Some hate those their gubment orders them to hate or their family/friends. Are they so braindead they cannot think for themselves?

You evidently live in Stalinist Russia or maybe you got caught on the wrong side of the Iron Curtain.

If their health and well-being and existence is dependent on the government then they are obliged to do what they are told to do.  Only if we are able to live on our own faculties and by our own labor and vision apart from a government can we start to think for ourselves.