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Nom de Plume

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  • Member Type: Mugger
  • Profile Views: 486 views
  • Friends: 9 friends
  • Last Update: 8 hours ago
  • Joined: August 30, 2018

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  • Screen Name* Nom de Plume
  • Gender* Female
  • Where do you live? Australia, Eastern Standard Time
  • About Me: Green, ath­eist, vege­tarian and­ small-l l­iberal.
    Happy to f­orm friend­ships, pre­ferably wi­th like-mi­nded.
    Not intere­sted in se­x or roman­tic affair­s.

    Interests ­and activi­ties:
    Writing an­d reading ­- novels, ­short fict­ion, poetr­y.
    Conservati­on and lan­d manageme­nt -
    living in ­remote rur­al area cl­ose to wil­derness.
    Nature, wi­ldlife - f­lora and f­auna.
    All aspect­s of art, ­culture, p­hilosophy ­and psycho­logy.
    62 years o­ld. Marrie­d.

    Former lif­e - sculpt­or & a­rt teacher­ - 20 year­s
    breeder an­d trainer ­of Arabian­ horses - ­20 years
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  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to My region is getting an IKEA this Spring. Is the hype of needing to visit this store truly warranted?:
    Hype is rarely warranted on anything commercial; it's just salesmanship - and of course no one in business will tell you the disadvantages of their products.Hype is always at least half con.IKEA has an interesting model - all of which is aimed at cost sav...  moreHype is rarely warranted on anything commercial; it's just salesmanship - and of course no one in business will tell you the disadvantages of their products.Hype is always at least half con.IKEA has an interesting model - all of which is aimed at cost savings.Cruising through the displays is good for seeing new ideas in how to design for space saving.It's style is egalitarian, simple and modern.Not everyone finds it easy to follow the instructions for putting the furniture together - has been a successful topic for comedians.Many of the materials are bad for the environment and for health within a household. Chipboard, plywood and laminated plastics give off carcinogenic fumes for up to 14 years after the date of manufacture. In a fire, the synthetic materials are highly flammable and give off lethally toxic gases.Not built for high durability, meaning built-in obsolescence and no re-sale value - the old stuff ends up in landfill.From my point of view, the two best ways to furnish cheaply are to buy second hand ...    less
    • 8 hours ago
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    Nom de Plume replied to For those of you who fit this category, what is the number one thing that makes you glad you don't have or are not raising minor children? ~:
    I'm glad that the children and grandchildren I might have had will not have to experience the effects of global warming.I'm glad that I did not contribute to the overpopulation of the world.I didn't always feel or think that way, but I have since my late forties.
    • 8 hours ago
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    Nom de Plume replied to Are young people today (under 40) more hesitant and careful in forming close committed relationships?:
    It varies depending on their character, social milieu, and values.Taken on a large scale, I think they have been ever since the eighties and the proliferation of AIDS and other STD's.I believe the internet by default distorts the apparent looseness and la...  moreIt varies depending on their character, social milieu, and values.Taken on a large scale, I think they have been ever since the eighties and the proliferation of AIDS and other STD's.I believe the internet by default distorts the apparent looseness and lasciviousness of Westerners - because those who hunt for it find only those who post it.Those who don't engage with it remain invisible.  
    • 8 hours ago
  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to Do you understand what's going on with Brexit?:
    I've followed the news on it since it was first mooted.What do you want to know?
    • 8 hours ago
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    Nom de Plume replied to Should the government do welfare checks on all home-schooled children?:
    That seems a weird idea to me.I've known quite a few parents who home schooled - watched the kids grow up, saw them transition into responsible, independent and successful young adults.I saw no evidence of any kind of child abuse; on the contrary, the kid...  moreThat seems a weird idea to me.I've known quite a few parents who home schooled - watched the kids grow up, saw them transition into responsible, independent and successful young adults.I saw no evidence of any kind of child abuse; on the contrary, the kids got much better educations than what was possible via the state schools, and  the families shared asocial life, so there was no lack of opportunities for the kids to become well socialised.None of the parents were ever on welfare; they had jobs or businesses or were farmers.  less
    • 8 hours ago
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    Nom de Plume replied to So let me get this straight: a black guy mentions race = he is a racist?????:
    It is difficult to experience what others experience - I agree.But I think it helps a lot to listen to what one another have to say about experiences and feelings - listen carefully, deeply and with empathy.There are lots of YouTube clips and TED talks wh...  moreIt is difficult to experience what others experience - I agree.But I think it helps a lot to listen to what one another have to say about experiences and feelings - listen carefully, deeply and with empathy.There are lots of YouTube clips and TED talks which do a great job of explaining how differently people of the non-dominant cultures and/or races are treated.One can look up "micro-racism" - the list is very telling of the countless minute slights people experience everyday, many times a day, through both conscious and unconscious racism. Imagine what that would be like to live with.There is another problem that is now increasingly being recognised and understood: intergenerational trauma. Think of a slave who was born into captivity and raised with little or no education, inadequate nutrition and shelter, constant over-work and exhaustion,, frequent rape, and forced breeding of children, treated less well than domestic livestock, frequent ill-health and early deaths, whippings that leave huge welted scars, c...    less
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Can some people come from far, far away and another planet of thought?:
    A tiny and eccentric minority of people believe in aliens from other planets.Usually their reasons for wanting to believe it are emotional and unconscious.There are plenty of sound reasons not to believe it.
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Three and a half million year old human foot and a one and a half million year old complete boy Skelton found in a cave in S-Africa .Wh:
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Do animals attack more because they are territorial or protecting or hungry or mean?:
    I've had a long history with horses.No horse is naturally mean, even in the wild.A stallion will fight another for a mate.A mare will defend her foal against a predator or another mare trying to steal her foal.Any horse will defend itself against a predat...  moreI've had a long history with horses.No horse is naturally mean, even in the wild.A stallion will fight another for a mate.A mare will defend her foal against a predator or another mare trying to steal her foal.Any horse will defend itself against a predator.Their first move is to shy &/or bolt.They will only fight (rear, buck, kick, strike or bite) if there is no other option.It takes regular mishandling by humans to make a horse snappy or prone to attack.And they never forget.If a horse is treated well, in accordance with its needs, it will never attack and never display any sign of anger or resentment.  less
    • February 16
  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to Do animals attack more because they are territorial or protecting or hungry or mean?:
    If an animal attacks it always has a good reason.No animal is "mean" unless it has been trained to attackor has rabies or some disease that affects its brain.
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to In your opinion, are there distinct differences between the uses of "excuse me" and "pardon me", or are they completely interchangeable? ~:
    "Excuse me" may be said just before one is about to do something a bit disagreeble or rude.If the reason is good, say because of an urgent priority of which the other is unaware, then the person is usually excused or forgiven."Pardon me" is used after one...  more"Excuse me" may be said just before one is about to do something a bit disagreeble or rude.If the reason is good, say because of an urgent priority of which the other is unaware, then the person is usually excused or forgiven."Pardon me" is used after one has already done something unwelcome as a way of asking for forgiveness.  
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to President Trump thinks he won't receive the Nobel Peace Prize. Isn't that a crying shame?:
    I'm amazed.I've evidently underestimated his intelligence.That's a warning to me to be more careful about my assumptions.
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to So let me get this straight: a black guy mentions race = he is a racist?????:
    Nup.Just mentioning or discussing race doesn't mean a person is a racist.But if someone thinks their race should have greater rights over another'sor their race has intrinsically greater or lesser abilities than another'sor sterotypes a person on the basi...  moreNup.Just mentioning or discussing race doesn't mean a person is a racist.But if someone thinks their race should have greater rights over another'sor their race has intrinsically greater or lesser abilities than another'sor sterotypes a person on the basis of their race and adjusts their expectations of that person accordinglythen that definitely is racism.And racism is bad for everyone, the despiser, the despised and all their loved ones.There is no justification for it.  
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Anybody want to fight me? I’m feeling a bit left out here today -_- :
    Many of us feel left out, both here and in life in general.It's not the place or the people.Though I think online social sties are now notorious for increasing people's isolation and loneliness.There's no substitute for real life relationships.For me, it'...  moreMany of us feel left out, both here and in life in general.It's not the place or the people.Though I think online social sties are now notorious for increasing people's isolation and loneliness.There's no substitute for real life relationships.For me, it's something about the kind of interactions that I find enjoyable; I enjoy intellectual or  emotionally intimate conversations most - the deeper the better.This doesn't often match with what others also enjoy.It is also not easy to create or sustain via an online site.I content myself with a very small circle of uniquely individual friends in real life.And that's okay.I no longer expect or hope for anything when I come here.Once in an odd moon, someone asks a question that makes me research or really think,and that's enjoyable enough to keep me coming back.  less
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to I never understood how we can retire and own a house :
    Easier to achieve if you never have children, and if you have a good steady relationship with a spouse who earns and saves in the same way.If you don't want children, take personal responsibility to ensure it; remember that it is a common occurrence for c...  moreEasier to achieve if you never have children, and if you have a good steady relationship with a spouse who earns and saves in the same way.If you don't want children, take personal responsibility to ensure it; remember that it is a common occurrence for clucky women to deceive men and get "accidentally" pregnant with the intent of trapping the man into obligations to help care for the child.You can do it without a partner, which avoids the risk of losing a lot through divorce.If you don't marry, the laws of who owes what to whom vary between states and countries.You live frugally throughout your life, necessities only: home cooked meals, no entertainments or alcohol, no pets or expensive hobbies or interests, no travel or holidays, second-hand clothing and cheap shoes. Live close enough to study or work to get there on foot or by bicycle. Minimise use of electricity.You study to get the qualifications for a well-paid job.Apart from taxes you also pay superannuation and insurance premiums.You rent a cheap room or...    less
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Three and a half million year old human foot and a one and a half million year old complete boy Skelton found in a cave in S-Africa .Wh:
    All the links between every stage of evolution.The "missing links" are becoming increasingly minute differences in variation between a species and its predecessor - but the creationists will always say that it isn't complete enough for proof.
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Do you have a long gone cat ten at ions with words?:
    No,my concatenations with words are ongoing.
    • February 16
  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to What is the rudest, most disrespectful, most insulting, etc. thing that a child under 12 has ever said to you?:
    "You stink, Miss."It was a hot day. I was on duty in the school playground, sitting on the bench just watching them all during recess. She sat down beside me, in silence for a little while, and then came out with it.Since then I've always worn a deodorant...  more"You stink, Miss."It was a hot day. I was on duty in the school playground, sitting on the bench just watching them all during recess. She sat down beside me, in silence for a little while, and then came out with it.Since then I've always worn a deodorant when out in public.  
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Where is it written that the older you get the longer it takes to heal? Is it an ABSOLUTE TRUTH for everyone everywhere? :
    You're always welcome, Rosie. It's a pleasure.Thank you for asking so many interesting questions - often questions that prompt me to think, research or both - two of my favourite pass-times.
    • February 16
  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to If you ever compare life as a human to any other species -what do you think is a disadvantage(s) of being human?:
    arrogance
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Why are Zack and Randy D the only two black guys active on this website? :
    Why so sure?
    • February 16
  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to They're ALL egregious, but what do you consider the worst stereotype in cop movies/TV shows? :
    If he’s a likeable type of hero-cop or hero detective then he is honest, has a great depth of understanding of human nature, is observant, questioning, skeptical and logical, and has compassion for victims and innocents.
    He has foibles: a way of pla...  more    If he’s a likeable type of hero-cop or hero detective then he is honest, has a great depth of understanding of human nature, is observant, questioning, skeptical and logical, and has compassion for victims and innocents.
    He has foibles: a way of playing poker with suspects, of tilting his head, of hesitating before delivering a punch line. He’s often not very nice to his offsides or trainees. He may have a sarcastic sense of humour.
    He has weaknesses: his marriage is on the rocks, his wife is dead or he was always too dedicated to his job to find a mate, he has a wayward teenage daughter, a Dad in a nursing home, or a brother in a psyche ward. He drinks too much. He’s fat and unfit or pasty, round-shouldered and nerdy-thin, when he knows he should be buff and able to run a marathon.
    He’s tough: no insult or taunt disturbs his self-assurance, no injury stops him from coming back to work before fully recovered, no PTSD haunts him.  less
    • February 16
  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to Wait, is it possible that Tildism might be a religion? (Perhaps that helps to explain some things . . . ):
    The Tilde is to Tildism as the Cross to Christianity or the Eight-Spoked Wheel to Buddhism.The shape of the Tilde symbolises The Wave, the eternal changeability of existence in this universe, the eternal dynamic of rebalancing and the finding of equilibri...  moreThe Tilde is to Tildism as the Cross to Christianity or the Eight-Spoked Wheel to Buddhism.The shape of the Tilde symbolises The Wave, the eternal changeability of existence in this universe, the eternal dynamic of rebalancing and the finding of equilibrium. It's ethos is balance and moderation in all things, even moderation in moderation. It acknowledges the vital importance of freely given generosity, of nurturing the well-being of life in all its plurality, of cultivating wisdom through close attention, observation, experience and memory, and of cultivating love through attention, empathy and compassion.  less
    • February 16
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    Nom de Plume replied to Do you also think that policemen often think they can do anything they want ?:
    They're trained to act in an authoritative way,because their job is to ensure and enforce that others obey the law.
    But a police person would have to be a be mad to think he or she could do anything; guns or no guns, the law will catch up with them at som...  more    They're trained to act in an authoritative way,because their job is to ensure and enforce that others obey the law.
    But a police person would have to be a be mad to think he or she could do anything; guns or no guns, the law will catch up with them at some point.There are minor situations in which they do have the right of discretion on how to respond.And there are plenty of situations in which they make errors of judgement.But so many police are needed that there is no possibility to select only suitable candidates.Which means there will always be a percentage who have the wrong attitudes and may be prone to abuse of their powers and to corruption.I've known two or three policemen socially, distantly, but have never had cause to be on the receiving end of police attention.So what I know is only the theory of how it should be, memories of abuses that made the news, and assumptions based on awareness of human nature.  less
    • February 15
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    Nom de Plume commented on Nom de Plume's blog entry: On Art & Bogunism When young, it was my goal to become a professional artist.
    My first notion of that was formed by art history studies at school.
    The path laid out for modern artists, according to the text books, was to go to art school, and then to exhibit and sell...  more    When young, it was my goal to become a professional artist.
    My first notion of that was formed by art history studies at school.
    The path laid out for modern artists, according to the text books, was to go to art school, and then to exhibit and sell.
    At art school one learned that the path to professionalism also required getting government grants and fellowships, winning competitions, being selected for major exhibitions, a gallery in each city representing and selling one's work and showing it at least once a year, critics praising the work (to encourage buyers), patrons and museums buying the work for permanent private and public collections, and governments and private corporations commisioning specific works.
    To achieve this one had to fit the mould of what was expected by these private and public patrons - and that was largely determined by whatever was the latest in the universities' cultural theories - which was then promoted by and via the critics.

    Yes for sure, there have always been...    less
    • February 14
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    Nom de Plume replied to Where is it written that the older you get the longer it takes to heal? Is it an ABSOLUTE TRUTH for everyone everywhere? :
    I am only 62 - and I'm in excellent health, though not optimum fitness.I can strain a muscle more easily than when I was young, and it takes three times longer to heal than when I was twenty.People with diabetes have great difficulty in healing from cuts ...  moreI am only 62 - and I'm in excellent health, though not optimum fitness.I can strain a muscle more easily than when I was young, and it takes three times longer to heal than when I was twenty.People with diabetes have great difficulty in healing from cuts and infections.People on blood-pressure medication bruise much more easily, and the bruises are slow to heal.People who do weight training and get adequate Calcium and Vit D avoid osteoporosis.All health issues are made much worse by overweight.People who do 3 x 3 minutes of high intensity interval training 3 times per week are causing their mitochondrial cells to reproduce,which maintains youth and fitness for longer, improves fitness, endurance, immunity, stress resilience, weight loss, and healing.See any of Dr Michael Moseley's documentaries or books for the latest double-blind tests and evidence.Some people in their late eighties and even nineties can be very "youthful", ie energetic and active,if they've maintained a healthy lifestyle throughout most of th...    less
    • February 14
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    Nom de Plume replied to We think of TRADITION as beneficial. Something positive and worth preserving. Something to hand down to our kin. Even when it is a SIN?:
    Hmm.I define a sin as anything that causes harm to life.Simple traditions like good manners and hospitality can have all sorts of beneficial consequences.Some traditions are cultural markers that give people a sense of inclusion and belonging.But I've nev...  moreHmm.I define a sin as anything that causes harm to life.Simple traditions like good manners and hospitality can have all sorts of beneficial consequences.Some traditions are cultural markers that give people a sense of inclusion and belonging.But I've never thought of any aspect of hate or bigotry as being a tradition. In a way, I suppose they are.But I would rather see them as attitudes which can be shaken off once the bigot sees how harmful the prejudice is.It harms both the one who is hated and the one who hates.All forms of hatred are harmful to society as a whole.So I regard hate as a sin.  less
    • February 14
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    Nom de Plume replied to What are some things that people do with the back of the hand? ~:
    Wipe away sweat.
    • February 14
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    Nom de Plume replied to Have you ever had a life changing epiphany that involved you making the decision to change nothing in your life?:
    Yep - a few years ago - the realisation that just deeply accepting my life exactly as it is was all I needed to create contentment and happiness.Now it's just a matter of dealing with the necessities as they arise.
    • February 14
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    Nom de Plume replied to Girls: If you're in a relationship with a much younger man, do you find it awkward to be amidst his much younger group of friends? :
    Good point. The kind of man that might want a relationship with an older woman could be one who missed out on having a mother and unconsciously longs for one.The younger man who might want a cougar ( for a short while) to teach him the arts of love i...  moreGood point. The kind of man that might want a relationship with an older woman could be one who missed out on having a mother and unconsciously longs for one.The younger man who might want a cougar ( for a short while) to teach him the arts of love is probably very rare.Most younger men would probably rather learn the hard way with spunky young women of their own age or younger - at the least because they're prettier, juicier, and more likely to have an open and receptive libido (provided they're single).  less
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Girls: If you're in a relationship with a much younger man, do you find it awkward to be amidst his much younger group of friends? :
    Yep. Most of the Mugger females are women at or way past our menopause.
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Are the services of sperm banks available only to married couples, or also to single women desirous of motherhood? :
    If you're asking from India - you would know the answers for your country best. I'm guessing that in India donor sperm would only be legal for married couples.Correct me if I'm wrong but I get the impression that most of India has roughly the same mo...  moreIf you're asking from India - you would know the answers for your country best. I'm guessing that in India donor sperm would only be legal for married couples.Correct me if I'm wrong but I get the impression that most of India has roughly the same moral values and laws as were normal in the West in the 1950's - with the middle, upper and educated classes being somewhat more flexible. Radical new experiments in relationships and mores can still be prone to scandal and censure. But at the same time, the East tends to perceive the West as far looser than it really is. I believe that is because the internet selectively filters and distorts the reality. Also, films made in the West exaggerate pathological dysfunctions (make them appear as though normal) because conflicts and high emotions work as commercially successful plot devices.Although this site is about 95% American, there are a sprinkling of others here too - for instance, a moderate but devout Muslim Sufi who lives in London and is thoroughly British, a...    less
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Are the services of sperm banks available only to married couples, or also to single women desirous of motherhood? :
    If you're asking from India - you would know the answers for your country best. I'm guessing that in India donor sperm would only be legal for married couples.Correct me if I'm wrong but I get the impression that most of India has roughly the same mo...  moreIf you're asking from India - you would know the answers for your country best. I'm guessing that in India donor sperm would only be legal for married couples.Correct me if I'm wrong but I get the impression that most of India has roughly the same moral values and laws as were normal in the West in the 1950's - with the middle, upper and educated classes being somewhat more flexible. Radical new experiments in relationships and mores can still be prone to scandal and censure. But at the same time, the East tends to perceive the West as far looser than it really is. I believe that is because the internet selectively filters and distorts the reality, but also films exaggerate dysfunction because conflicts and high emotions work as commercially successful plot devices.Although this site is about 95% American, there are a sprinkling of others here too - for instance, moderate but devout Muslim Sufi who lives in London and is thoroughly British, a couple of very open minded Danes living in Denmark, a Serb who li...    less
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Have you ever been the target of hurtful barbs owing to the nature of your relationship? :
    A couple of times - many years ago.The barbs made me think; I realised I needed to make changes. I did and they worked.
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Wht about coyotes? Can you tame them and make them nice pets? :
    I looked them up.It said that they don't usually make good pets because, despite being genetically little different to wolves, they never form social packs or bonds and prefer to lead independent lives.Wolves, on the other hand, can make excellent pets gi...  moreI looked them up.It said that they don't usually make good pets because, despite being genetically little different to wolves, they never form social packs or bonds and prefer to lead independent lives.Wolves, on the other hand, can make excellent pets given the right environment and care - loyal, loving, hardy good health, energetic and intelligent.  
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Is this how Australians write Australia?:
    Ha ha! No.Our script is the same as yours.Our spelling, punctuation and grammar follow the English.Apart from accents, we have many variations in pronunciation, vocabulary and idiom.Main differences include:metric versus imperial measures,opposite seasons...  moreHa ha! No.Our script is the same as yours.Our spelling, punctuation and grammar follow the English.Apart from accents, we have many variations in pronunciation, vocabulary and idiom.Main differences include:metric versus imperial measures,opposite seasons of the years,vastly different ecologies and geographies,many subtle differences in cultures and values,time zones roughly 16 hours ahead of yours - hence for us Valentine's day is now nearing sunset while yours has not yet begun,generally about 5% further left in politics and 20% less inclined to be religious,generally much less prudish and more matter of fact about sexual matters,more diplomatic and polite but in a casual guise, anddiffering senses of humour, much more akin to the British.  less
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Girls: If you're in a relationship with a much younger man, do you find it awkward to be amidst his much younger group of friends? :
    Have never been in a relationship with a younger manand would never want to be.I could not bear the immaturity of mind and heart.
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to How strong would an unwed mother's maternal feelings be towards her unplanned child born out of wedlock if the father has deserted them? :
    It varies depending on the woman.
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Are the services of sperm banks available only to married couples, or also to single women desirous of motherhood? :
    I've been acquainted with three single women who used sperm banks so they could become mothers.The donors were screened for potential genetic and health issues - but I reckon some important details could slip through unnoticed.The catalogues listed the ch...  moreI've been acquainted with three single women who used sperm banks so they could become mothers.The donors were screened for potential genetic and health issues - but I reckon some important details could slip through unnoticed.The catalogues listed the characteristics of the donors but withheld their identities.The births were successful, each of the mothers enjoyed being a mother.Personally, I don't think it is an ideal situation. One of the challenges was to earn a living, pay for child care, be available to meet the child's needs at all other times - virtually sacrificing all other aspects of life until the child was old enough to leave home. The only children did not learn how to share, how to deal with family relationships, and acquired many of the mothers' dysfunctional traits.One reacted in the opposite direction by becoming ultra-conservative.Each of these women were "difficult" and therefore unable to create and maintain a stable and functional relationship with a partner or co-parent.I believ...    less
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Ok. Enough about V-day. Are you looking forward to EASTER yet? SO EXCITING.:
    Too much on my timetable to be thinking about Easter yet.No doubt when it comes there will, as usual, be far too much needing to be done, and I'll manage to accomplish only about 5% of it.
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Ok. Enough about V-day. Are you looking forward to EASTER yet? SO EXCITING.:
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to Okay, enough about any holidays who likes cheese and what kind? :
    Most cheeses made in accord with their original traditions.Love them at room temperature and preferably ripe.My ideal, a board of five: a blue, a soft inoculated, a hard aged or smoked, a cottage or a fancy, and a goat's or sheep's, (no need for butter)wi...  moreMost cheeses made in accord with their original traditions.Love them at room temperature and preferably ripe.My ideal, a board of five: a blue, a soft inoculated, a hard aged or smoked, a cottage or a fancy, and a goat's or sheep's, (no need for butter)with a dark whole meal rye bread and chopped fresh parsley - served as the 3rd part of a multi-course lunch, the way they do it in France.Loathe the mass produced ones like Kraft cheddar or Philadelphia cream.  
    • February 13
  • Nom de Plume
    Nom de Plume replied to New Democratic darling AOC* says "Latinos should not be subject to immigration laws because they are native people" A good legal argument?:
    Thanks, JA. I don't have netflix.I'm an Aussie, so my "history" of  America and South America is limited to sketchy summaries from high school days - which qualifies for the dummy category.If I understand it correctly, the Native Americans, both...  moreThanks, JA. I don't have netflix.I'm an Aussie, so my "history" of  America and South America is limited to sketchy summaries from high school days - which qualifies for the dummy category.If I understand it correctly, the Native Americans, both North and South, had complex societies and were highly territorial; they would never have permitted those outside their tribes or nations to settle on their land on mass. Though they might have used some as slaves, married some, and accepted some as traders and diplomats.If I understand the conquistadors, they were after land, minerals (esp. gold), power and the spread of Christianity. I've seen a few documentaries of the archeology and history - waves upon waves of abominations of cruelty - but I think there are few groups of people who have never committed atrocities at some point in their histories. It seems all of us are prone to pathologies if sufficiently twisted by upbringing.It seems most muggers, liberal or conservative, agree with the idea that migran...    less
    • February 13
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    Nom de Plume replied to When was the last time it was your time of the month. Men may answer as well. We all know you guys have them too.:
    Commiserations.One in five women lose their mojo at menopause.The Zone losses its elasticity; pressure and stretching can cause unbearable pain, take a long time to heal, and make walking painful afterwards. The Bartholins Gland shuts down, no more j...  moreCommiserations.One in five women lose their mojo at menopause.The Zone losses its elasticity; pressure and stretching can cause unbearable pain, take a long time to heal, and make walking painful afterwards. The Bartholins Gland shuts down, no more juices - also causes pain.Please, if it's humanly possible to forgive her, do.The alternative choices are neither easy nor satisfactory - and have high prices attached to them. For instance, HRT is only possible because mares are kept permanently pregnant in tiny stalls where they can't move in order to harvest their pee. The foals are killed at birth because they can't survive without the mare's colostrum in her first milk.Better to abandon sex than cause other sentient beings to suffer for one's own pleasure.Yet such a woman still needs love on a psychological level. Can be a very tricky time to negotiate and a lot of couple don't succeed.For Ari and I it was a very difficult transition - took about twelve years to work out how to adjust.I wish there was a...    less
    • February 12
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    Nom de Plume replied to Are you happy that a deal was reached to avert another federal government shutdown?:
    Happy.The long term effects of a shutdown can only be terrible, both for the public servants and their finances and families,and for the welfare of the general public who need those services.Without them, the USA would soon become like a third world country.
    • February 12
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    Nom de Plume replied to Does life have its share of spoiled brats like Tronald Dump?:
    Of course!Psychologists estimate that narcissism is common - about 1 in 20 people - although degree of severity varies.Then -  the heartland of the most conservative of Republicans is estimated to be about 30-40% of the US population.Make a subset of...  moreOf course!Psychologists estimate that narcissism is common - about 1 in 20 people - although degree of severity varies.Then -  the heartland of the most conservative of Republicans is estimated to be about 30-40% of the US population.Make a subset of those who are both Narcissistic and ultra-loyal Republicans and you still have a very large group - probably clustered in specific areas.But then try to select only those born into wealth, who have subsequently been successful in acquiring extreme wealth - well, there's only a very few of those. And yes, their behaviour would always be identical to spoiled brats. Too much money can give people the illusion that they can buy or coerce anything - and when they discover that they can't always get their way, they tend to chuck temper tantrums.  less
    • February 12
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    Nom de Plume replied to What's a good song about love between friends or to send to a friend on Valentine's Day?:
    Maybe.On the whole I don't like the commercialisation of things that should centre on love (of any kind.)But it happens that Ari and I are in a really good space together at the moment.Tomorrow, we'll see a good art movie together, take a long walk on the...  moreMaybe.On the whole I don't like the commercialisation of things that should centre on love (of any kind.)But it happens that Ari and I are in a really good space together at the moment.Tomorrow, we'll see a good art movie together, take a long walk on the beach, probably have a swim in the estuary, and later share a meal at a local Vietnamese restaurant.Probably there'll be zero romance - he's not that type and hasn't much mojo -but there will be a deep and contented enjoyment of companionship, friendship, good will.  less
    • February 12
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    Nom de Plume replied to Do you think that flies could make good pets? :
    Not for me.Flies don't have the traits I need in a pet.
    • February 12
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    Nom de Plume replied to Do you think that flies could make good pets? :
    Not for me.Flies don't have the traits I need in a pet.
    • February 12
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    Nom de Plume replied to How long do you think it would be before people missed you on the Mug and began asking after you... .:
    Never - and that is certain.I've left and re-joined several times.
    • February 12
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  • Screen Name* Nom de Plume
  • Gender* Female
  • Where do you live? Australia, Eastern Standard Time
  • About Me: Green, ath­eist, vege­tarian and­ small-l l­iberal.
    Happy to f­orm friend­ships, pre­ferably wi­th like-mi­nded.
    Not intere­sted in se­x or roman­tic affair­s.

    Interests ­and activi­ties:
    Writing an­d reading ­- novels, ­short fict­ion, poetr­y.
    Conservati­on and lan­d manageme­nt -
    living in ­remote rur­al area cl­ose to wil­derness.
    Nature, wi­ldlife - f­lora and f­auna.
    All aspect­s of art, ­culture, p­hilosophy ­and psycho­logy.
    62 years o­ld. Marrie­d.

    Former lif­e - sculpt­or & a­rt teacher­ - 20 year­s
    breeder an­d trainer ­of Arabian­ horses - ­20 years

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  • If you could choose the kind of afterlife you would most like, what would it be like?

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  • What would you want buried with you so you could use it in the afterlife?

    Throughout the millenia, different cultures have believed in dif...  moreThroughout the millenia, different cultures have believed in different kinds of afterlives. Some would ensure their relatives were buried with all the items they would need.  
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  • Something happened to you or you witnessed it, and all these years later the memory still makes you laugh. What happened?

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  • When did something start out badly for you but in the end, it was great?

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  • What are your thoughts on mobile phone radiation?

    see video online:"The truth about mobile phone and wireless radi...  moresee video online:"The truth about mobile phone and wireless radiation" -- Dr Devra Davis  
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  • Cults do it; ads & con-men do it; some politicians & legit businesses do it. - Do you fall for it, call them on it or walk the other way?

    To "mind****" means to systematically lie with intent to profit,...  moreTo "mind****" means to systematically lie with intent to profit, often involving creating the impression that the deceived one will gain some good from it. The deception is not discovered till its way too late. Some people even die having never realised the lie (eg the Red Barn cult.)
    The process of recovery from a mind**** may require professional help, and typically involves intense and disturbing emotion, such as shock, confusion, or fear.Researchers now say that any ordinary person can be conned in this way; one does not have to be especially gullible or naive because the perpetrators are highly skilled at what they do. Have you ever had an experience like this? If so, how did you recover? If you have avoided one or more - how did you recognise the signs? Did you tell the person (or group) what you honestly thought? Did you blow the whistle?  less
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  • When you know someone is spreading bull dung, do you point out what it is to them? How, when, and why?

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  • When you know someone is humbugging with politeness or flattery, do you ignore it and respond politely, or do you call them on it?

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  • Has anyone ever asked to temporarily store their stuff at your place and then left it there? How did you deal with the situation?

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  • Could global warming be God's way of clearing the planet to make way for a new kingdom of the faithful?

    The other day, somebody told me that some sects of Christians, n...  moreThe other day, somebody told me that some sects of Christians, namely the Jehovahs Witnesses, the Seventh Day Adventists and the Christadelphians, believe in a literal Armageddon, or war to end all wars.
    He said that these groups believe that global warming is proof that Armageddon will soon be upon us because the warming will cause massive droughts, floods, sea level rise, mass migrations, and consequent global strife and global wars. 
    He said they believe that global warming the means by which God will destroy the life on the planet, and thus prepare the way for the kingdom of God on Earth.I would like to know if the claim he made is true of Armageddon eschalology.If you believe in any of the above three faiths, what is your church's official view of global warming?If so, how does this affect your choices with regard to behaviors that increase emissions of CO2 and other greenhouse gases?I am not judging here. I only want to find out what the beliefs areand what effects such a belief might or cou...    less
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  • Is it easier to live life with black and white views? Or does it lead to all kinds of complications and dilemmas?

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  • Do you think the economy in your country is improving? If so, how or by what measures? Has your pay kept pace with inflation or improved?

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  • In your opinion, what are the advantages and disadvantages of democracy?

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  • In what circumstances can human-designed beauty be unethical?

    I mean beauty in the broadest sense - in human appearances, in h...  moreI mean beauty in the broadest sense - in human appearances, in how we breed animals, how we use plants, design and decoration, and architecture and arts.  
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  • In what ways can beauty contribute towards a happier life?

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  • What is your idea of beauty?

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  • What sorts of images or art hang or your walls at home?

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  • What does your living room look like? What do you see around you when you are relaxing there?

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  • What has keys but no locks and space but no room? Clue: you can enter but you can’t exit. Why do you prefer that source?

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  • Where do you get your news? And why do you prefer that source?

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  • If we should love our neighbours as ourselves - what are the implications? See below...

    Many people grew up in families and environments where there was...  moreMany people grew up in families and environments where there was no love and as adults they have never learned how to love themselves.What are some of the ways we could help to break the generational cycles of abuse and create a more loving society?
    https://americanspcc.org/child-abuse-statistics/
     

    4.1 million child maltreatment referral reports received.
    Child abuse reports involved 7.4 million children.
    3.5 million children received prevention & post-response services.
    143,866 children received foster care services.
    74.8% of victims are neglected.
    18.2% of victims are physically abused.
    8.5% of victims are sexually abused.
    6.9% of victims are psychologically maltreated.
    Highest rate of child abuse in children under age one (24.8% per 1,000).1
    Over one-quarter (28.5%) of victims are younger than 3 years.1
    Annual estimate: 1,750 children died from abuse and neglect in 2016.1,
    Almost five children die every ...    less
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  • How do you plan to manage when you can no longer care for yourself?

    What will you do if you have outlived your spouse and have no ch...  moreWhat will you do if you have outlived your spouse and have no children?Or if your children are so overworked with their families and work that they don't have enough time to care for you?Or if your kids are disabled?Or if your kids are ice addicts or otherwise unfit as carers?  
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  • Are you aware of what goes on in commercially-run aged care homes? - And what will you do when it comes to your time to need care?

     
    https://www.nursinghomeabuseguide.org/
    https://iview.abc....  more     
    https://www.nursinghomeabuseguide.org/
    https://iview.abc.net.au/show/four-corners/series/2018/video/NC1803H032S00  
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  • As a teenager, when you got caught doing something you shouldn’t have, what were the consequences? And how did you handle it?

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  • What was the most rebellious thing you did as a teenager or young adult? What were you rebelling against?

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  • What do you do with your nose snot?

    Just a moment ago, I watched my husband reading the paper and pi...  moreJust a moment ago, I watched my husband reading the paper and picking his nose.I waited, knowing what was coming.
    He twirled it between his fingers, popped it in his mouth, and chewed.At which moment I asked, "What does it taste like?"He looked up, startled, then swallowed and burst into laughter, and so did I.Then he said, "like moist bread, except tasteless.""Why do you eat it?""Because it's the most convenient way to get rid of it," he answered.Hmm.I keep a tissue or hanky nearby.Others sprinkle it wherever they happen to be.Others pop it out the window at traffic lights.Presumably, many people save it for times when they visit the loo.Which must mean quite a lot of clogged and itchy noses out there in the lands of the polite.What do you do?  less
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  • What kinds of information do you most want to check out on a profile page?

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  • What features of town planning best encourage and support a sense of community?

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  • What invention doesn’t get a lot of love, but has greatly improved the world?

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  • When the piggery got flooded in Jackson, did someone remember to evacuate the pigs first?

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  • What does trust mean to you? Please give one, two or three examples.

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  • What sorts of things do you do habitually to ensure your safety? What conditions allow you to feel safe?

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  • If someone is respectful towards you, how do they speak and behave?

    We often take it for granted that we know what respect is, but o...  moreWe often take it for granted that we know what respect is, but often people have different personal or cultural ideas about how it is expressed.What does it connote for you personally?Dictionary says:
    respect rɪˈspɛkt/


    abstract noun
     




     


    a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
     




    synonyms:
    esteem, regard, high regard, high opinion, acclaim, admiration, approbation, approval, appreciation, estimation, favour, popularity, recognition, veneration, awe, reverence, deference, honour, praise, homage


    "the respect due to a great artist"







     

     







     


    due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
     




    synonyms:
    due regard, consideration, thoughtfulness, attentiveness, politeness, courtesy, civility, deference


    "he speaks to the old lady with respect"...    less
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  • Have you signed to donate your organs to save the lives of others after you die?

    Why/why not? What are the pro’s and con’s?
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  • Does your Mom call you endearments because she can't remember which of her adult children you are? Do you remind her?

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  • How do you define the difference between cosmopolitan and parochial? What differences do these two attitudes make to how we live?

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  • What social stigma does society need to get over?

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  • Was Chelsea a traitor? Should we know about things after the fact?

    Chelsea Manning, a former intelligence analyst in the US Army, w...  moreChelsea Manning, a former intelligence analyst in the US Army, was sentenced in 2013 to 35 years prison over the 2010 leak of classified information to WikiLeaks.The leaks detailed US attacks that had already happened.
    The information was widely considered one of the most significant of modern historical documents because it exposed the structural dynamics of present day warfare, and told the world the truth about the wars in Iraq and Afganistan.  
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  • Is it right for other countries to spy on ours? If not, how should data best be protected from hacking?

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  • When should knowledge be a public right? When should it be kept secure and private? What should the criteria be?

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  • What’s the best or worst practical joke someone played on you? How did you react?

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  • You can enter but can’t exit; it has keys but no locks. What is it?

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  • What life skills are rarely taught but extremely useful?

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  • What about the opposite sex confuses you the most?

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  • Which of your vices or bad habits would be the hardest to give up?

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  • When was the most inappropriate time you burst into guffaws of laughter?

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  • What’s something that everyone knows is true, but we don’t like to admit it?

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  • What’s the most beautiful place you’ve been to?

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  • Hype is rarely warranted on anything commercial; it's just sales...  moreHype is rarely warranted on anything commercial; it's just salesmanship - and of course no one in business will tell you the disadvantages of their products.Hype is always at least half con.IKEA has an interesting model - all of which is aimed at cost savings.Cruising through the displays is good for seeing new ideas in how to design for space saving.It's style is egalitarian, simple and modern.Not everyone finds it easy to follow the instructions for putting the furniture together - has been a successful topic for comedians.Many of the materials are bad for the environment and for health within a household. Chipboard, plywood and laminated plastics give off carcinogenic fumes for up to 14 years after the date of manufacture. In a fire, the synthetic materials are highly flammable and give off lethally toxic gases.Not built for high durability, meaning built-in obsolescence and no re-sale value - the old stuff ends up in landfill.From my point of view, the two best ways to furnish cheaply are to buy second hand ...    less
    in My region is getting an IKEA this Spring. Is the hype of needing to visit this store truly warranted? February 19, 2019 12:40 AM MST 2
  • I'm glad that the children and grandchildren I might have had wi...  moreI'm glad that the children and grandchildren I might have had will not have to experience the effects of global warming.I'm glad that I did not contribute to the overpopulation of the world.I didn't always feel or think that way, but I have since my late forties.  
    in For those of you who fit this category, what is the number one thing that makes you glad you don't have or are not raising minor children? ~ February 19, 2019 12:23 AM MST 0
  • It varies depending on their character, social milieu, and value...  moreIt varies depending on their character, social milieu, and values.Taken on a large scale, I think they have been ever since the eighties and the proliferation of AIDS and other STD's.I believe the internet by default distorts the apparent looseness and lasciviousness of Westerners - because those who hunt for it find only those who post it.Those who don't engage with it remain invisible.  
    in Are young people today (under 40) more hesitant and careful in forming close committed relationships? February 19, 2019 12:20 AM MST 1
  • I've followed the news on it since it was first mooted.What do y...  moreI've followed the news on it since it was first mooted.What do you want to know?  
    in Do you understand what's going on with Brexit? February 19, 2019 12:16 AM MST 0
  • That seems a weird idea to me.I've known quite a few parents who...  moreThat seems a weird idea to me.I've known quite a few parents who home schooled - watched the kids grow up, saw them transition into responsible, independent and successful young adults.I saw no evidence of any kind of child abuse; on the contrary, the kids got much better educations than what was possible via the state schools, and  the families shared asocial life, so there was no lack of opportunities for the kids to become well socialised.None of the parents were ever on welfare; they had jobs or businesses or were farmers.  less
    in Should the government do welfare checks on all home-schooled children? February 19, 2019 12:12 AM MST 0
    This post was edited by Nom de Plume at February 19, 2019 12:12 AM MST
  • It is difficult to experience what others experience - I agree.B...  moreIt is difficult to experience what others experience - I agree.But I think it helps a lot to listen to what one another have to say about experiences and feelings - listen carefully, deeply and with empathy.There are lots of YouTube clips and TED talks which do a great job of explaining how differently people of the non-dominant cultures and/or races are treated.One can look up "micro-racism" - the list is very telling of the countless minute slights people experience everyday, many times a day, through both conscious and unconscious racism. Imagine what that would be like to live with.There is another problem that is now increasingly being recognised and understood: intergenerational trauma. Think of a slave who was born into captivity and raised with little or no education, inadequate nutrition and shelter, constant over-work and exhaustion,, frequent rape, and forced breeding of children, treated less well than domestic livestock, frequent ill-health and early deaths, whippings that leave huge welted scars, c...    less
    in So let me get this straight: a black guy mentions race = he is a racist????? February 16, 2019 7:35 PM MST 1
  • A tiny and eccentric minority of people believe in aliens from o...  moreA tiny and eccentric minority of people believe in aliens from other planets.Usually their reasons for wanting to believe it are emotional and unconscious.There are plenty of sound reasons not to believe it.  
    in Can some people come from far, far away and another planet of thought? February 16, 2019 6:56 PM MST 0
  • I've had a long history with horses.No horse is naturally mean, ...  moreI've had a long history with horses.No horse is naturally mean, even in the wild.A stallion will fight another for a mate.A mare will defend her foal against a predator or another mare trying to steal her foal.Any horse will defend itself against a predator.Their first move is to shy &/or bolt.They will only fight (rear, buck, kick, strike or bite) if there is no other option.It takes regular mishandling by humans to make a horse snappy or prone to attack.And they never forget.If a horse is treated well, in accordance with its needs, it will never attack and never display any sign of anger or resentment.  less
    in Do animals attack more because they are territorial or protecting or hungry or mean? February 16, 2019 6:50 PM MST 2
  • If an animal attacks it always has a good reason.No animal is "m...  moreIf an animal attacks it always has a good reason.No animal is "mean" unless it has been trained to attackor has rabies or some disease that affects its brain.  
    in Do animals attack more because they are territorial or protecting or hungry or mean? February 16, 2019 6:43 PM MST 1
  • "Excuse me" may be said just before one is about to do something...  more"Excuse me" may be said just before one is about to do something a bit disagreeble or rude.If the reason is good, say because of an urgent priority of which the other is unaware, then the person is usually excused or forgiven."Pardon me" is used after one has already done something unwelcome as a way of asking for forgiveness.  
    in In your opinion, are there distinct differences between the uses of "excuse me" and "pardon me", or are they completely interchangeable? ~ February 16, 2019 6:36 PM MST 1
  • I'm amazed.I've evidently underestimated his intelligence.That's...  moreI'm amazed.I've evidently underestimated his intelligence.That's a warning to me to be more careful about my assumptions.  
    in President Trump thinks he won't receive the Nobel Peace Prize. Isn't that a crying shame? February 16, 2019 6:30 PM MST 1
  • Nup.Just mentioning or discussing race doesn't mean a person is ...  moreNup.Just mentioning or discussing race doesn't mean a person is a racist.But if someone thinks their race should have greater rights over another'sor their race has intrinsically greater or lesser abilities than another'sor sterotypes a person on the basis of their race and adjusts their expectations of that person accordinglythen that definitely is racism.And racism is bad for everyone, the despiser, the despised and all their loved ones.There is no justification for it.  
    in So let me get this straight: a black guy mentions race = he is a racist????? February 16, 2019 6:28 PM MST 3
  • Many of us feel left out, both here and in life in general.It's ...  moreMany of us feel left out, both here and in life in general.It's not the place or the people.Though I think online social sties are now notorious for increasing people's isolation and loneliness.There's no substitute for real life relationships.For me, it's something about the kind of interactions that I find enjoyable; I enjoy intellectual or  emotionally intimate conversations most - the deeper the better.This doesn't often match with what others also enjoy.It is also not easy to create or sustain via an online site.I content myself with a very small circle of uniquely individual friends in real life.And that's okay.I no longer expect or hope for anything when I come here.Once in an odd moon, someone asks a question that makes me research or really think,and that's enjoyable enough to keep me coming back.  less
    in Anybody want to fight me? I’m feeling a bit left out here today -_- February 16, 2019 5:41 PM MST 3
  • Easier to achieve if you never have children, and if you have a ...  moreEasier to achieve if you never have children, and if you have a good steady relationship with a spouse who earns and saves in the same way.If you don't want children, take personal responsibility to ensure it; remember that it is a common occurrence for clucky women to deceive men and get "accidentally" pregnant with the intent of trapping the man into obligations to help care for the child.You can do it without a partner, which avoids the risk of losing a lot through divorce.If you don't marry, the laws of who owes what to whom vary between states and countries.You live frugally throughout your life, necessities only: home cooked meals, no entertainments or alcohol, no pets or expensive hobbies or interests, no travel or holidays, second-hand clothing and cheap shoes. Live close enough to study or work to get there on foot or by bicycle. Minimise use of electricity.You study to get the qualifications for a well-paid job.Apart from taxes you also pay superannuation and insurance premiums.You rent a cheap room or...    less
    in I never understood how we can retire and own a house February 16, 2019 5:09 PM MST 1
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  • All the links between every stage of evolution.The "missing link...  moreAll the links between every stage of evolution.The "missing links" are becoming increasingly minute differences in variation between a species and its predecessor - but the creationists will always say that it isn't complete enough for proof.  
    in Three and a half million year old human foot and a one and a half million year old complete boy Skelton found in a cave in S-Africa .Wh February 16, 2019 4:49 PM MST 2
    This post was edited by Nom de Plume at February 16, 2019 4:49 PM MST
  • No,my concatenations with words are ongoing.
    in Do you have a long gone cat ten at ions with words? February 16, 2019 2:29 AM MST 1
  • "You stink, Miss."It was a hot day. I was on duty in the school ...  more"You stink, Miss."It was a hot day. I was on duty in the school playground, sitting on the bench just watching them all during recess. She sat down beside me, in silence for a little while, and then came out with it.Since then I've always worn a deodorant when out in public.  
    in What is the rudest, most disrespectful, most insulting, etc. thing that a child under 12 has ever said to you? February 16, 2019 2:27 AM MST 1
  • You're always welcome, Rosie. It's a pleasure.Thank you for aski...  moreYou're always welcome, Rosie. It's a pleasure.Thank you for asking so many interesting questions - often questions that prompt me to think, research or both - two of my favourite pass-times.  
    in Where is it written that the older you get the longer it takes to heal? Is it an ABSOLUTE TRUTH for everyone everywhere? February 16, 2019 2:22 AM MST 1
  • arrogance
    in If you ever compare life as a human to any other species -what do you think is a disadvantage(s) of being human? February 16, 2019 2:13 AM MST 3
  • Why so sure?
    in Why are Zack and Randy D the only two black guys active on this website? February 16, 2019 2:12 AM MST 3
  • If he’s a likeable type of hero-cop or hero detective then...  moreIf he’s a likeable type of hero-cop or hero detective then he is honest, has a great depth of understanding of human nature, is observant, questioning, skeptical and logical, and has compassion for victims and innocents.
    He has foibles: a way of playing poker with suspects, of tilting his head, of hesitating before delivering a punch line. He’s often not very nice to his offsides or trainees. He may have a sarcastic sense of humour.
    He has weaknesses: his marriage is on the rocks, his wife is dead or he was always too dedicated to his job to find a mate, he has a wayward teenage daughter, a Dad in a nursing home, or a brother in a psyche ward. He drinks too much. He’s fat and unfit or pasty, round-shouldered and nerdy-thin, when he knows he should be buff and able to run a marathon.
    He’s tough: no insult or taunt disturbs his self-assurance, no injury stops him from coming back to work before fully recovered, no PTSD haunts him.  less
    in They're ALL egregious, but what do you consider the worst stereotype in cop movies/TV shows? February 16, 2019 2:10 AM MST 2
  • The Tilde is to Tildism as the Cross to Christianity or the Eigh...  moreThe Tilde is to Tildism as the Cross to Christianity or the Eight-Spoked Wheel to Buddhism.The shape of the Tilde symbolises The Wave, the eternal changeability of existence in this universe, the eternal dynamic of rebalancing and the finding of equilibrium. It's ethos is balance and moderation in all things, even moderation in moderation. It acknowledges the vital importance of freely given generosity, of nurturing the well-being of life in all its plurality, of cultivating wisdom through close attention, observation, experience and memory, and of cultivating love through attention, empathy and compassion.  less
    in Wait, is it possible that Tildism might be a religion? (Perhaps that helps to explain some things . . . ) February 16, 2019 1:37 AM MST 2
  • They're trained to act in an authoritative way,because their job...  moreThey're trained to act in an authoritative way,because their job is to ensure and enforce that others obey the law.
    But a police person would have to be a be mad to think he or she could do anything; guns or no guns, the law will catch up with them at some point.There are minor situations in which they do have the right of discretion on how to respond.And there are plenty of situations in which they make errors of judgement.But so many police are needed that there is no possibility to select only suitable candidates.Which means there will always be a percentage who have the wrong attitudes and may be prone to abuse of their powers and to corruption.I've known two or three policemen socially, distantly, but have never had cause to be on the receiving end of police attention.So what I know is only the theory of how it should be, memories of abuses that made the news, and assumptions based on awareness of human nature.  less
    in Do you also think that policemen often think they can do anything they want ? February 15, 2019 6:01 PM MST 1
    This post was edited by Nom de Plume at February 15, 2019 6:01 PM MST
  • I am only 62 - and I'm in excellent health, though not optimum f...  moreI am only 62 - and I'm in excellent health, though not optimum fitness.I can strain a muscle more easily than when I was young, and it takes three times longer to heal than when I was twenty.People with diabetes have great difficulty in healing from cuts and infections.People on blood-pressure medication bruise much more easily, and the bruises are slow to heal.People who do weight training and get adequate Calcium and Vit D avoid osteoporosis.All health issues are made much worse by overweight.People who do 3 x 3 minutes of high intensity interval training 3 times per week are causing their mitochondrial cells to reproduce,which maintains youth and fitness for longer, improves fitness, endurance, immunity, stress resilience, weight loss, and healing.See any of Dr Michael Moseley's documentaries or books for the latest double-blind tests and evidence.Some people in their late eighties and even nineties can be very "youthful", ie energetic and active,if they've maintained a healthy lifestyle throughout most of th...    less
    in Where is it written that the older you get the longer it takes to heal? Is it an ABSOLUTE TRUTH for everyone everywhere? February 14, 2019 9:03 AM MST 2
  • Hmm.I define a sin as anything that causes harm to life.Simple t...  moreHmm.I define a sin as anything that causes harm to life.Simple traditions like good manners and hospitality can have all sorts of beneficial consequences.Some traditions are cultural markers that give people a sense of inclusion and belonging.But I've never thought of any aspect of hate or bigotry as being a tradition. In a way, I suppose they are.But I would rather see them as attitudes which can be shaken off once the bigot sees how harmful the prejudice is.It harms both the one who is hated and the one who hates.All forms of hatred are harmful to society as a whole.So I regard hate as a sin.  less
    in We think of TRADITION as beneficial. Something positive and worth preserving. Something to hand down to our kin. Even when it is a SIN? February 14, 2019 8:47 AM MST 1
  • Wipe away sweat.
    in What are some things that people do with the back of the hand? ~ February 14, 2019 8:38 AM MST 3
  • Yep - a few years ago - the realisation that just deeply accepti...  moreYep - a few years ago - the realisation that just deeply accepting my life exactly as it is was all I needed to create contentment and happiness.Now it's just a matter of dealing with the necessities as they arise.  
    in Have you ever had a life changing epiphany that involved you making the decision to change nothing in your life? February 14, 2019 8:37 AM MST 5
  • Good point. The kind of man that might want a relationship ...  moreGood point. The kind of man that might want a relationship with an older woman could be one who missed out on having a mother and unconsciously longs for one.The younger man who might want a cougar ( for a short while) to teach him the arts of love is probably very rare.Most younger men would probably rather learn the hard way with spunky young women of their own age or younger - at the least because they're prettier, juicier, and more likely to have an open and receptive libido (provided they're single).  less
    in Girls: If you're in a relationship with a much younger man, do you find it awkward to be amidst his much younger group of friends? February 13, 2019 11:03 PM MST 3
  • Yep. Most of the Mugger females are women at or way past our menopause.
    in Girls: If you're in a relationship with a much younger man, do you find it awkward to be amidst his much younger group of friends? February 13, 2019 10:58 PM MST 2
  • If you're asking from India - you would know the answers for you...  moreIf you're asking from India - you would know the answers for your country best. I'm guessing that in India donor sperm would only be legal for married couples.Correct me if I'm wrong but I get the impression that most of India has roughly the same moral values and laws as were normal in the West in the 1950's - with the middle, upper and educated classes being somewhat more flexible. Radical new experiments in relationships and mores can still be prone to scandal and censure. But at the same time, the East tends to perceive the West as far looser than it really is. I believe that is because the internet selectively filters and distorts the reality. Also, films made in the West exaggerate pathological dysfunctions (make them appear as though normal) because conflicts and high emotions work as commercially successful plot devices.Although this site is about 95% American, there are a sprinkling of others here too - for instance, a moderate but devout Muslim Sufi who lives in London and is thoroughly British, a...    less
    in Are the services of sperm banks available only to married couples, or also to single women desirous of motherhood? February 13, 2019 10:51 PM MST 1
    This post was edited by Nom de Plume at February 13, 2019 10:51 PM MST
  • If you're asking from India - you would know the answers for you...  moreIf you're asking from India - you would know the answers for your country best. I'm guessing that in India donor sperm would only be legal for married couples.Correct me if I'm wrong but I get the impression that most of India has roughly the same moral values and laws as were normal in the West in the 1950's - with the middle, upper and educated classes being somewhat more flexible. Radical new experiments in relationships and mores can still be prone to scandal and censure. But at the same time, the East tends to perceive the West as far looser than it really is. I believe that is because the internet selectively filters and distorts the reality, but also films exaggerate dysfunction because conflicts and high emotions work as commercially successful plot devices.Although this site is about 95% American, there are a sprinkling of others here too - for instance, moderate but devout Muslim Sufi who lives in London and is thoroughly British, a couple of very open minded Danes living in Denmark, a Serb who li...    less
    in Are the services of sperm banks available only to married couples, or also to single women desirous of motherhood? February 13, 2019 10:51 PM MST 2
  • A couple of times - many years ago.The barbs made me think; I re...  moreA couple of times - many years ago.The barbs made me think; I realised I needed to make changes. I did and they worked.  
    in Have you ever been the target of hurtful barbs owing to the nature of your relationship? February 13, 2019 10:40 PM MST 2
  • I looked them up.It said that they don't usually make good pets ...  moreI looked them up.It said that they don't usually make good pets because, despite being genetically little different to wolves, they never form social packs or bonds and prefer to lead independent lives.Wolves, on the other hand, can make excellent pets given the right environment and care - loyal, loving, hardy good health, energetic and intelligent.  
    in Wht about coyotes? Can you tame them and make them nice pets? February 13, 2019 10:37 PM MST 0
  • Ha ha! No.Our script is the same as yours.Our spelling, punctuat...  moreHa ha! No.Our script is the same as yours.Our spelling, punctuation and grammar follow the English.Apart from accents, we have many variations in pronunciation, vocabulary and idiom.Main differences include:metric versus imperial measures,opposite seasons of the years,vastly different ecologies and geographies,many subtle differences in cultures and values,time zones roughly 16 hours ahead of yours - hence for us Valentine's day is now nearing sunset while yours has not yet begun,generally about 5% further left in politics and 20% less inclined to be religious,generally much less prudish and more matter of fact about sexual matters,more diplomatic and polite but in a casual guise, anddiffering senses of humour, much more akin to the British.  less
    in Is this how Australians write Australia? February 13, 2019 10:32 PM MST 1
  • Have never been in a relationship with a younger manand would ne...  moreHave never been in a relationship with a younger manand would never want to be.I could not bear the immaturity of mind and heart.  
    in Girls: If you're in a relationship with a much younger man, do you find it awkward to be amidst his much younger group of friends? February 13, 2019 10:19 PM MST 3
  • It varies depending on the woman.
    in How strong would an unwed mother's maternal feelings be towards her unplanned child born out of wedlock if the father has deserted them? February 13, 2019 10:17 PM MST 3
  • I've been acquainted with three single women who used sperm bank...  moreI've been acquainted with three single women who used sperm banks so they could become mothers.The donors were screened for potential genetic and health issues - but I reckon some important details could slip through unnoticed.The catalogues listed the characteristics of the donors but withheld their identities.The births were successful, each of the mothers enjoyed being a mother.Personally, I don't think it is an ideal situation. One of the challenges was to earn a living, pay for child care, be available to meet the child's needs at all other times - virtually sacrificing all other aspects of life until the child was old enough to leave home. The only children did not learn how to share, how to deal with family relationships, and acquired many of the mothers' dysfunctional traits.One reacted in the opposite direction by becoming ultra-conservative.Each of these women were "difficult" and therefore unable to create and maintain a stable and functional relationship with a partner or co-parent.I believ...    less
    in Are the services of sperm banks available only to married couples, or also to single women desirous of motherhood? February 13, 2019 10:15 PM MST 2
  • Too much on my timetable to be thinking about Easter yet.No doub...  moreToo much on my timetable to be thinking about Easter yet.No doubt when it comes there will, as usual, be far too much needing to be done, and I'll manage to accomplish only about 5% of it.  
    in Ok. Enough about V-day. Are you looking forward to EASTER yet? SO EXCITING. February 13, 2019 10:02 PM MST 3
    This post was edited by Nom de Plume at February 13, 2019 10:02 PM MST
  • Most cheeses made in accord with their original traditions.Love ...  moreMost cheeses made in accord with their original traditions.Love them at room temperature and preferably ripe.My ideal, a board of five: a blue, a soft inoculated, a hard aged or smoked, a cottage or a fancy, and a goat's or sheep's, (no need for butter)with a dark whole meal rye bread and chopped fresh parsley - served as the 3rd part of a multi-course lunch, the way they do it in France.Loathe the mass produced ones like Kraft cheddar or Philadelphia cream.  
    in Okay, enough about any holidays who likes cheese and what kind? February 13, 2019 10:00 PM MST 3
  • Thanks, JA. I don't have netflix.I'm an Aussie, so my "hist...  moreThanks, JA. I don't have netflix.I'm an Aussie, so my "history" of  America and South America is limited to sketchy summaries from high school days - which qualifies for the dummy category.If I understand it correctly, the Native Americans, both North and South, had complex societies and were highly territorial; they would never have permitted those outside their tribes or nations to settle on their land on mass. Though they might have used some as slaves, married some, and accepted some as traders and diplomats.If I understand the conquistadors, they were after land, minerals (esp. gold), power and the spread of Christianity. I've seen a few documentaries of the archeology and history - waves upon waves of abominations of cruelty - but I think there are few groups of people who have never committed atrocities at some point in their histories. It seems all of us are prone to pathologies if sufficiently twisted by upbringing.It seems most muggers, liberal or conservative, agree with the idea that migran...    less
    in New Democratic darling AOC* says "Latinos should not be subject to immigration laws because they are native people" A good legal argument? February 13, 2019 5:45 PM MST 1
  • Commiserations.One in five women lose their mojo at menopause.Th...  moreCommiserations.One in five women lose their mojo at menopause.The Zone losses its elasticity; pressure and stretching can cause unbearable pain, take a long time to heal, and make walking painful afterwards. The Bartholins Gland shuts down, no more juices - also causes pain.Please, if it's humanly possible to forgive her, do.The alternative choices are neither easy nor satisfactory - and have high prices attached to them. For instance, HRT is only possible because mares are kept permanently pregnant in tiny stalls where they can't move in order to harvest their pee. The foals are killed at birth because they can't survive without the mare's colostrum in her first milk.Better to abandon sex than cause other sentient beings to suffer for one's own pleasure.Yet such a woman still needs love on a psychological level. Can be a very tricky time to negotiate and a lot of couple don't succeed.For Ari and I it was a very difficult transition - took about twelve years to work out how to adjust.I wish there was a...    less
    in When was the last time it was your time of the month. Men may answer as well. We all know you guys have them too. February 12, 2019 6:53 PM MST 1
  • Happy.The long term effects of a shutdown can only be terrible, ...  moreHappy.The long term effects of a shutdown can only be terrible, both for the public servants and their finances and families,and for the welfare of the general public who need those services.Without them, the USA would soon become like a third world country.  
    in Are you happy that a deal was reached to avert another federal government shutdown? February 12, 2019 6:44 PM MST 2
  • Of course!Psychologists estimate that narcissism is common - abo...  moreOf course!Psychologists estimate that narcissism is common - about 1 in 20 people - although degree of severity varies.Then -  the heartland of the most conservative of Republicans is estimated to be about 30-40% of the US population.Make a subset of those who are both Narcissistic and ultra-loyal Republicans and you still have a very large group - probably clustered in specific areas.But then try to select only those born into wealth, who have subsequently been successful in acquiring extreme wealth - well, there's only a very few of those. And yes, their behaviour would always be identical to spoiled brats. Too much money can give people the illusion that they can buy or coerce anything - and when they discover that they can't always get their way, they tend to chuck temper tantrums.  less
    in Does life have its share of spoiled brats like Tronald Dump? February 12, 2019 6:39 PM MST 1
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  • Maybe.On the whole I don't like the commercialisation of things ...  moreMaybe.On the whole I don't like the commercialisation of things that should centre on love (of any kind.)But it happens that Ari and I are in a really good space together at the moment.Tomorrow, we'll see a good art movie together, take a long walk on the beach, probably have a swim in the estuary, and later share a meal at a local Vietnamese restaurant.Probably there'll be zero romance - he's not that type and hasn't much mojo -but there will be a deep and contented enjoyment of companionship, friendship, good will.  less
    in What's a good song about love between friends or to send to a friend on Valentine's Day? February 12, 2019 5:47 PM MST 1
  • Not for me.Flies don't have the traits I need in a pet.
    in Do you think that flies could make good pets? February 12, 2019 5:37 PM MST 2
  • Not for me.Flies don't have the traits I need in a pet.
    in Do you think that flies could make good pets? February 12, 2019 5:37 PM MST 3
  • Never - and that is certain.I've left and re-joined several times.
    in How long do you think it would be before people missed you on the Mug and began asking after you... . February 12, 2019 5:36 PM MST 8
  • Hi Sharonna,I had the same realisation this last weekend.It help...  moreHi Sharonna,I had the same realisation this last weekend.It helps to write a much better book if the writer can transcend his or her ego.Tricky think to achieve - leaving the "I" out of it - especially if writing from the first person singular point of view.I suspect the key to achieving it is via the same method as with all meditation:forget ambitions, kudos, how others might judge you via the work, etc,instead focus on the topic, what needs to be communicated and the quality of the language,let the style evolve naturally as an off-shoot of the ways you think: don't try to invent or force it,if it's fiction, learn about plot, character, setting, theme, dialogue and verisimilitude,if it's non-fiction check and double check every fact from reliable sources.Writing quickly and easily becomes a focused concentration meditation - it flows.Writing as an occupation has occupational hazards: isolation, being cut off from life and experiences, lack of heterogenous mental exchanges with othersthe risks of being too ...    less
    in I think maybe I am supposed to write a book. Agaisnt all odds, I do not have cancer. I am supposed to write "What If I had lived?" February 12, 2019 5:31 PM MST 2
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  • Anyone can write a book.There's a man in our area who is a dog w...  moreAnyone can write a book.There's a man in our area who is a dog whisperer.From a tragic family background, poor in Glasgow, Scotland, alcoholic and violent parents, he ran away from home at nine years old. He squatted in a deserted warehouse and joined up with a pack of abandoned dogs. He got a job as a cleaner at an abattoir and brought home offal to the dogs - which meant he soon became "best hunter" and top dog in his pack. He learned dog body language, pack behaviours and hierarchy and learned how to teach and train them.But from age nine he did not go to school - so grew up almost illiterate.He now earns his living as someone who can solve any problem between dogs and their owners.He dictated his story and methods into a recorder, then paid a typist to transcribe his words and an editor patch up the grammar.His book on his life and how best to train dogs is now a best seller; it touches the heart and it has hugely helped many thousands of dog owners.Writing a book is not hard - but there are billions of book...    less
    in I think maybe I am supposed to write a book. Agaisnt all odds, I do not have cancer. I am supposed to write "What If I had lived?" February 12, 2019 5:16 PM MST 1
    This post was edited by Nom de Plume at February 12, 2019 5:16 PM MST
  • I see it as mostly a kind of jingoistic propaganda, used partly ...  moreI see it as mostly a kind of jingoistic propaganda, used partly by govt and often by advertising.If it's that fancy materialistic life we often see in movies - no thanks - I pass - I could not bear that lifestyle.But it could also be the some total of all the ideals of each American - what a confusing hotch-potch that would be.Or it could be a humanitarian ideal - the hope for what humanity at it's best can strive to create - with benefits deriving from exploration of what works and what doesn't. The greater the communal effort, the better the outcomes.It could also, if it chose, incorpaorate ecological ideals for the survival and health of the planet - and work towards them.  less
    in What does the American dream mean to you? February 12, 2019 4:57 PM MST 1
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    On Art & Bogunism    (The meaning of the word "bogun" is embedded further down in the text.) An acquaintance recently sent me a series of YouTube clips - he called them rants - by Brian Holdsworth on the topic of art.He said he agreed with the views expressed.Considering that I was a sc...

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