You know I have a pretty good imagination Shuhak but I cannot imagine my ever being able to do that. I would hope that I wouldn't harbor hate but hugging the instrument of my loss? I will never be that evolved. Thank you for your reply m'dear. Could you?
I don't know if I could or not. I'd like to think that I that I could. Unfortunately, the only "test" is having to go through it, and I hope that never happens (to anyone).
I've heard of this happening in other situations and each time I am stunned that anyone could be so forgiving. I would hope I would not spend the rest of my life HATING the instrument of my loss but to forgive to the extent of hugging? I am a hugger. Always have been. Always will be. But I guess I am limited. Do you think you could do it? I don't understand from an emotional standpoint how it is possible. Maybe one day I will. Thank you for your reply! :)
I did something similar many years ago---but sometimes it takes a very long time for one to recover from a loss. And I've always said that one should not forgive too soon because one must also "recover" from that loss.
You DID? Wow. Well that impresses me. I cannot conceive of any circumstance where I could do it. I applaud you. We all have strengths and weaknesses intellectually emotionally spiritually and physically. Being forgiving is not one of my strengths. I am not proud to say this but I cannot remember a time I forgave anyone for anything. I figger friends don't betray/screw you. Non-friends do. Who needs THEM? Sad I think but there it is. I don't give folks second chances. I figger if they did it once it will be easier for them to do it again. I don't want to take that chance. Thank you for your reply tom and Happy Saturday! :)
This post was edited by RosieG at October 6, 2019 6:56 AM MDT
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