I usually work through but didn't this year) and, of course, lots of hard work.. But I am quite pleased with it all.. I was particularly pleased that I'd been mostly able to keep up with everything as we had an unexpected official visitor.. Son's mess is still out of control but hopefully that the pets are impeccably looked after and everything apart from that is clean and tidy was able to show through.   less
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  • How's your humanity holding out? In this sometimes superficial, sometimes cruel world?

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  • Has anyone ever made teriyaki sauce? How did it turn out?

    I can't *easily* get my favourite brand of teriyaki sauce at the...  moreI can't *easily* get my favourite brand of teriyaki sauce at the moment.. so was thinking of making my own... Worth a try?  
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  • Moving on from my objectifying men question.. Have you ever been objectified in that way, and how did it feel?

    Have you had someone who drooled over you and knew that their on...  moreHave you had someone who drooled over you and knew that their only interest in you was physical?   
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  • The early bird catches the? No, seriously, what are the advantages of being an early bird and are you one, or are you a night owl?

    Last post by Pearl - September 9
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  • DO men have a problem with being objectified?

    This was raised on Radio 4's weekend women's hour.. I never hear...  moreThis was raised on Radio 4's weekend women's hour.. I never heard the answer.... so I wonder...   
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  • Did I already ask what your favourite comfort food is? If not... what food always makes you feel comforted and warm/snuggly?

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  • What was your last humbling experience? If you don't want to describe it - how did it make you feel/what was the impact?

    Sometimes the unexpected can hit us square between the eyes and ...  moreSometimes the unexpected can hit us square between the eyes and lead to a valuable and humbling lesson..  For me it came from a Netflix series.. There was a large amount of corruption leading to injustices.. I really hate injustice, I have a problem with it.. People made, what I consider bad choices.. which betrayed others..  And that never sits comfortably... But I began to question.. if I were in their position.. would I do the same? I'd hope not but can I really know? I can't, I cannot know their life history, their experiences and the things that led them to betray..  I felt very down about all this.. I hate to think that people are so easily corruptable.. where's moral fibre gone.. .where's loyalty..  but if I cannot guarantee that I wouldn't do the same, say to protect my family... and I am as bad as them... then surely I cannot judge others for their betrayals? Their lack of loyalty?  I talked to my current counsellor about it.. He said that to betray, to be corruptable....    less
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  • I am a bit of a pedant... what are you? What label would you give yourself.. or labels even?

    Last post by Shuhak - September 7
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  • What the world needs now, is love, sweet love? If not that, what would heal the world?

    Last post by officegirl - September 12
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  • What makes you lose your sense of humour?

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  • Do you ever wonder about people? For example... how easily or otherwise it is to corrupt people... what would it take to corrupt you?

    Are you corruptable? Would you sell out a friend for $300,000 do...  moreAre you corruptable? Would you sell out a friend for $300,000 dollars? What if you were threatened and felt you had no choice but to accept a corrupt offer? Would you tell a lie in court to save yourself or your family?   
    Last post by SpunkySenior - September 7
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  • Is everything tickety-boo?

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  • What weird, slightly irrelevant, non-scary, non-traumatic thing do you remember?

    I remember the breeder and sire/mother of my first pedigree cat....  moreI remember the breeder and sire/mother of my first pedigree cat..  I remember the breeders of the others, of course but not usually their pedigree.  My first pedigree cat I *bumped into* when I went to meet a lady about a dog!  We were looking for our first family dog and we went to meet the breeder.. to my surprise when we got there we were literally invaded by felines.. And I fell in love with the breed... I saw what I felt was THE most handsome feline ever, his name was Rupert!  He was stunning! We got the dog... a puppy but I never forgot the cats... and eventually ended up with a kitten too.. The most awesome feline ever. I still remember his daddy's pedigree name.   less
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  • Do you have a favourite painting? Why is it your favourite?

    Mine is the 'Archduke Leopold's gallery' I first saw it in Petwo...  moreMine is the 'Archduke Leopold's gallery' I first saw it in Petworth Place UK, which is near me but which I only visited relatively recently.  I just fell in love with the picture..  I had someone very special to me whose favourite painting was, 'The fighting Temeraire' - he took me to the National Gallery. London to see it as he loved it so much and wanted me to share his joy regarding the painting.. I am wondering, if other people have favourites?   
    Last post by Pearl - September 7
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  • Would you be missed at work if you were off for a long time?

    Work wise or personally or both? Or Neither? Everyone is replace...  moreWork wise or personally or both? Or Neither? Everyone is replaceable as they say?  
    Last post by Pearl - September 7
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  • Can you quote Shakespeare from memory?

    I can't..  My daughter chats to a lot of Americans, (hmm so...  moreI can't..  My daughter chats to a lot of Americans, (hmm so do I) and one of her American friends asked if we were proper Brits. The criteria apparently was if we could answer maths questions and quote Shakespeare.. I fail on both those counts because I can only quote a line or two here and there.. My older son saved the day by quoting a long speech but I think it's probably fairly unusual that anyone can quote Shakespeare?   
    Last post by Pearl - September 8
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  • Are you older and wiser? Or just older?

    Last post by Pearl - September 8
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  • My daughter kept asking for a 'sammich' today.. should I be worried?

    Is Randy D's Sammich obsession catching? 
    Last post by Pearl - September 8
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  • If you knew you would be poor to the point of struggling for a year ahead, maybe 2 - but that it was for the greater good.. would you do it?

    Is sometimes the short term pain worth the long-term gain? Could...  moreIs sometimes the short term pain worth the long-term gain? Could you do it? Even down to that your family will have to eat less well? And every penny would count?   
    Last post by Pearl - September 9
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  • Is there a food you tasted in your childhood, or in another country that you haven't been able to taste for a long while?

    Macaroni pudding for me..my mum used to make it... . I could mak...  moreMacaroni pudding for me..my mum used to make it... . I could make it but can't be bothered. Even so I think of it frequently and daydream about it...... Also.. Midori and sweet/sour mix... we can't seem to get sweet/sour mix here.. I used to make my own version but again not only am I finding it difficult to get midori, (let alone to afford it!) but just can't seem to find time to make the sweet/sour mix.   
    Last post by Pearl - September 9
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  • Can you name/say one thing that you admire or even envy/feel a little jealous of about another country? Real or perceived.

    This was inspired by a post on another thread.. For me, I e...  moreThis was inspired by a post on another thread.. For me, I envy and/or am jealous of American wooden houses and the land that seems often to come with them... I envy how endlessly adaptable and customisable/extendable they are.. We have brick or stone houses mainly and they are a real pain to alter... Oh and I totally an green with envy of porches... we don't really have them in the same way.  I also envy the sheer amount of space... land... UK is quite a congested little island. I admire Japanese elegance and determination. Such fascinating people. I admire their longevity and hard working ethic.  And I adore green tea with roasted brown rice and Japanese curry.I love almost everything about Italy and Italians :P But especially their passion and their food. There's loads more but you get the idea :P  less
    Last post by Pearl - September 9
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  • Can you name/say one good thing about your ex?

    Doesn't have to be a recent ex.. but something you admired and l...  moreDoesn't have to be a recent ex.. but something you admired and liked them for.   
    Last post by Neelie - September 15
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  • I bought a ceramic butterfly picture today for £1.99 - what's your best or latest bargain?

    We have what we call charity shops here.. places where second-ha...  moreWe have what we call charity shops here.. places where second-hand clothing, shoes, furniture, dvds etc are donated for people to buy - the money then goes to the charity...  My sons used to love browsing charity shops when they were little - and I think it encouraged a love of history and antiques..  But things don't have to be old to be re-loved.. One man's junk is another man's treasure as they say... My butterfly picture will go nicely in my horribly lilac room :P  
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  • Have you had a time in your past when you were richer or poorer than you are now? How was it?

    I used to have a lot more money... I was always fairly sensible ...  moreI used to have a lot more money... I was always fairly sensible but had the freedom to buy or do whatever it was I needed or wanted...  Now I have next to no money, and obviously things are very different.. I have to think about every purchase even those of  £1 or more.  
    Last post by SHARONNA KGB SPY - August 13
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  • What do you do to cheer yourself up when you are a little low or down?

    What's your turn to 'pick me up'.
    Last post by ALF - August 12
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  • Is there a song or album that you love but haven't heard in ages... and would like to listen to, or have done so recently?

    War of the World.. Jeff Wayne... is that well known elsewhere? I...  moreWar of the World.. Jeff Wayne... is that well known elsewhere? It was very popular here decades ago...I never liked it for years.. but then discovered it wasn't at all bad as I had thought - then I grew to love it.. Took daughter to see it and to my surprise she loved it... I love the whole thing = here's a song from it... I chose this one because it reminds me that my daughter used to call the singer Justin Haywire :P  
    Last post by CallMeIshmael - August 12
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  • A serious question for once.. what would you do about my lilac dilemma?

    OK so older son moved out some time ago, daughter moved out of t...  moreOK so older son moved out some time ago, daughter moved out of the little bedroom, into the middle bedroom...  I so want one room that will just stay TIDY... my kids are the messiest on the planet.. SO I want the room to be as tidy as possible, a sea of tranquillity but still has to look like it could be a bedroom if needed.. I might use it for crafts etc. I have a futon which cost me £20 Daughter had the room painted lilac on top and blue in the lower half with a Scooby Doo border and stencilled butterflies - the theme was Scooby Doo in a butterfly garden  :P  I have a very tiny budget and since I already had another can of the lilac paint I repainted it all lilac... and it doesn't help that the woodwork and the radiator are also lilac.. that worked fine with the bottom half of the room blue... but now it just looks well... overwhelmingly lilac!  I could repaint just the bottom half... but I am hoping to avoid doing so.. partly because I am running out of time before I have to go back ...    less
    Last post by JaneS - August 11
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  • Is there anything more fun than painting a radiator?

    I think I am just trying to avoid doing so :P
    Last post by ALF - August 15
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  • Were AM'ers put on this planet just to ask questions? If not why were you put here?

    I think they were.. I think the universe created you all just so...  moreI think they were.. I think the universe created you all just so I can answer questions on here :)  If that's not so... what other purpose do you serve? PS this was a light-hearted question.. but feel free to answer more deeply... what is your purpose on this planet?   
    Last post by officegirl - August 12
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  • What TV series identifies for you, your 'era' - perhaps something that everyone your age watched and you all talked about next morning?

    I think for me it was Auf Wiedersehen Pet.. a series about a gro...  moreI think for me it was Auf Wiedersehen Pet.. a series about a group of construction workers who went over to Germany to find work.. There were follow up series and we watched them grow and develop.. rise and fall, fall and rise.. The theme song was pretty cool.. A couple of clips below.. We also liked The Young Ones about a group of students, it was very cutting edge and anarchic - I guess it appealed to young people back then, when we all thought we were invincible :P  
    Last post by SavvyAnsley - August 11
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  • How would you measure your success? Money/wealth? A nice house? Or something else?

    Last post by Randy D - August 16
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  • Why put off until tomorrow what you can do today - or, why do today what you can put off until tomorrow. Which is better?

    Last post by ben1011 - August 10
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  • Do you get a warm fuzzy-wuzzy glow when you see your favourite person/people are online?

    Last post by Merlin - August 6
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  • What's the reason you ask most of your questions? i.e,. to make people think, to make people laugh? Or?

    Do you think about it a lot beforehand? Or is it a spur of ...  moreDo you think about it a lot beforehand? Or is it a spur of  the moment thing? Mine just pop into my head as I am sure you guessed :P It's probably a fortunate thing for AM that most of them pop straight back out of my head and I forget them so I can't ask nearly as many as I'd like :P  
    Last post by Zack - July 30
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  • What are you not good at but are genuinely perplexed as to why?

    I am sure I am not good at lots of things but the one that is pe...  moreI am sure I am not good at lots of things but the one that is perplexing me is audio books... I have a subscription, I have loads of good titles in my library.. ones I genuinely want to hear.. but I am rubbish at listening to audio books these days.. I either get distracted or fall asleep...  Which is odd... as when my kids were younger I listened to loads as I didn't have time to read books.. I'd have the cd player as it was then on.. and I listened while I did housework.. Maybe I need to be moving.. sitting still doesn't work for me?   less
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  • Are you where you thought you would be in terms of achievement in life?

    This was inspired by something I saw elsewhere... a 20 something...  moreThis was inspired by something I saw elsewhere... a 20 something year old saying how disappointed she was that she hadn't achieved anything important yet.. It made me wonder.. is our purpose to achieve something important?  What happens if we don't?   
    Last post by CallMeIshmael - July 26
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  • Does Trump even KNOW who his enemies and friends are?

    He loves Russia and defends them at every turn, while they are d...  moreHe loves Russia and defends them at every turn, while they are disinterested in a visit and have been quite non-committal in praising Trump/America.. Brits have been one of America's closest, most loyal allies.. yet they have been on the receiving end of Trump's tantrums many a time..And one minute he say's the EU are his 'foes' now he says they are friends.. Can he not make up his mind? Or does he not remember what he says? Or think no one else notices? I cannot help but observe - he seems pretty unstable   less
    Last post by Pearl - July 26
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  • Do you always, or almost always achieve what you set out to do?

    Or do things generally not go to plan?  I set out to make s...  moreOr do things generally not go to plan?  I set out to make several dog bed covers today.. in my mind I was going to make 2 but hoped I may be able to make 4... I ended up making one!! My sewing machine seems to be broken.. so I had to hand sew it, and of course it took ages... I am pleased that I achieved the mission of making a cover for the dog's bed.. but disappointed I couldn't make more as now I will have to do some another time.. But I sorta achieved yes?   
    Last post by Pearl - July 26
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  • Do you think that jelly/jello is underrated? If not then what's something you feel is great but is underrated food wise?

    I loveeeeeee jelly, I think you call it jello.. to me it's perfe...  moreI loveeeeeee jelly, I think you call it jello.. to me it's perfect.. a small, cool treat that's ready and waiting, like convenience food.  
    Last post by Not Sure - July 27
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  • Have you ever been anywhere really posh? Are you a culture vulture?

    I've been to the opera, and ballet and to a really posh place ca...  moreI've been to the opera, and ballet and to a really posh place called Glyndebourne where for some reason you had to to bring a very posh picnic and had to stand up to watch the show!  These are not my normal stomping grounds but I did enjoy a bit of culture vulturing and have got a taste for it..  What made me think of this is that there is apparently a  Netflix like subscription thingy to an Arts based on demand thingy.. Marquee tv.. I wondered if anyone had ever heard of it, or tried it - it's apparently available in the US and Canada too.  less
    Last post by Durdle - July 27
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  • Sophisticated Singles in Sussex... should I be tempted? :P

    Last post by Durdle - July 27
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  • Do you take tea seriously?

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  • What's your main motivation in life? Your raison d'etre?

    Last post by Pearl - July 22
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  • I understand that counselling is considered more acceptable in the US? Is that right or do people still assume it's for people who are nuts?

    Or in some way weak? Here in the UK things are changing but many...  moreOr in some way weak? Here in the UK things are changing but many still believe counselling is for those who are weak, or who don't have any friends, or who are a bit mad...   
    Last post by Durdle - September 12
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  • Do you like to make yourself 'to do' lists, and do you actually follow them?

    I kinda like making them, or more, I worry I will forget stuff a...  moreI kinda like making them, or more, I worry I will forget stuff and I like to be productive.. I always give myself massive, 'to do' lists at the weekend, which is probably a shame, and at the start of the summer break I have an enormous list of stuff to catch up on.... I usually manage to do most of it too and that is a good feeling.   
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  • Dunno what DWB is but stats here reveal that black people are mo...  moreDunno what DWB is but stats here reveal that black people are more likely to be stopped and searched than white :(  
    in Black folks here...Have you ever been pulled over for DWB? My brother-in-law has several times. September 19, 2018 9:51 AM MDT 3
  • It is an interesting subject isn't it.. very much to think about...  moreIt is an interesting subject isn't it.. very much to think about.. I think I meant allow as in... if so many women are abused and raped and so few, relatively speaking report, and fewer still get convicted, (that part's out of our control as you demonstrate) then isn't this part of allowing... someway, somehow the message should be clear that it's not ok to rape or abuse anyone ever... but that's not the message that's getting through... or not to everyone... So it was more a thoughtful thing.. I wonder if the fact most are unreported really hides the magnitude of the problem.. The problem is, of course, that we aren't equipped or strong enough... I don't advocate blowing anyone's brains out either   less
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 19, 2018 9:50 AM MDT 1
  • Yep. I blame them.. because there's always a choice.. Someone, o...  moreYep. I blame them.. because there's always a choice.. Someone, or even some people on here reminded me of that a while ago.. when I posted a question about people being corruptible. we all are, it's just the price or threat that determines whether or how long we hold out.. but at the end of the day.. we do have a choice..   
    in When the only way they can survive is to lie, they lie. Whether t'is a SCOTUS nominee or a presidential candidate. Do you blame them? September 19, 2018 9:45 AM MDT 0
  • You know.. I was always a very open person.. online and in perso...  moreYou know.. I was always a very open person.. online and in person.. I'd tell anyone anything.. and believed that was the best way to be.. no secrets and no one can harm you.. but I learned, and this was relatively recently, within the last year, that actually if you tell secrets or even be open... then people can use that against you.. I am not fairly guarded, especially at work, it's a horrible feeling.. but I have found it necessary..   
    in Do you have secrets? Things you will never share with anyone for any reason? Do you think we all do? September 19, 2018 9:42 AM MDT 0
  • I think sometimes it's un-explainable... and dependant on the ob...  moreI think sometimes it's un-explainable... and dependant on the object/person etc.. I love all my felines.. but I have a favourite.. his name is Shadow.. and I love him because he is a black kitty and that has always been my favourite, I've had special conections with 2 black kitties in the past.. Shadow, bless him is whiney and not popular... so I think I made him my favourite because he's no one else's and because of my connection with black kitties in the past.. Favourites in clothes tend to be because they are comfortable or because I feel good in them. Books tend to be ones that inspired me.. Music ditto.. And so on :)  less
    in What is it the makes something your "favorite"? Whether it's shoes or clothes or kitchen gadgets or shop tools you always reach for it. WHY? September 19, 2018 9:40 AM MDT 0
  • I've very nearly been broken a number of times... I am very fort...  moreI've very nearly been broken a number of times... I am very fortunate that I was made with a survivor spirit ... I won't let things beat me but there have been times when it's been a pretty close run thing.. One of these was recently.. I truly felt as though I wasn't sure I'd make it out intact.. mentally and indeed for a different but coinciding reason, physically... I am very lucky I had as many protective influences surrounding me as I could possibly get, and I did survive.. well so far.    
    in Opinions are cheap. A dime a dozen. TRUE real-life experiences can be very costly. Sometimes they break you. Ever been broken? September 19, 2018 9:37 AM MDT 0
  • To some extent this is a natural tendency.. but I do see it more...  moreTo some extent this is a natural tendency.. but I do see it more in some areas than others.. as if some quarters are trained, indoctrinated, to believe certain things and this supersedes any quest for facts and learning about a situation, evaluating both sides before making a decision/stance  
    in Too many buy LIES THEY WANT TO HEAR and reject truths they don't. Are all humans similarly broken or just Americans? September 19, 2018 9:34 AM MDT 0
  • Very boringly, I found opening my first bank account a rite of p...  moreVery boringly, I found opening my first bank account a rite of passage.. It seemed very intimidating, almost like for the first time I was an adult and had to start doing adult things.. I was 16 and had never had a bank account.. I am still with the same bank.  
    in In the San Fernando Valley going to TOMMY'S for chili/burgers was a "rite of passage" for teenage boys. What rite of passage did YOU honor? September 19, 2018 9:31 AM MDT 0
  • I'd assume they are not wholly infinite.. they can repeat.. but ...  moreI'd assume they are not wholly infinite.. they can repeat.. but question is, would we notice..  I was always fascinated by them as a child. Heck I even loved looking at those my kids had :)  
    in Are kaleidoscope patterns infinite? Do they ever repeat themselves? September 19, 2018 9:29 AM MDT 0
  • Totally agree.. all those statements are well-meaning but they a...  moreTotally agree.. all those statements are well-meaning but they are belittling and also dis-empowering..  Often things won't be ok.. I get this said to me.. everything will be alright, or I hope things get better soon.. NO, they won't.. and it belittles my suffering.. I do know though that people say those things from a sense of wanting to make everything ok, from feeling helpless to change things or to help the person..   
    in "There there there. Don't worry your pretty little head. Everything will be alright. You will see". Crap right? How can ANYONE KNOW THAT? September 19, 2018 9:28 AM MDT 0
  • LOL I was going to say counselling but you hear stories of couns...  moreLOL I was going to say counselling but you hear stories of counsellors effectively abusing their clients.. If they belong to a recognised body then their personal moral ethics are part of their professional conduct..  I am sure there must be some and I personally think that morals and ethics matter in all professions.. those who cheat, lie and behave badly tend not to be able to keep staff and face, eventually retribution and get in trouble with the law, or can do... so it tends to catch up with them in the end..   less
    in In your opinion which profession attracts the most honorable honest ethical people? Can't think of even one? September 19, 2018 9:24 AM MDT 0
  • Well they wouldn't get away with being immoral in many other cou...  moreWell they wouldn't get away with being immoral in many other countries.. and people of many, but not all, countries do hold their politicians accountable.. but yes in some instances that's true.. politicians seem, in some places to get away with behaviour, manners and actions that would be unthinkable to some   
    in I think "Those who can do. Those who can't teach" is Bullsh**! " Those who can do. Those who can't become politicians". There ya go! No?! September 19, 2018 9:21 AM MDT 0
  • I can only speak for myself on this one.. I do more.. my kids do...  moreI can only speak for myself on this one.. I do more.. my kids do more... my pets seem to need more.. my work expect blood even though they pay me peanuts and have cut my hours, I study... I try to keep the house and garden under control better, I am trying to improve the house and garden so that one day I can sell and retire somewhere else..  People seem more demanding, both close to and in general... we seem to have to work harder just to stand still...   
    in Life can become incredibly complex as you age. Why? You're more experienced and wiser with fewer responsibilities. What's going on? September 19, 2018 9:18 AM MDT 1
  • But I promise you... it's entirely to forget dates and even year...  moreBut I promise you... it's entirely to forget dates and even years.. I promise this.. and you can work out why I say that.. As, I think, spunkysenior said, you remember what happened.. just not the date.. I remember every detail but the dates.. no... not even the month...   
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 19, 2018 9:13 AM MDT 1
  • Maybe I confused things? I didn't know the story so was commenti...  moreMaybe I confused things? I didn't know the story so was commenting generally?   
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 19, 2018 9:11 AM MDT 0
  • Always interested to read your thoughts....you share so generous...  moreAlways interested to read your thoughts....you share so generously here.. I for one appreciate that. I definitely see your point and I have been in the same situation and chose not to report it.. I've talked to scores and scores of others who chose not to report. It's one of these crimes that's almost impossible to prove after the event. I do wonder though... by not reporting are we allowing that to continue? It's just a thought - me thinking aloud...   
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 19, 2018 9:10 AM MDT 1
  • Being the pedant I am, and knowing you are a bit that way inclin...  moreBeing the pedant I am, and knowing you are a bit that way inclined too... I would say that if one is only repeating and raising a point for discussion, an accusation based on a news source, that someone has received death threats then one isn't using that for their own political agenda. I've not followed the story as I say but it's out there.. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-45568450  
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 19, 2018 7:52 AM MDT 0
  • My only claim to American fame.. when I and my daughter visited,...  moreMy only claim to American fame.. when I and my daughter visited, we had so many people we spoke to tell us they loved our accent. I would reply that actually, I love theirs too, and I do. My American friend, said, quite cheekily I felt, that they only liked how we spoke because they thought we were Toffs, (as in posh people).. Oh well it was nice to dream I am posh for a while :P  
    in I am a plant-aholic.. what are you addicted to that's legal of fairly legal? I don't want anyone to get themselves in trouble here :P September 19, 2018 7:47 AM MDT 1
  • That sounds like a place I would love too - the more plants the ...  moreThat sounds like a place I would love too - the more plants the merrier :) It's great that you have been able to grow so many yourself.   
    in I am a plant-aholic.. what are you addicted to that's legal of fairly legal? I don't want anyone to get themselves in trouble here :P September 19, 2018 7:44 AM MDT 2
  • I don't know the story, but I do know that in cases I have heard...  moreI don't know the story, but I do know that in cases I have heard about that has happened and it was generally speaking just ordinary people who were the alleged victim and/or perpetrator   
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 19, 2018 7:41 AM MDT 0
  • I know, it's frustrating when people ask things like that.. I am...  moreI know, it's frustrating when people ask things like that.. I am awful - I never remember years and even worse, in my mind I tend to think it was more recent than it was. I believe I have Dyscalculia, like Dyslexia but with numbers, so any date that uses numbers is almost a blind spot to me.. I can get, 'we have an appointment on Wednesday' but if they say, 'on the 19th I won't tie up that it's Wednesday as numbers are such a vague concept for me.  I have learned to remember I started my job 4 years ago but cannot for the life of me remember the year.. I am guessing same year as my car reg :P  less
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 19, 2018 7:40 AM MDT 1
  • It sounds like you were open to change, which is always half the...  moreIt sounds like you were open to change, which is always half the battle   
    in What, if anything, has captured your imagination lately? September 18, 2018 2:46 PM MDT 4
  • Ahh but is that because you forget them before you even ask them :P
    in Do you forget more questions than you ask, as in, you were going to ask but forgot what it was you were going to ask? September 18, 2018 2:30 PM MDT 1
  • in I am a plant-aholic.. what are you addicted to that's legal of fairly legal? I don't want anyone to get themselves in trouble here :P September 18, 2018 2:29 PM MDT 0
  • Truth can often just be a matter of perspective.. Truth based on...  moreTruth can often just be a matter of perspective.. Truth based on fact is probably more true.  
    in Is true an absolute or are some truths truer than others? What makes it so? Do you know? September 18, 2018 1:53 PM MDT 1
  • I think on a general level that that's always the case. We learn...  moreI think on a general level that that's always the case. We learn we improve, we discover... and so we debunk previous thinking..   
    in What was ABSURD in the long ago yesterday is the only "truth" we have today. The fall was swift. Is there any getting up from it? September 18, 2018 1:52 PM MDT 1
  • We refer to it here as binge drinking.. Liver damage for sure.. ...  moreWe refer to it here as binge drinking.. Liver damage for sure.. memory loss, apparently it destroys brain cells.. I am not really medically inclined but it can cause muscle weakness as people forget to exercise.. can cause appetite depression which is bad... alcohol poisoning.. if you repeatedly do that it can't be good?  
    in We see/experience what short-term excessive alcohol use does to the body. What's the long-term effect of many short-term experierences? September 18, 2018 1:44 PM MDT 1
  • I can tell you factually that many people have trouble rememberi...  moreI can tell you factually that many people have trouble remembering dates and years.. I don't know the story but we need to remember that many people deliberately have to shut it out in order to cope.. that's basic human behaviour denial and defence in order to protect us. For instance whereas you remember all the important dates.. I remember none.. none.. I struggle to remember the year.. I have resorted with latter events to remembering it was the same year as my car reg.. see?  
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 18, 2018 1:41 PM MDT 2
  • I don't know the story but as we know there are a million and on...  moreI don't know the story but as we know there are a million and one reasons why women, and men! don't report rape.. if you talk to people you will find many who have been raped, abused, etc.  but almost none have reported it..But as you suggest, one of the biggest reasons is that the reporting party will find themselves vilified and accused of being a tramp ... and even then the abuser will get away with it  
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 18, 2018 1:19 PM MDT 3
    This post was edited by Adaydreambeliever at September 18, 2018 1:19 PM MDT
  • You make a good point, it's almost impossible to prove rape, eve...  moreYou make a good point, it's almost impossible to prove rape, even if one comes forward at the time. Unless the rape is particularly brutal and there is extensive injury, it's next to impossible to prove it was non-consensual. The reporting rate is relatively low and the conviction rate way, way lower, with victims often being vilified and having their moral character picked apart. It can be hard to pin down dates and even years..that's pretty normal   
    in You wonder WHY women who are sexually abused don't come forward? Kav/super don adorers are attacking her. WHY? September 18, 2018 1:08 PM MDT 2
  • You made me smile... I am interested in this idea of making answ...  moreYou made me smile... I am interested in this idea of making answers shorter... that's so not me but it would give more time... Is that the idea?   
    in What's your greatest source of, (non-naughty) pleasure and your greatest source of frustration or disappointment currently? September 18, 2018 1:00 PM MDT 3
  • For me pleasure is home, garden and my pets.. frustration is the...  moreFor me pleasure is home, garden and my pets.. frustration is the continuing nastiness and frustrations at work.   
    in What's your greatest source of, (non-naughty) pleasure and your greatest source of frustration or disappointment currently? September 18, 2018 12:14 PM MDT 0
  • in What, if anything, has captured your imagination lately? September 18, 2018 12:13 PM MDT 0
  • I do... I think of scores of questions a day.. but I forget 99% ...  moreI do... I think of scores of questions a day.. but I forget 99% of them by the time I get here.. think yourselves lucky :P  
    in Do you forget more questions than you ask, as in, you were going to ask but forgot what it was you were going to ask? September 18, 2018 12:09 PM MDT 0
  • I always forget 
    in do you charge your crystals under the full moon September 18, 2018 10:02 AM MDT 0
  • Sorry I cannot resist as it made me smile... but, reasons other ...  moreSorry I cannot resist as it made me smile... but, reasons other than. 'honorable, noble, ethical' are generally the most fun though :P  
    in If a certain ex approached you for a reconciliation, what is the likelihood you would give yourselves a second chance? September 18, 2018 9:59 AM MDT 1
  • I see you have lots of answers already but since people and rela...  moreI see you have lots of answers already but since people and relationships is my fav topic, I will add my thoughts :P  I think it would depend.. usually an ex of mine would have to have done something pretty serious to get themselves into the ex category... and usually it would have involved a breaking of trust... that's kinda hard to overcome..  I also think patterns tend to repeat.. so whatever it was that broke the relationship before, unless they have fully processed what happened and have honestly changed, or i have.. it's likely to happen again..I had a chance, I think, to get back with someone I considered my soul mate... but when it came to it.. I knew deep down I couldn't really trust him.. that he probably hadn't changed.. so I snuck off and hid under the radar for a while.. and actually he has continued to do the thing he did... so good move not giving that one another try.. There are people I met or nearly met from a few years ago.. they would like to try again and sometimes will pop up...    less
    in If a certain ex approached you for a reconciliation, what is the likelihood you would give yourselves a second chance? September 18, 2018 9:56 AM MDT 3
  • I am afraid I know nothing of this man so cannot comment
    in Does that black haired Trump guy really look crook to you with his fake tooth some smile and squinty shark's eyes? September 18, 2018 9:48 AM MDT 0
  • I've lost most of my mind but retain most of my marbles.. I misl...  moreI've lost most of my mind but retain most of my marbles.. I mislay them occasionally though  
    in Have you lost most of your mind but all of your marbles? September 18, 2018 9:47 AM MDT 1
  • Answering without looking at other replies, so that I am not und...  moreAnswering without looking at other replies, so that I am not unduly influenced...  I think it's because it matters.. what they think, what they do, what kind of character they are, whether they are moral, whether they have made good or bad decisions, how they have handled those things.. all these things indicate whether someone is moral or capable.. that matters to me as I wouldn't want ever to have someone useless, immoral or unable to be trusted running things and making proposals that affect me and my life  less
    in Why are some people so fascinated by and interested in politicians? September 18, 2018 9:44 AM MDT 2
  • Passes the time? They have nothing better to do? It makes them f...  morePasses the time? They have nothing better to do? It makes them feel better about themselves to run others down? All of the above? But being generous sometimes it's borne of a genuine interest in people? I love to know about what's going on in people's lives.. I like to follow their story, to see them develop and overcome difficult times. For me the ONLY thing about my job that I actually like is that I get to make genuine connections with people  
    in Why do some people so love to dig up and pass around "dirt" on others? September 18, 2018 9:41 AM MDT 2
  • No idea either.. I had a poor night sleep last night, struggled ...  moreNo idea either.. I had a poor night sleep last night, struggled to get to sleep and woke early as I was worried about something.. That's not like me and it really shows as my eyes are killing me and I feel so weary now... SO what I am saying is.. I am beat even with a little less sleep..   
    in How on earth do people run on little to no sleep for days without taking drugs or pills? September 13, 2018 3:21 PM MDT 2
  • tee hee, I'd be one of those... I don't work in a prison, I work...  moretee hee, I'd be one of those... I don't work in a prison, I work in a college but I really care about the students... treat them like people, they matter to me, their lives matter, their wishes and aspirations matter...And worse... I hate my manager and semi-manager because they DON'T care- they treat people like they are sheep, objects to be shoved, shunted and shoehorned into convenient boxes of their choosing.. grr hate 'em.  
    in Who is the one person in your everyday life you wish would NEVER speak to you again? ~ September 11, 2018 4:07 PM MDT 2
    This post was edited by Adaydreambeliever at September 11, 2018 4:07 PM MDT
  • Because, I am afraid the reality is entirely different to the st...  moreBecause, I am afraid the reality is entirely different to the story his supporters are being fed.. Like when he said he was the most popular republican president ever.. not true.. The economy boost was based on several one off factors and the fact that policies put in place before Trump are beginning to pay off..   
    in How can anyone doubt President Trump when he is continuing to make america great again? September 11, 2018 8:58 AM MDT 2
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    in Who is the one person in your everyday life you wish would NEVER speak to you again? ~ September 11, 2018 8:55 AM MDT 3
  • Well you are the expert, I will leave it to you to answer whethe...  moreWell you are the expert, I will leave it to you to answer whether I have or have not.. Personally, I can't remember what a parenthywhatsit is.   
    in Have you ever closed parenthesis without first opening them?) September 11, 2018 8:54 AM MDT 1
  • Not since I was a kid.. I always thought it was silly at the time. 
    in Has anyone ever corrected your posture? September 11, 2018 8:50 AM MDT 3
  • Un-keyword? You've got me there, I think we should just make wor...  moreUn-keyword? You've got me there, I think we should just make words up willy-nilly whenever we find a lack.. So lockword or un-keyword would be like 'as in that, when, if?'   
    in Is the opposite of a keyword a lockword? What would be an example of a lockword anyway? ~ September 11, 2018 8:47 AM MDT 1
  • Very much so at the moment.. but I still love the job and am ver...  moreVery much so at the moment.. but I still love the job and am very good at it.. it's just all the excrement that goes with it that gets me down  
    in Have you ever been disappointed about being appointed? ~ September 11, 2018 8:42 AM MDT 0
  • Hmm I must be in bad company, or else they know better than to t...  moreHmm I must be in bad company, or else they know better than to try to stop me from doing stupid things.. I think the latter :P They just let me go right ahead :P  
    in When was the last time someone talked you out of doing something stupid? (For me, I ALMOST made my own sandwich . . . ) ~ September 11, 2018 8:40 AM MDT 1
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