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My default mode is SERIOUS. What's yours?

I was told long ago that it is because I am the first born. If you are the first born in your family what's your default mode?

I was held up as an example to my "baby" sister and was told by my parents that I had to be a good role model for her. Whether that's why I am what I am today or not I cannot say. It's just what I was told. I can't shake serious. It is an automatic response to almost every situation. Serious. Are you serious too or is that a foreign land to you? It is a heavy burden and I don't recommend it to anyone.

Posted - August 12, 2019
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  • That is so interesting, Rosie and indeed I have heard those same speculations before about birth order and how it affects our mindset and default behaviors.  I too am a first born but my default mode has always been one of lightheartedness and occasional frivolity. 

    Though people such as this can often be dismissed as being flighty and shallow, I assure everyone I am very well educated and able to think deep thoughts.  I am reasonably good at completing tasks and am actually a bit of a control freak.  I like to be ordered and disciplined and am a very responsible person. 

    I love humor though.  Always have.  I love how laughter can heal and often diffuse heated situations.  I think a lot of it has to do with being Bi-polar and constantly having to battle depression in an effort to simply keep my head above water and stay alive sometimes.  I always try to embrace the happy.  "Simple Sillies" as I call them.  I need a few doses of it daily.  This way of being is compounded by also experiencing occasional manic highs which, though dangerous, feel so good.  Any attempt to avoid the heavier approaches to things helps to keep me closer to those high flying feelings.  Of course I do give notice to the more serious when necessary but I try not to dwell there. 

    Anyhow, I feel like I am rambling on.  Truth is I could discuss this topic all day.  Isn't it amazing Rosie, and even odd at times, how different we all are?  Each of us a a variant shade or tint of colour on a prismatic spectrum.  Wishing you all the best.  Hope you have a nice day, Rosie.
      August 12, 2019 3:36 AM MDT
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    Thank you for an exceedingly fine response to my question Twink. I appreciate that. I don't know what having something like a bi-polar condition to contend with is like. That must make things harder to balance out for you. I love to laugh. But when I am being very serious and someone makes light of it I am offended. It is dismissive and rude I think to use someone as a foil for one's sense of humor. I am a happy person by nature. I think that is because I have always been very grateful and appreciative of the good life I've led. I don't take it for granted. I despise those who ridicule the handicapped as Donald John Trump once did of a reporter who had some muscular conditions that caused his arms to flail about. People who make light of serious things usually do so for self-aggrandizement to show off to others how very clever they are. They don't have a clue that such response is very hurtful. No one wants to be made a fool of and that is what they always do. Perhaps not consciously  but subconsciously. I dunno know. I don't think you do that Twink. Happy Monday to you m'dear! :)
      August 12, 2019 3:56 AM MDT
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    I, too, am the first born and lean more towards serious than frivolous although on rare occasions, I do have a more fun side and I do have a sense of humor.  
      August 12, 2019 6:32 AM MDT
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