Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» "Why can't they be like we were perfect in every way? What's the matter with kids today?" Wrong. The kids are great. Wassamatta with us?
Kids do what they're taught and what they see others do. "Kids these days" are not taught. Many parents seen to think that they should let a child learn things on their own, so they don't teach them right and wrong. The "I'm not going to do what my parents did to me" method.
Some think that a child is born thinking on a college level. It always amazed me to see a parent explain to a 4 year-old why he/she can't have a toy, or why they shouldn't scream in the store, as if the parent were a college professor (lengthy lectures and big words).
Some parents don't want to teach their children. They want schools to do it it for them. They think that schools should teach a child about sex, religion, the difference between right and wrong, how to be polite, (etc.), along with the "three R's".
Some parents are so busy trying to better themselves (making more money, having more and nicer things, etc.) that they have no time for their kids (I do NOT mean the ones who are working 3-4 job to barely make ends meet).
When kids are "bad", look to the parent. This isn't to say that kids cant go "bad" on their own, but usually it's due to something at home (neglect, poor/no teaching, unstable household, parent using drugs/alcohol, anger/abuse, etc.). If a child grows up thinking these things are the norm, they in turn will instil that onto their children (either by actions or lack of actions)... and on it goes, generation to generation.
I agree with every word Shuhak. I know you're shocked right? I'm sick and tired of having parents ignore their kids for 5-6 years and let the computer/TV babysit them until they go to school and then expect the teacher to perform MIRACLES! A kid's brain is fairly well formed at 3 and by age 6? Fuggeddabout? I taught my kid to read early and he got a library card when he was 3 years old. Yes he is very smart but so are a lot of others kid who would LOVE to learn how to read before they go to school. However you can't let the TV or computer games be their parents and that is what a bazillion very self-absorbed parents do. Pity. Thank you for your reply. Glad to have to back. Hope you aren't de-electricied again right away! :) That would be a bummer! :(
During the blackout, kids discovered other kids in their own neighborhood. There were 2 living in the same class at school, and yet didn't realize they lived 2 doors apart. Since Their phones didn't work and it was dark inside, they went outside to "play". Just goes to show how hooked on phones and computers kids are these days. (a plus side to the blackouts)
It is unfortunate---and tragic---that many parents do not realize that "parenting" is the most important job that they will ever have.
And while explanations to children should be age appropriate---both as to subject and method---there is some value to those explanations that seem to imply that parents assume children are capable of college level thinking.
It conveys to the child that the parents are willing to take some time to help a child to understand reality and by inference validate that there is something more to what is going on than what the child originally thought---and that builds positive expectations about the parents in the child's mind.
It is terrifying what passes for some parents these days. Let's start there. Parents who ARE kids. And I don't mean teen pregnancy. I mean idiots who had no plan for their lives and just spread their legs and wanted to see what happens. And then they have a houseful of kids and hate life and spread that boredom of life to their kids. Those people should be sterilized.
Kids are innocent victims and products of their parents who once were dysfunctional kids themselves. It is a vicious circle and cycle that will cost us the planet and certain death. Because this vicious cycle is what is determining the vote these days.
((hugs)) Couldn't have stated it better myself Sharon. So many parents shouldn't be but it's not something you correct or do over. Shame on them. Thank you for your reply. Shuhak wrote a very detailed response and I betcha you agree with every word! :(
I remember a Dr Phil show in which the guests were young parents. Dr. Phil's comment was that they did the best they could, but they didn't possess many parenting skills to begin with.
Exactly. How can you blame when the parents are victims themselves. I hate their behavior, but I cannot blame them. How can I? They had no chance, most of them.
Well, parents who were victims certainly have mitigating circumstances; but I expect any parent in their thirties to assume the responsibility of becoming good parents---there are far too many simple books available to parents these days for them to avoid gaining the knowledge necessary to parent properly.
Shuhak 