Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» The NEEDIER you are the WEAKER you are. Strong people don't need anyone to validate them. The needy never stop needing. Do they?
Some people never mature; they retain a three-year-old's propensity for tantrums, attention seeking, magical thinking, projection, poor boundaries, amorality etc. or they get stuck at age 8, 13, 15 etc. I've never met an instance in which it wasn't due to dysfunctional parenting. We - society as a whole - tend to blame these types. We expect adults to learn their lessons. Yet when people come from seriously abusive backgrounds (not always visible on the surface) they are often the least able to afford therapy or know how to resolve their problems. Often they don't recognise what their problems are. They only know that they suffer.
But there are others with high needs for attention, such as severely mentally or physically disabled people, the very elderly, or people with dementia.
Consider the late Stephen Hawking. With cerebral palsy, he had some of the highest needs any living person could have, yet he had one of the strongest characters in terms of courage, kindness and ethics, and was one of humanity's greatest and most original minds.
This post was edited by inky at June 7, 2019 11:14 AM MDT
You are correct about Stephen Hawking, but his needs were due to his extreme physical limitations, not because he mentally needed people to continually tell him how wonderful he was. Naturally, those with physical/mental challenges will need help for much of their lives, but those who have been raised in homes where affection and approval are withheld will likely grow up with the mental need for constant affirmation.
Ca vas san dire bw. Of course that is true. Some people have GREAT PERMANENT physical needs o be cared for until they die. That has zero to do with my question. I would never call a Dr. Hawking "needy". For me when I say NEEDY it is a pejorative. It means the "needy" is a seedy selfish self-absorbed infantile homo sap. The sb prez is the prime example of NEEDY. In the strictest sense of manufactured fake phony "need". I should think you would realize that. However it well may be that you do and you just wanted to point out that some people require a lot of care due to circumstances over which they have no control. But once again I would never use the word NEEDY to describe them. Got it? Thank you for your thoughtful reply.
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