Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» I expect we've all received compliments from time to time about one thing or another. Which compliment do you treasure most? Why?
Compliments actually make me uncomfortable. I don't like having attention focused on me ... especially if it's something I'm supposed to be doing, like my job. That's not saying I want them to take me for granted - just that they don't have to "make it a big deal". And if they think it's worth praise - I'd rather have a monetary reward, than verbal praise.
We differ on this Walt bigly. You value money and I don't. Except for having enough to meet my needs and a few wants money is of zero value to me. But someone's kindness in finding something of value in me enough to share it with me? That is priceless. There isn't enough money in the world to beat that. Compliments don't make me uncomfortable. They make feel appreciated, valued, noticed. Years ago a member on Answerbag told me one of the saddest things I've ever heard in my entire life. She said that when someone compliments her she thinks they want something from her and are softening her up for the kill. I told her I thought that was deplorable! She was convicting people of things about which she was commpletelyh ignorant. I take people at face value. I don't flatter people. I compliment them about what I admire about them. I do it all the time everywhere. If I thought folks were like her and believed I wanted something from them enough to lie to them I would be crushed. See that's how different folks are. Vastly. Organiically. Completely. I have complimtend you in the past. I won't any more now that I know you'd rather I pay you than praise you. I appreciate your honesty but I am disappointed. Thank you for your reply Walt.
Of all the compliments I've received over the years (sincere and otherwise) the one that stuck with me the most was given by a young woman who, through heavy tears, said, "you're a good friend". I'd helped her avoid what would have been a very nasty divorce.
Walt O'Reagun 