Is it harder for you to abandon someone or to be abandoned by someone? Why?

When you abandon someone at least you know the reason, when they abandon you, you may not know why.

It's harder to be abandoned, because there's usually no explanation. It's happened too many times now. 

Rosie, I think I will nominate you for Answermug's First Annual Best Questions of the Year Award.

And to answer your question, I'd say to be abandoned by someone because often times you're left in the dark as to their reasons so it leaves a lot of unanswered questions. 

I have experienced it more than once in my life as well and you are absolutely right. No explanation is the hardest part. Maybe because the abandoners have none to offer. I dunno lovely. T'is a puzzlement! Thank you for your reply and Happy US Labor Day Monday! :)

((hugs)) That is such a fine compliment!  Your reply is precisely what lovely  warped lemon said and with which I concur PC.  They're there and then they're gone. No explanation. That's the hardest part  of it for me too. And if they did tell how do you know it would be the truth? Thank you for your thoughtful reply and the compliment. :)

Hi Rosie, I guess it's like anything else.  You never really know what the truth is and what the fiction is.  But isn't it better than not knowing at all.  Because regardless of which it might be, it's like filling in the blanks and coming full circle.  The relationship had a beginning, it had a middle and now you have the end.  What better time to start a new chapter than when you're finally done with the last.  Then it never has to be revisited again.

I dunno know if being told a lie is better than silence. It could be misdirection.  I guess it doesn't really  matter why except to appease one's curiosity. It doesn't change anything. If the reason is something that could have been dealt with had the person brought it up  and given you a chance to respond then it would indeed be meaningful. But to cut you off/abandon you without notice or warning can never be forgiven or undone so what difference does it make? The person didn't think enough of you to  confront you with whatever the problem was and give you a chance to tell your side. No one can like knowing that. So maybe "slam/bam/thank you m'am" is best . Sorry for that example but it is what comes to mind and you know me..I say what's on my mind! :) 

i think they can both be equally hard